Ukuba ngokukhawuleza uqaphele utshintsho oluphawulekayo ekuziphatheni komntu kwaye awuyikukuqonda, oku kungabonisa ukungabikho komntu, kodwa njani ukuchonga?
Imiqondiso yesipelo
Kukho imiqondiso emininzi eyahlukileyo ebonisa ubukho bentela, kodwa ezona ziqhelekileyo zi:
- Umntu unokulahlekelwa ngumnqweno oqhelekileyo, akanalo ukuthanda okanye amandla okukwenza nantoni na.
- Umntu uhlala ethetha kwaye ucinga malunga nokuba ngubani owenza isipelo, ecinga intsingiselo yobomi bakhe.
Indlela yokuchonga ukuba kukho ukupaka kwothando?
Ngoxa uncedo lweqanda lomkhuhlane
Le ndlela idala ngokwaneleyo, yayisetyenziswe ookhokho. Ukuze wenze isiko, kufuneka ube neqanda elitsha, umfanekiso womntu otyunyiwe kunye nesitya samanzi. Iqanda kufuneka lifakwe kwisithombeni kwaye lijikeleze ngokukhawuleza kwimizuzu emithathu. Emva koko, faka isithofu kufuphi nesitya, uze uphule iqanda ngeqayi uze uthele kwisitya. Ukuba iprotheni yahlala icocekile, ke akukho nhlobo yokuthanda. Ukuba iprotheni iyancipha kwaye inika iphunga elimnandi, oku kubonisa ubukho bentela.
Enye indlela yokumisela ukuthanda ukupasa umntu ngomncedi weqanda ukuwujikelezisa ngokusesikweni kwintloko yomntu onobumba, uze uyiphule kwisitya.
Ngoncedo lwe-wax
Le ndlela yindlela elula yokumisela ukuthanda upelo. Kuye udinga ikhandlela lebandla kunye nesitya samanzi acocekileyo. Ikhandlela kufuneka ichithwe kwaye ithululelwe kwisipuni. Ukuqhubeka kuyimfuneko kamva kwemizuzu emithathu. gcina i-spoon phambi komntu (isithombe), uze unyibilike phezu kwayo nayiphi na indawo yokushisa kwaye uthele kwisitya samanzi. Ukuba i-wax iye yaqina njengomfanekiso oqinileyo, ngoko akukho sipelo, ukuba lo mfanekiso unomfanekiso ongaqhelekanga ngamasebe ahlukeneyo, oku kubonisa ubukho bentela.
Qinisekisa ukuba upelo lwenziwa kwaye luzimeleyo, kuba ngenxa yale nto ungathatha isithombe sakho kwaye uqhube imizila engentla.