Abanye abazali ababoni ukuba kubalulekile ukubandakanya abantwana abancinci kwimisebenzi yasekhaya - bathi, kutheni umntwana engamkhathaleli umntwana, makabe edlala amathoyizi kwaye akwanele kuye. Kwaye ziphosakele ngokupheleleyo. Iingcali zeengqondo zezingane kunye neentsapho ziyavuma ukuba abantwana abaqala ukunceda abazali babo kwixesha elincinci lokufunda esikolweni baya kulungelelanisa bhetele imeko yeso sikolo / isikolo, abanamava amaninzi kangako kunye nokuzithemba, banethemba ngakumbi kunabo " oontanga.
Kwiindawo ezininzi, ungayifumana uluhlu oluthile lwemisebenzi yasekhaya yabantwana basenkulanga. Ukuba ufuna, ungawafunda, kodwa ayimfuneko. Emva kwakho konke, wena, ngokuqinisekileyo, uyavuma ukuba umntwana wakho uhlukile kwaye unobuntu obuhlukile. Ngoko ke, indlela efunekayo apha iyadingeka apha. Omnye umntwana kwaye kwiminyaka emithandathu uya kucinga ukuba i-mop iklanyelwe ukwenza ihashe ngexesha le midlalo. Kwaye enye isele ifikelele kwiminyaka emine ingakwazi ukugcoba ngokufanelekileyo kwaye kunye nokuzonwabisa kucwangcisa ukucoca kwamanzi egumbini lakhe.
Ngoko andiyi kunika uluhlu olunzima apha. Eli nqaku lisekelwe ngakumbi kumava kunye nolwazi oluqhelekileyo, kunokuba kumgangatho kunye neengxelo ezivela kwiincwadi zezifundo zokufundisa.
Xa uqala ukufundisa umntwana kwimisebenzi yasekhaya?
Enyanisweni, umntwana unokuba ngumncedisi wakho emncinci kakhulu. Abantwana bafunda yonke into ngokuxelisa abantu abadala, kwaye umsebenzi wethu apha kukunika umntwana ithuba lokusigcina, ukubamba umzuzu wentshisekelo ekukopheni isenzo kwaye kuphela ukukunceda ukulungelelanisa nokucwangcisa lo msebenzi.
Makhe ndikunike umzekelo kumava akho. Umntwana wam unyaka ongeyithandi ukudlala yena kumathoyizi, kodwa wayefuna ukuba ndiqhagamshelane naye rhoqo. Ngenxa yoko, unyaka wokuqala wobomi bakhe, ndenza yonke imisebenzi yasendlini, ndibambe umntwana engxenyeni zam. Ngenakuqala ukuqala ukuhamba, unyana waqala ukundilandela kwizithende kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo ubukele yonke into, endiyenzayo. Kwaye kwinyanga kunye neenyanga ezimbini wayefuna ngokwakhe, njengonina, ukuba akhulule iilundle kumashini okuhlamba. Ngokukhawuleza le nyathelo lonwabo liye lwaba luncedo lokwenene: unyana wamkhupha iimpahla zakhe ezihlambulukileyo emotweni waza wanika yona, ndaye ndayiphonsa ukuba yome. Yonke into endiyifumeneyo, ndambulela ngenxa yokudumisa nokumanga. Yonke inkqubo yabangela umntwana ukuba angonwabele ngokungavamile. Kwaye ngoku, emva kokuva ukuba umshini wokuhlamba usuqedile umjikelezo wokuhlamba, u-sonul undibizela kwisitya sokuhlambela kwaye unceda ngokukhulula nokukhupha iimpahla.
Ukuba uyayinyamekela umntwana wakho kwaye umvumele ukuba athathe inyathelo, uya kuqaphela ngokucacileyo ukuba izinto zakho eziqhelekileyo zinomdla kuye ukuphinda. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uya kufuna ukubeka umquba endaweni lapho udibanisa okanye uqokelele umbhede. Okanye faka iplate engenanto kwiqula emva kokutya. Makhe akwenze. Ewe, ekuqaleni, amanyathelo amancinci omntwana wakho ekuzimele aziyi kukulondoloza ixesha, kodwa kunoko baya kudala i-"intsebenziswano" yinyani kwimicimbi yasekhaya. Ngoko iimbopheleleko zentsapho yomntwana wakho ziya kwenziwa ngendlela engokwemvelo, ngaphandle kwanoma ziphi iingxoxo zemfundo ezikhethekileyo kunye neziphakamiso.
Indlela yokusabalalisa uxanduva lwabantwana nabazali?
Ukuba unomuvo wokuthi umntwana wakho ufikelele kwiminyaka yesazi, uyakwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimicimbi yelungu losapho, kwaye akukho ncediso okanye akwanele kuye - ungesabi ukuba uya kutshutshiswa "ngokuxhaphaza umsebenzi wabantwana", kodwa uthethe nentsapho yakho malunga noxanduva lomntwana kwintsapho. Mhlawumbi uya kudibana nobunzima boogogo, abavuyayo kubantwana abangenasiphako somzukulu wabo kwaye ngubani olungele ukwenza konke ngaye. Musa ukutshatyalaliswa. Chaza ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba umntwana wekhaya kufuneka abe nexanduva, ukuba oku kuya kubakhokela ubomi bakhe kwikamva. Uze ulungele ukubamba "intlanganiso yokucwangcisa" sele sele iqale ukuthatha inxaxheba kwabantwana.
Ukwenza oku, okokuqala, yenza uluhlu lwamacala amancinane amancinci ongathanda ukuwadlulisela kumntu osuka kwindlu (ukuqala, amanqaku angama-2-4 kumntu ngamnye). Ubhetele ukwazi ukuba kuya kuba njani: umzekelo, itiye yokuphuza imihla ngemihla, ukuthambisa izityalo zangaphakathi, ukuhlenga iingubo, ukuxubha itafile emva kwesidlo sakusihlwa, isidlo sasemini, isidlo sakusihlwa, njl njl. Qoqa amakhaya kwingxoxo (kuya kuba ngcono xa ufumana inkxaso yendoda yakho, nabanye abantu abadala ohlala nabo ngaphambili). Xelela ukuba zingaphi izinto ezincinci, ezibonakala zingenakuqhelaniswa ukuba ugcine indlu ihlambulukile kwaye ikhululekile; malunga nexesha elingakanani elithathayo - ixesha elingasetyenziselwa umdlalo okanye ukuhamba. Bonisa kwaye ufunde uluhlu. Mema umntwana kunye nabantu abadala ukuba bakhethe ishishini labo apho bakulungele ukuphendula.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo ngumyalelo. Ingaba iimeko ezikhethwe ngumntwana okokuqala ngqa kunye naye, ukuze kamva akudingeki ukuba wenze izimvo malunga noko ungakhange uchaze.
Ingaba umntwana wafunda yonke into? Ngoku jonga ukuzaliseka kwimihla ngemihla. Ukuqhelana nomntwana ukuba anikwe uxanduva. Imizamo yabagogo abanomfesane ukumkhulula kwiimeko ("ubuncinci namhlanje, ukhathele") - ayeke. Kuyavakala nzima, kodwa yileyo ndlela uhlakulela ngayo umthwalo wemfanelo kumncedi wakho omncinci, kunye nezakhono ezisisiseko, kwaye umfundise ukuba athabathe iziphumo zomsebenzi wakhe.
Kwimeko enjalo, njengoko ukuhanjiswa kweembopheleleko zabantwana kunye nabazali, kuba ngumkhokeli oqinileyo kodwa onobulungisa - uya kubona, oku akukuthinteli ekubeni ngumama onothando, onomusa, onomnene.