Hayi, ziphi na amaxesha amakhwenkwe, xa abaphikisanayo bexabana ngesandla senkosikazi enhle? Kule minyaka, abafazi ngokwabo kufuneka balwe noluntu ukuze bafumane indlela yokuphumelela intliziyo yomfana. Kwaye ukukwenza kwimimiselo yokhuphiswano olunzima, o, akunjani lula, ngakumbi ukuba uceba ukunqoba umntu wangaphambili, kodwa usengumfana othandekayo.
Ngoko yintoni omele uyenze, indlela yokuziphatha ngayo nezi zidalwa eziyimfihlakalo ezivela kwenye iplanethi? Akukho sikhokelo sobunikelelo sendlela yokuphumelela uthando lomfana, kodwa kukho ezinye iingcebiso ezinokuthi zikhulule ukuhlaselwa entliziyweni yakhe.
Izindlela zokuphumelela umntu
- Yintoni abantu bayayiqwalasela kuqala? Kakade, ukuya ngaphandle. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nombonakalo okhangayo. Ewe, imvelo ayinayo yonke into epheleleyo kunye nomfanekiso kunye nobuso obuhle, kodwa wonke umntu unokuzinyamekela. Ngendlela, musa ukudibanisa wena "nombala wokulwa", izinto ezihluke ngokupheleleyo.
- Intombazana ingayinceda njani intliziyo yomfana? Kulula kakhulu, simele sihlale sinomdla kuye. Ngako oko, asikugijimi ukumxelela ubomi bethu bonke, ukuqala ngokugula kwebantwana, ekuphelelweni kwe-fingernail ephukile izolo. Thetha ngawe, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyimfuneko, kodwa ukukhupha ulwazi ngokuthe ngcembe. Ngaba kukho umdlalo othakazelisayo? Yiloo nto, kufuneka nje ukuxelela, nje lo msebenzi kufuneka ukukhohlise, ngoko ke ungathetha ngokuthakazelisayo, ngaphandle kokukhathaza okhethiweyo wakho.
- Smile! Okokuqala, ukumamatheka malunga nomntu wonke kwenza ukuba kukhangeleke, kwaye okwesibini, umfana kufuneka abone ukuba uyonwabile kwaye unomdla kunye naye, kwaye ukuhleka kwakho okulungileyo kukuyona ndlela engcono yokuyiqinisekisa. Into eyona nto ayiyikuyidlula, intombazana ehleka ngelizwi ngalinye iya kunomsindo, kodwa asiyidingi le nto.
- Ubuso obuhle, ubumnandi obuhle, konke oku kulungile, kodwa akunako. Ngexesha lokuqala, uya kukhangela kwaye uyamhlonela, kwaye mhlawumbi akayi kuwuqwalasela into yokuba uhlala uhleli. Emva koko lo mzuzwana uya kuncipha. Ngoko, ukuphumeza loo mfana, incoko iya kufuna ukuxhaswa, kwaye kungekhona njengento enyantisayo, kodwa kunene. Oko kukuthi, ukuba uthe wakuxelela nje nge-jumping parachute, musa ukugcwalisa ikhefu ngebali malunga nesifiso sakho sokuthenga. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuthetha into malunga nesihloko. Ngoko ke, sifunda iincwadi kwaye sihlakulele ii-horizons zethu.
- Ngaba ucinga ukuba ubudlelwane bakho sele buqinileyo kwaye bacinga ukuba banelungelo lokwenza iimfuno eziphakamileyo kwikhethiweyo? Le migaqo iyamkeleka ukuba sele sele udibene nexesha elide. Nangona ungakhange uzuze indawo engapheliyo entliziyweni yakhe, akufanele ufune ukuzithemba kwaye uzicelele into ethile ngokongxaki. Le yindlela eqinisekileyo yokwahlula umntu osisigulana nomntu onomdla.
- Akukho nto inokukunceda ukuba uzuze umntu othandekayo njengomboniso wokuthi awunomdla kuphela kwaye uyangqineka, kodwa nawe ungumlingane emoyeni. Yabelana ngeengcamango kunye nemibono yakhe kwaye uphulaphule ngentshisekelo kumntu onomthandayo ngezinto ezithandwayo kunye nomsebenzi wakhe.
- Ukulula ukunxibelelana, amantombazana atshabalalayo akhangeleka, kwaye mhlawumbi ukuba ukhethwe ngokukhawuleza ukuguqula ubuhlobo kolunye umgangatho, ngokufanelekileyo ngomhla wokuqala. Into ephambili ukuyiqonda, ngoku uyayidinga? Ngaba ufuna ukuzithintela iingqungquthela zemihla yokuthandana? Ukuba akunjalo, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokukhawuleza, ixesha le-candy-bouquet alizange lonakalise umntu.
- Ngaba ufuna ukubuyela kwaye uphinde uzuze umntu ongaphambili, kodwa uyazi njani? Nantsi zonke iindlela zilungile, into ephambili kukubonakalisa ukuba nawe (kwaye kuya kuba) ngcono kunokuba unomdla wamanje. Akayithandi izinto ezithandwayo? Ngoko, kufuneka ukwenze oku kuye, kwaye uxhase eyangaphambili kuzo zonke iingcinga zakhe kunye nokuzama.
Iingcebiso zokugqibela nezona zibalulekileyo - yiba nguwe. Unokwenza ngathi unamathele emsebenzini wakhe njengoko uthandayo, phulaphula malunga nenjongo emangalisayo efunyenwe kumdlalo wokugqibela, kodwa ukuba akuyithandeki kuwe, kungcono ukuthetha ngawo. Kungenxa yokuba kungekudala okanye kamva, i-mask ebeka kuwe iya kuqubuka, kwaye ngubani na oya kuvuya ngakumbi?