Umbuzo wendlela yokuthengisa umphefumlo kumtyholi udlalwa ngokubanzi kwiincwadi zehlabathi kunye nakwezobugcisa. Uyakhumbula izixhobo zokukhanya ezinjenge-movie "Ephuhliweyo yi-Desires" kunye nemisebenzi yeklasikhi, efana ne "Shagreen Leather" Honore de Balzac (apha umxholo udlalwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kodwa isitshixo sinye). Ihlabathi lenkcubeko liguqulela ngoluvo lokuba ukuba oku kunokwenzeka, imiphumo iya kuba yingozi kwaye iyonakalisa. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu abakholelwa ukuba kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuthengisa umphefumlo kuMtyholi ngomnqweno, kwaye banomdla kwiinkcukacha zale nyathelo.
Ungathengisa njani umphefumlo kumtyholi?
Indlela yokuthengisa umphefumlo kubantu "abanolwazi" ichazwa njengento enzima kakhulu, equka amanqanaba amanyathelo:
- Ekuqaleni, kufuneka udale isicelo, apho uchaza ingcamango yakho ukuthengisa umphefumlo kumtyholi ngemali.
- Emva koko kuyimfuneko ukulinda uMtyholi ukuba eze-yena, ngokusemthethweni, ephupheni, ngokukhawuleza kwindoda ede, indoda enxibileyo kwiingubo ezibizayo, ezenziwe yimpahla.
- Lo mlingani kufuneka ubeke phambili umniki-mpahla, kwaye "umdayisi" ukwenza inkontileka.
- Emva koko kufuneka ukuba ubhale irisidi, faka isignesha (kwimithombo ethile ichazwe ukuba isayinwa kufuneka ibhaliwe egazini).
Kubalulekile - injongo yokuthengisa umphefumlo kuloo mveliso kufuneka ibe yedwa, ngamanye amazwi, umphefumlo awukwazi ukuthengiswa ngenjongo yolonwabo komnye umntu. Le ndlela isebenza kuphela ngeemfuno eziphantsi, ezingaqhelekanga - ngaphandle koko uMtyholi angayenqaba.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuthengisa umphefumlo kumtyholi?
Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba uSathana ungumphikisi wendalo kaThixo, inkosi yobubi, iimfazwe kunye nazo zonke izinto ezimbi ezikhoyo emhlabeni. Ngoko ke, xa senza isivumelwano kunye nomntu onjalo, kunzima ukubala kwiqilima lakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo uzama ukuthatha umphefumlo womntu ngexesha elifutshane kakhulu, ngokubhekiselele kuwo, emva kokufumana irhafu, unokususa imiphumo eyahlukileyo eyahlukileyo:
- Emva kokuba nesityebi, umntu unokuba ngumntu olahlekileyo, ngoku ngoku awela kwiingozi kunye neengozi. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubomi babantu abathengisa imiphefumlo emva kokuba kuthengiselana neminyaka embalwa nje.
- Ukuze umtyholi afeze imbopheleleko yakhe enokholo oluhle, umntu unokudala ububi obukhulu kunokwenzeka emhlabeni (kodwa ungakulibali ukuba oku kuya kuchaswa yimikhosi yokukhanya, kwaye mhlawumbi awuyi kukwazi ukwandisa iminyaka yakho emhlabeni).
- Xa uthengisile umphefumlo wakho, umntu uya kulahlwa ukufuna abanye abantu abafuna ukuthengisa imiphefumlo - yile ndlela kuphela yokugcina ubunzima.
- Ngaphambi kokuba uthengise umphefumlo kuMtyholi ukufumana ubutyebi, bunzima yonke into njengoko kufanelekile - imiphumo yale nyathelo ayiyi kukhankanywa.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuthengisa umphefumlo kumtyholi?
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abanomdla ongenakonwaba okanye abakhathala yimali bafumana ingcamango yokuthengisa umphefumlo unomdla kakhulu. Ulibale ukuba umphefumlo awunabo kumntu, kwaye uyinxalenye yendalo yonke, kwaye unelungelo lokulahla kuphela umdali. Ayaziwa ukuba ngaba kukho iziganeko zokuzuza ngokwenene ubutyebi okanye uthando ngenxa yolu hlobo lomthengiso, kodwa iimiphumo eziyingozi njengoko kungenakwenzeka ukuba nabantwana abazele ngokomoya
Yona kanye imbono yokufumana iintsikelelo zezobomi, ukuthengisa okokuqala ekubambeni akuyinto ebalulekileyo yokubaluleka kokuqala, kubonakalisa umntu njengomntu obuthathaka, ongenakukwazi ukujongana nobunzima bebodwa, ekholelwa ukuba yonke into iya kuhamba njengaleyo. Ukucinga ngokuthengiswa komphefumlo, umntu uyavuma ukuba ubuthathaka kunye nokungabi nkululeko.
Esikhundleni sokucinga ngaloo ntengiso, kungcono ukuzitshintsha, ukuqonda ukuba wena ngokwakho ungumkhandi wesiphelo sakho kwaye unokukwenza ubomi bakho njengoko ufuna. Cela umqeqeshi oqeqeshiweyo ukuba uncede ukuba kubonakala ngathi awukwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo. Oku kuya kubonisa ngokucacileyo umphumo ukukhanya ngakumbi, ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle kwemiphumo emibi.