Naliphi na umama alandela ngokulandelelanayo nje isimo sempilo yengane yakhe, kodwa kunye nesantya sokuphuhliswa kwayo, ingakumbi kunyaka wokuqala wobomi. Kwaye oomama abanamava banomdla xa umntwana eqala ukuphendula egameni lakhe kunye nokwenza ntoni ukuba oku kungenzeki ngexesha. Eli nqaku liyakunceda uqonde le micimbi.
Ngabe abantwana kufuneka basabele njani kwigama labo?
Isibheno ngamagama siyinxalenye yentetho, ngoko usabele kwigama lomntwana kufuneka liqale kwangethuba lexesha elilungiselelwe ukubunjwa kwalo, xa libekwa ukuqonda okuphambili kwamagama ezinto, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ngexesha eliphakathi kweenyanga ezi-7 ukuya kwezi-10. Nangona oninzi oomama bayaphawula ukuba umntwana usabela njani ngegama lakhe ezinyangeni ezingama-6, kodwa kungenjalo, unokusabela nje kumagama kamama. Kodwa musa ukuvakala i-alamu ukuba ayenzeki ngexesha elichaziweyo, njengoko umntwana ngamnye ehluke kwabanye abantwana kwaye ekhula ngokwezicwangciso zabo. Emva koko, kukho abantwana abaye bathetha ngamagama ambalwa ngeenyanga ezili-10, kwaye zikhona-eziqala ukuthetha kuphela iminyaka emi-2.
Izizathu ezinokwenzeka zokungaphenduli igama
- iingxaki ekuncedeni ukuva;
- ukuphambuka kokuphuhliswa kwengqondo;
- ukungabikho kolwazi;
- indleko zokukhuliswa.
Kuthekani ukuba umntwana akaphenduli egameni lakhe?
Ukucacisa isizathu sokuba umntwana angaphenduli kwigama lakhe, emva konyaka umntu kufuneka abonisane noogqirha balandelayo:
- i-otolaryngologist okanye i-audiologist - ukujonga ukuvalelwa komntwana, ngakumbi iimeko zokulahlekelwa kwindlebe emva kokuphefumula, indlebe, umqala okanye impumlo (umzekelo: i-otitis) iingxaki okanye iingxaki zesifo senzala. Kunconywa ukuba uqhube uvavanyo lokuvavanya ekhaya ngaphambi kokutyelela ugqirha, ukuze bakwazi ukunika iingxelo zabo kwiingcali. Emva koviwo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kunika iingcomo ekunyuseni izinga lokuva, kwaye umntwana uya kuphendula egameni;
- i-neuropathologist, i-psychologist - ukuchonga i-correspondence yezinga lokuphuhliswa kwengqondo kuze kube yiminyaka. Ekubeni ukungabikho kwampendulo egameni lakhe kumntwana oneminyaka engama-70 yindlela yokuziphatha yokuziphatha kwabantwana abaye bafumana ukuba "ukulibaziseka kokuphuhliswa", umsebenzi we- autism okanye ukungahambi kakuhle, kunye nokuthunyelwa uviwo olunzulu.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyayiqonda intetho ebhekiswe kuye, unomdla kwizandi eziva ngaye, kodwa akukho mpendulo kwigama lakhe, kulandela ukuba uphuhliso lwakhe luqhelekileyo, kwaye isizathu sokungaqondi kwakhe ukuba igama lakhe, okanye uyazi malunga nalo, kodwa akafuni nje ukuphendula ngamandla akhe.
Iingcebiso: njani ngokuchanekileyo ukuzisa igama?
Ukususela kwiinyanga ezi-3-4, umntwana kufuneka azaliswe egameni lakhe, ukucacisa ukuba kuthetha oko. Unokwenza oku ngokwemiqathango:
- umbonise nayiphi na into, ubize igama lento, kwaye ke, uthinte umntwana, igama lakhe;
- xa usebenzisa isicelo, sebenzisa kuphela enye okanye ezimbini iifom zegama lakhe, kwaye ungabonakali-"bunny" okanye "ukukhanya kwelanga".
- uya kuwukhetha okanye afike kuye, umbiza kuqala ngegama kwaye ulindele ukuphendula;
- Ngokuqhelekileyo ubiza umnina ngegama, ulibeke ekuqaleni kwesivakalisi, ngokukodwa xa ufuna ukufuna umdla: "Roma, khangela oko umama azisa khona!".
- kudlala nayo kwi zifundo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uyayigatya nje igama lakhe, ingakumbi emva konyaka, ngoko kufuneka uqaphele indlela abaziphatha ngayo ngabazali ngokwabo, mhlawumbi umntwana uchithelwa ngqalelo yabo, kwaye akafuneki ukusabela xa igama lakhe likhona. Kule meko, kufuneka ujike kwi-psychologist oza kunceda ukwakha umgca ofanelekileyo wokuziphatha kwintsapho.