Umntwana osemncinci kumakhwenkwe

Ixesha lesigxina luvavanyo olunzulu lwabantwana kunye nabazali. Abokugqibela bakhumbula ngosizi oluqaqambileyo iintsuku xa amehlo abo amangalisayo avuyiswa ngonwabo kwaye adidekile, kunokuba aphinde awamkholise umntwana wabo okhulileyo. Enyanisweni, i-psychology of adolescence, kokubini kumakhwenkwe namantombazana, kukuba abantu abadala bafanele baxhomekeke kwiimvakalelo zengqondo zomntwana kwaye benze konke okusemandleni abo ukuze bafumane indlela, ukuze bangakwazi ukulawula ukulawula "abantwana abazimele". Kakade, abantu abadala kufuneka babe nesineke, kunye nesithunzi sokusinda ubunzima bexeshana. Emva koko, kwiimeko ezininzi, xa ubudala benkwenkwe yabafana bephelile, bayaziqhayisa ngokuqonda ukuba bekhulile indoda yangempela.

I-Psychology yobutsha kubafana

Ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho kunye nokungaqondani kuye kwaba ngumkhwa, umntwana uyalahla ukuphulaphula iingcebiso kunye neemfuno, uyayigatya izifundo - oku kuthetha ukuba wangena kwisigaba sobuntwa obukhulu. Ngoko iyingqungquthela kwimvelo yokuba abantwana abaselula banamakhanda amaninzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo oogxa beli xesha ba:

• ngqu zulwano;
• Isizathu esibuhlungu sokulondeka kunye nobutshaba ngabanye;
• ukuzithoba;
• ukungafuni ukubala kunye nemibono yabantu abadala;
• ukuvela kobudlova ekuphenduleni ukugxeka nokulawula;
• inkani;
• Ukuhlaziywa kwemilinganiselo kunye nezinto eziphambili: ukubaluleka ekufikeni kwentsha kufumaneka ngolwalamano phakathi kwamantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe, kwaye ubuhlobo boontanga buya phambili;
• inomdla wokufunda iyaphela.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezi zilapha zilapha ziqhelekileyo, kwaye ulutsha lubonakalisa ngee-degrees ezahlukeneyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ezininzi iingxaki ezisemgangathweni ziyakunqandwa ukuba ngaba abazali bakwazi ukusekwa kwangaphambili kunye nomntwana wabo onobungane ubudlelwane bokholo kunye nokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo, kuxhomekeke kwimeko.

Iminyaka yobudala emakhwenkwe - yile minyaka emininzi?

Iingcali zengqondo azikhuthazi, ziphendule umbuzo wokuba iminyaka emininzi iminyaka ibonisa ukuba abafana bahlala ixesha elide. Abantu abaqala ukuguqulwa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, bayazibona, ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana ephendukela kwiminyaka eyi-10 ubudala, kunye neminyaka eyi-17 kuphela kunokuqwalaselwa ukuba i-crisis of age transition iphelile. Ixesha elininzi lokuvakalelwa lixesha eliphakathi kwe-12 ukuya kwe-14 leminyaka.