Kwenzeka ukuba ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo iintsapho zingapheli . Kunzima ukuchazela ngolu hlobo kumntwana ukuba kutheni umama nobaba abayi kuphinda bahlale kunye. Kunzima kakhulu ukuzisa u "omtsha" ubawo endlwini aze ammise kwi-crumb. Vumelana ukuba into ephambili kule meko yimbambano yokwethenjwa phakathi koomama nosana, kuba nguye kuphela oya kukwazi ukukholelwa nokwamkela ilungu elitsha lentsapho.
Iziganeko zokuziphatha ezinokwenzeka
Kukhuselekile ukuthetha ukuba wonke umntu unamaqabane aqhelekileyo aphinde ashade kwaye ajamelene neemeko ezinzima xa umntu omtsha endlwini ebonakala:
- umntwana waqala ukuziphatha kakubi ekuhlaleni rhoqo izicwangciso kwaye unengqondo;
- ezinye iintsana ngokuchasene nazo ngaphakathi kwaye azivumeli ukuba unina okanye ilungu elitsha lentsapho;
- kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uqala ukuqamba amanga nokukopela (izifo eziqhelekileyo okanye iingxaki ezithintekayo), ukuba nje umama wayehlala esondele.
Zonke ezi ziindlela zokutsala ingqwalasela kwaye ugxininise kufuphi nawe kwisixa esiphezulu sexesha lomama. Ukuba nomsindo okanye ukuhlukumeza umntwana kuba akunakwenzeka. Esi sibonakaliso sokuthi awuzange ulungele indlela yokuvela kwipapa entsha. Into yokuqala okufuneka uyiqondeyo, umntwana unelungelo lokuvota nokuziphatha kakubi indlela kuphela yelungelo lokusebenzisa.
Ukuze ugweme iingxaki, kufuneka ulungise konke kusengaphambili kwaye uxele umntwana wakho ukuba umntu omtsha uza kubonakala kungekudala endlwini. Le nkqubo ininzi kwaye iya kufuna umonde omkhulu kunye neengqiqo. Kwaye kufuneka usebenze kunye nomntwana kunye nootata onako.
Indlela yokulungisa umhlaba?
- Ungaze ubeke i-crumb phambi kwe nyaniso. Ngokumalunga nomntu omdala, intshaba enjalo kumntwana ingaba yingxaki yangempela. Akukho mntu uthanda iindaba ezizenzekelayo kwaye akakwazi ukufumana ngokukhawuleza indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle. Ukuba kwenzeka ukuba wanikezela "inkumbulo" enjalo kumntwana, zilungele ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungammangaleli umntwana wakho.
- Kukulungele ukuba umqhelane ngokuthe ngcembe nabantwana njengoko ujwayelene nomyeni onokuba ngumntu. Ewe, kufuneka uqale uqiniseke ngokukhethiweyo wakho. Xa oko kwenzeka, musa ukushiya umntwana ngaphandle kwaye uthathe kunye nawe ukuhamba. Ngoko ukhangele ukuphendula komntu kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo (kuba abantwana abahlala beziphatha ngokugqibeleleyo) kunye nesimo sengqondo somntwana wabo kuye.
- Ukuba usuqalisile umntwana kumntwana ozayo, ngamanye amaxesha uyakhumbula ngaye kwintetho kwaye uzame ukufumana oko umntwana ocingayo. Ukuba konke kulungelelaniswa kwaye umntwana omncinci ubonisa uvelwano, zama ukucacisa ukuba lo mntu akahlali ngaphandle kwaye uyamkhumbula. Ngaphandle koko, buza ukuba ngubani umlindi womntwana.
- Umsebenzi uyimfuneko kunye nendoda yakhe, naye. Kumele umncede athathe isitshixo kumntwana. Sitshele ngezinto ezithandwayo, iingxaki kunye neziganeko ezibalulekileyo. Ungazami ukuthenga uthando ngamathoyizi okanye izipho ezibiza. Kumele anqobe ukuzithemba kokunyaniseka aze ambeke umntwana.
- Emva kwexeshana, zama ukushiya umhlobo omtsha wosapho ebusuku. Oku kungcono kunokuqulunqa isizathu esitsha somntwana wakho, kutheni uhamba ude usuke ekhaya. Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana uya kuphakamisa, ngokukhawuleza, ukuba ahlale enolwazi olutsha kuwe ngosuku okanye ezimbini.
- Kufuneka uqonde ukuba okokuqala kubantwana bonke bayesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumama wabo, yingakho baqaphele ukuba "unomntwana". Musa ukugxeka okanye ukugxeka umntwana ukuba akafuni ukuthetha nomhlobo omtsha okanye uzama ukufumana kuye into embi. Oku kuyimpendulo yokukhusela kunye nomsebenzi wakho kukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana uya kuqhubeka ethandwa kwaye uyakwazisa.