Akusiyo imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuba ukubunjwa komntu opheleleyo kumntwana kuxhomekeke ekukhuliseni. Kwaye xa abazali babo bebeka amandla abo kunye neengqalelo kumntwana, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kukhula abe ngumntu ohloniphekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngamaxesha onke, abazali baye benza, kwaye baya kwenza, benze iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo. Isizathu apha apha sisenokungabikho kwexesha, kunye neengcamango ezingalunganga, ezathi zafakwa kuthi sisizukulwana esikudala. Ngoko ziziphi iimpawu zemfundo yentsapho? Masizihlalutye kwaye sizikhumbule ukuze singaphindaphindi iimpazamo zabanye.
Iingxaki Zemfundo Yentsapho
Masiqale ngeengcamango eziphosakeleyo ezikhokela abazali abaninzi. Impazamo yemfundo yentsapho iyona mpendulo ephakamileyo kumbuzo othi kutheni umntwana okhulile, kubonakala ngathi, kwintsapho efanelekileyo, ayilindelekanga ukulindela kunye nokuxhalaba kwabazali abaxabana ngezandla. Ngoko, makhe sijonge ngokuqhelekileyo kubo:
- Ukungaqondi kakuhle umntu nomntu wakhe. Ukuba, umzekelo, umntwana uhlalutya ngohlobo lomntu, uya kwenza konke ngokukhawuleza nangokukhawuleza. Kule meko, unina, oneminyaka engama-choleric, uya kucasulwa, ambize ngokuthi "ukukhupha", njl njl.
- Ukulahlwa. Isimo esinjalo sinokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wayengafuni okanye wazalwa "ngesondo" esingafuni abazali. Kule meko, abazali abawamukeli umntwana kunye nobuntu bakhe. Isimo sengqondo kuye sinokuvuma (ukunganaki). Kwakhona, ukuchaswa kubonakaliswe kwinto yokuba umntwana unikwe izihlobo okanye umnxeba wemfundo, ukuthintela ukubunjwa okufanelekileyo kwesithintelo sengqondo.
- Ukungafani phakathi kokulindela kwabazali ukuba ngubani oba ngumntwana. Iphutha eliqhelekileyo: "Ndiyathanda", "KUYA KUBA kunjalo kwaye". Kule meko, iimpawu zomntu ngamnye zinyanzeliswa kwaye zikhutshwe.
- Impembelelo. Ibonakaliswa ekutshitsheni kumntwana wokunganeliseki, ukucaphuka, ukukhala. Abazali abaninzi baphakamisa izwi labo, ngakumbi umntwana unelisekile okanye ngokunyanisekileyo.
- Ukuxhalabisa kukukhathazeka okungenasidingo kumntwana, i-hyperope. Ikhokelela ekunciphiseni ukuzimela komntwana, ukukhusela kwizinto ezibizwa ngokuba yiengozi kunye nobunzima ebomini. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana uya kukhula engakhuselekanga kunye noxhomekeke kuye.
- Ukugqwesa - kubonakaliswa ngomnqweno wokuthobela umntwana ngentando yakhe, imfuno yokungqinelana ngokungenammiselo, ukulawula rhoqo kwizenzo zakhe. Kwakhona kubonakala izigwebo zomzimba kunye nokuziphatha ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakuhle. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana ukhula kwaye abe nomsindo. Ukuhlonipha abazali ngokuqhelekileyo kufakwe indawo yentswelo yokwesaba kwabo.
Imithetho eqhelekileyo yokukhuliswa kwentsapho yomntwana ayifumanga loo mpazamo. Musa ukulibala ukuba intsapho epheleleyo ikhona kubazali ababini, elowo luzisa into entsha kwaye iluncedo kubomi bomntwana. Indima yomama kwimfundo yentsapho yamukelwa ngumntwana kunye noluntu lwakhe, ukhuseleko lwempilo yakhe, kokuziphatha nokuziphatha. Nantoni na eyenzekayo ebomini bomntu okhulayo, umama kufuneka ahlale enika inkxaso kunye nokwabelana ngomdla kumntwana wakhe. Inxaxheba kayise kwimfundo yentsapho ibalulekile. Kumele anikezele loo bantwana ngenjongo yokukhuseleko. Utata ngumntu onesithixo somntwana kunye nomzekelo wokulingisa. Kwabancinci, oku kudla ngokuba ngumntu wamandla kunye nobukhulu bomntu, ngoko ke igunya likapapa akumele libuzwe. Ezi zezi siseko zemfundo yentsapho. Kodwa olo lwazi alunelanga ukuba umntwana wakho akhule ubuntu obaneleyo.
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Ukufumana uphuhliso oluhambelana nomntwana lungasebenzisa iindlela eziqhelekileyo nezibonakalisiweyo zemfundo yentsapho:
- ukuthintela - ukubunjwa kumntwana wesimo sokuvumelanisa neemfuno ezinikezelwe kuye ngeengcebiso, isiluleko kunye nenkcazelo;
- isikhuthazo - ukusetyenziswa kweendumiso okanye izipho ukuvusa umnqweno womntwana wokwakha iimpawu ezithile kunye neepropati;
- ukunyanzeliswa (isohlwayo) - ukusetyenziswa kweemali ezingangcolisi isithunzi somntwana ukwenzela ukudala ukungavumi
izenzo kunye nezenzo; - Umsebenzi odibeneyo - inxaxheba yabazali bobabini kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yemfundo. Umzekelo, ukuhamba ngokubambisana kwi-zoo, iimyuziyamu okanye uhambo oludibeneyo kwindalo.
I-psychology yemfundo yentsapho kwisibini ngasinye esitshatileyo sodwa. Ukuba unentsapho ekhonza njengomzekelo kunye nomzekelo wokuphuhliswa komntwana, unganqikazi ukubuza ukuba imfundo yentsapho yakhiwe kuyo. Kwimeko nayiphi na, nayiphi na indlela, iimfihlelo kunye nemithetho oyisebenzisayo - kufuneka ibe yinto yokusetyenziswa kuphela. Into ephambili kukuba umntwana wakho akhulele kwimeko yokuthandana kunye nokuqonda.