Abathathi-ndlu basetyhini-le nto yinto eqhelekileyo. Ibhinqa lihlala lifihla ukuba umyeni wakhe ungumtyholi, kodwa ufuna ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo ukuze wazi indlela yokuziphatha naye.
Unokumelana njani nendoda - umtyholi kunye nomlondolozi?
Umtyholi unomdla, unesigxina samandla kunye nokuxhomekeka kwintlawulo yabanye abantu. Akakwazi ukubeka phambili kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kodwa xa ucima ukoma kwakho kwamandla emsebenzini, ayisebenzi, uqala 'ukwakha' indlu. Nabani na umfazi ophetha ukuba umyeni wakhe ungumtyholi , umntu kufuneka aphendule umbuzo wendlela yokuhlala naye.
Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba zilandele imithetho ethile eya kunceda ukumelana nomyeni onobushushu:
- Omnye kufuneka amkele into yokuba umyeni ungumtyholi kunye nomlondolozi, akunakuncedo ukuyibuyisela kwakhona, kuya kubangela ukuvutha komsindo;
- umntu akafanele axolele ukungahloneli komyeni wakhe nogonyamelo, kufuneka ahlwaywe, atyanzelwe ukuba azibale yena, kwaye ukuba impendulo iyabetha - kuyimfuneko ukuba inxalenye yaloo myeni;
- kufuneka ugcine isondo sakho sentlalo, nokuba ngaba izalamane kunye nabahlobo bomlingane bengawuthandi umyeni wakho, ngaba ngaba bantu besimo esinzima esinokuba inkxaso nenkxaso;
- kuyimfuneko ukwazi inombolo yocingo yenkonzo yentlalo ukwenzela ukuba ufumane ngokukhawuleza iingcebiso zeengqondo zengqondo ukuba zilahlekise iimvakalelo ezimbi kwaye zixazulule iingxabano.
Ngaba umyeni onobuntshatshazi uyanyamezela okanye ulahla?
Kungekudala okanye kamva, nawuphi na umfazi womtyholi uyazibuza ukuba uya kumnyamezela okanye aqhawule umtshato. Ibhunga lehlabathi jikelele kule nto ayikwazi kuba, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba, nangona iimeko ezinyanyekayo zomyeni wakhe, zikhona iimvakalelo ezifudumele kunye neemkumbulo phakathi kwabatshatileyo.
Ukongezelela, kukho ezinye izizathu zokulondoloza intsapho, ekufuneka ithathelwe ingqalelo. Okokuqala, kubakho kubantwana. Phantse nawuphi na umzekelo, utata uya kuba ngcono ukubonelela intsapho kunomama omnye. Enye into ebalulekileyo yimeko yowesifazane otshatileyo, ongeyena onke amabhinqa anquma ukwenza inxenye.
Ungamlahla njani umlawuli wendoda yakhe?
Ukuba ubomi kunye nomtyholi kunye ne-manipulator abazange baxakeke, kuyimfuneko ukushiya kuyo. Ngenxa yokuba loo ndoda, inokwenzeka, ayiyi kuvumela umfazi ukuba ahambe ngokukhawuleza, ibhinqa kufuneka lilungele.
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko
Ngokukhawuleza, emva kwexesha elithile, umyeni wesibindi uqala ukuqonda iimpazamo zakhe kwaye ufuna ukuseka ubudlelwane kwaye abuyisele umfazi wakhe. Ibhinqa kule meko kufuneka ixhomekeke kwingqondo efanayo kunye namava. Mhlawumbi le ndoda yafunda into yokuba umfazi wakhe akayi kuvumela ukuba akhathazeke kwaye unokunika ithuba lesibini.