Ukwaziyo okungafunekanga okungaqinisekanga akuzange kuqhutywe? Nangona intombazana iqinisekile ukuba imthanda kakhulu umfana, ukuba babe nexesha elikhulu kwaye bathetha ngomsindo ofanayo, kungekhona into yokuba loo mntu uya kubiza, kwaye ukuba akwenzanga ngokwenene, kunokuba newaka kunye nesizathu esinye sale nto.
Kutheni ifowuni ithe cwaka?
Ukuba umntu akabizi emva komhla wokuqala, ke yena:
- ayengachukumiswanga, oko kukuthi, ngamanye amazwi, wayengayithandi intombazana;
- zithoba kwaye zatshitshiswa endaweni, kodwa zinoyika kwaye zihlazo;
- uyazihlawula intlawulo. Ewe, kukho nezinye iimpawu ezidlala kunye namantombazana, njengekati ene mouse;
- ayikho into ekhululekile, esele ibudlelane nomnye intombazana;
- ufuna nje ukuzinika ixesha lokulungisa iimvakalelo zakho;
- akafuni ukutshintsha. Ubomi bakhe bunzulu kangangokuthi akalungele ukuchitha ixesha kumlingani osisigxina;
- uthatha unogxa esibhedlele, wuleza waya kwelinye idolophu ukuba abhalise ilifa, oko kukuthi, kwakukho uhlobo oluthile lomkhosi omkhulu;
- ndandingazange ndicinge ngento.
Ewe, ukuba umntu akabizi kwaye akabhali, ke intombazana ngokwayo isigqibo sokuba yenze njani kwaye ingaba ifowuni kuqala. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba umntu kufuneka aziqhenyce kwaye azihlonele, kuba ukuba uthe wabonisa umdla ngokukhawuleza, unokucacisa ukuba le ntombazana ifikeleleke kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu wayeka ukukhala, kodwa indlela yokuziphatha ngayo, intombazana ayayazi, ngoko sinokunika ixesha lokucinga-kokubili kuye nakwiye. Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, abafazi balwa ngokunyanisekileyo ngamalungelo alinganayo kunye nabalingani, okwakubangelwa kwesi siphumo: amadoda ayeka ukucinga ngokunyamekela izenzo ezenziwa ngabasetyhini into eqhelekileyo, kodwa iimvakalelo zabo nazo zaphela.
Ngako oko, ndibuza ukuba kutheni umntu ayeke ukubiza nokubhala, ungaboni naziphi na iziphoso kuye. Akunakwenzeka, kodwa umfana ucinga ukuba ibhinqa kufuneka lihlale likulungele ukutshintshwa kweziganeko ngaphandle kwesizathu.