Lo mbuzo, ngokwenene, unomdla kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, unomdla kakhulu kuwe. Njengoko abafazi baziwa ngokuba bathanda ngeendlebe zabo, kwaye ngenxa yolu thando lwabo, bahlala beqhayisa kunye neengxoxo ezilula sisamkela ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo.
Kodwa indlela yokuqonda ngokuqinisekileyo uyithanda umfana? Ewe, ngokwemvelo, indlela eqinisekileyo yokubuza malunga nayo. Ewe, ewe, njengoko kubhaliwe. Hamba ubuze umbuzo ebunzini. Emva kwakho konke, ngaphandle kwakhe, akukho mntu u-100% ongatsho ukuba ulungile okanye awukho. Kodwa ingxaki, akubona bonke abafana abakulungele ukuvuma iimvakalelo zabo. Kwaye abanye, kwaye ngokubanzi, ukusuka kumbuzo onjalo banokuba neentloni kwaye bathetha ngokungafaniyo noko bakuvakalelwa.
Ndingayiqonda njani ukuba uyandithanda?
Kwaye safika kwakhona apho saqala khona. Umntu unesipho sokuthetha, kodwa akukho nto ebalulekileyo kwaye inentsingiselo yolwimi lwezenzo. Nguye oya kusinceda ukuba sithole into esiyintloni okanye sinoyiko lokusebenzisa ulwimi oluqhelekileyo.
Okokuqala, thobela ingqwalasela yakhe. Kwinqanaba elincinane, umfana uya kufikelela kuwe. Uya kuzama ukusondela, xa uthetha into ethile, ukugoba okuncinci, njengokungathi ukuphulaphule into oyithethayo. Akayi kubuyisa umqolo wakhe kuwe. Yaye, into enomdla, iya kufana nokukopisha imiqondiso yakho. Ukuba ubeka izandla zakho ezinqeni okanye uzibeke phambi kwakho, ngexesha elifutshane liza kwenza okufanayo. Musa ukucaphuka, akaphindi ngokuphanga. Oku kwenzekayo kwinqanaba elincinci.
Ungayiqonda njani enye into yokuba uyayithanda umfana? E mehlweni. Kunoko kwimbono. Emva kwakho konke, njengokuba uyazi, amehlo awububuko bomphefumlo. Khangela indlela umfana ebheka ngayo, ngoku, njengamanye amantombazana. U qaphele? Yiloo nto. Ngenxa yokuthanda kwabo, abantu bahlala bejonga ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Zama ukubheka emehlweni akhe. Ukuba uyakuthanda, uya kuphinda aphendule amehlo akhe, okanye ngokuchaseneyo zama ukugcina amehlo akho.
Ukuqonda ukuba uyathanda umfana, hlalutya indlela izinto ezimi ngayo. Insizwa enokuxoxisana nawe ayiyi kuphinda ikhuphe ithuba lokukuchaphazela kwaye iyakrhoxisa isandla sayo xa ithaphazele ngengozi.
Zama nje ukuthetha naye, ngezihloko ezithile. Abaninzi bethu banengqondo yokuthintela nokungahambi kakuhle. Ngoko xa uthetha into yokububula kwakho, uhlazo luya kwanda. Ukuba umfana ulahleka umgca weengxoxo kunye nezikhubekiso, kukho ubukhulu obuphezulu ukuba awunamdla kuye. Ipesenteji enokwenzeka inyuke kakhulu xa ngaba bonke abahlobo babecinga ukuba banako ukuxhasa incoko.
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo amantombazana amancinci abuza umama kumama: "Uyiqonda njani ukuba uthanda inkwenkwe?". Kuphi abo abanokuzithemba baphendula ngokuthi: "Ukuba uyakudonsa kwii-pigtails, kwaye ulahle iinqwelo zeqhwa, ngoko uyakuthanda!" Kwaye kunjalo. Abameli bendoda bazama ukutsala ingqalelo kuzo zonke iindlela. Kuphela abantu abakhulileyo oku kubonakalayo,
Kukho enye indlela yokuqonda ukuba uyayithanda, kukuhlawula ingqalelo, nokuba ingaqala ukuthathwa yizinto ezikuthandayo. Abanye baze baye kwibala lokudansa nabathandekayo babo. Okanye, i-turnip ye-turnip iqala ukuphulaphula umculo. Ukuba kunjalo, ke oku kungumqondiso ocacileyo ukuba zonke iingcinga zakhe zihlala kuzo.
Kwaye uphawu oluthembekileyo nolungqinisisiweyo lweminyaka - laphula intliziyo yakho. Le nto ingcono yakho kumbuzo othi: "Uyayiqonda njani ukuba uthanda umntu?". Kwaye intliziyo ayiyi ku khohlisa.