I-sexologist - ngubani kunye nendlela yokulahla ubulili?

Ingcamango yokuba indoda yesondo ingaba yindoda yinto eqhelekileyo kodwa engalunganga. Indoda nayiphi na isondo inokuthunjwa kweengcinga zakhe kwaye sicinge ukuba into eyenzekayo iyamkholisa, ayikho into ephosakeleyo. Ngelishwa, akubona bonke abantu abakwazi ukuvuma ukuba khona kwesi sifo baze bafumane amandla okulwa nalo.

Umntu osebenza ngesondo - ngubani lo?

Oogqirha banesimo sengqondo esiphambili kulo hlobo lokuxhomekeka. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba bekungekho mpazamo ukuqwalasela ukuxilongwa ngokupheleleyo kwezokwelapha, njengoko kuzisa ukwaneliseka ngokupheleleyo emva kokuqhagamshelana nomlingane-orgasm. Abanye bacinga ngokulinganayo kwisifo ngokufanisa nokuxilwa kweziyobisi kunye notywala. Umntu wesini (umfazi okanye umntu) ngumntu kuye enye yeenkcazo ezinokusetyenziswa:

1. Umnqweno wokugqithisa ukungena kumntu olwabelana ngesondo kunye nommeli wakhe wesini esahlukileyo, ngokuxhomekeke ekuqhelweni.
2. Umkhwa wokuphatha unxibelelwano kwanaluphi uhlobo kunye nabantu abathandekayo ngokwesondo. Ubundlobongela obubandezelekayo akakwazi ukwahlula umxhwele kubuhlobo, ukubulela okanye ukusebenzisana.
3. Ulwaphulo-mthetho lwentlalo yoluntu obangelwa kukuhlukunyezwa komxhomekeke. Naluphi na ukugqithisa okugqithiseleyo ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva kuqala ukuphazamiseka kwaye kubonakalisa uluntu olujikeleze umntu ongakwazi ukujamelana nesigaba sokwabelana ngesondo.

Izizathu zesini

Izizathu ze-sexology ziye zafundwa yizinzulu kunye nezikhanyiso zezokwelapha, kodwa akukho namnye kubo oye wakwazi ukufumana ngokuqinisekileyo indlela yokubonakala kwesi sifo kubantu. I-subconscious ye-dependence ingakhetha uhlobo olunjalo lwalamano obusondeleyo ukuba ubuncinane ubuncinane bezinto ezifunekayo:

1. Ukusilela kwemveliso yengqondo yeprotheni . Izibonakaliso zamanqanaba eeprotheyini ziyahamba ngexesha lokuvuswa kwesondo, ngoko kulula ukuqiqa ukuba i-psyche ishesha ukusetyenziswa ukutshatyalaliswa.
2. Uloyiko lolwalamano . Lapha i-sexology yesifazane ayikwazi ukuba ngumphumo wesilisa. Ukunyaniseka kwindoda enye kumfazi womfazi isona sihlwayo esibi kakhulu, kuba ubeka uxanduva kuye kwaye uyamnciphisa ukuvakalelwa kwintsha.
3. Umsebenzi wokudala okanye ukuziphatha okukhululekile . I-agent-agent-actor, umbhali okanye umculi udla ngokuphindaphindiweyo aze aphinde aphinde aphinde asebenze kunye nokusebenzisana nabalingane bobusuku obunye.

Iimpawu zomsebenzi wesondo

Iimpawu ezenza kube lula ukuhlukanisa abantu abaxhasayo abanokubonakalayo kungekudala. Kwiinkqubo zonxibelelwano, isigulane sichaza ngokucacileyo impawu yezo zesini:

• ukunyaniseka nokunciphisa imilinganiselo yokuziphatha;
• ukhetho olukhethileyo lwesambatho esomeleleyo kunye nesibambiso;
• kuthiwa "ngokungaqhelekanga" ukubonakalisa kweengubo zangaphantsi;
• umnqweno wokuchitha yonke imali yamahhala kwiinkonzo zesini ukuhanjiswa okanye intima kwifowuni;
• oqhagamshelwano rhoqo nabalingani abangaqhelekanga.

Izigaba zesini

Isazi seengqondo saseMerika uPatrick Carnes ngo-1980 sakhupha izigaba zokuphuhliswa kwengqondo yengqondo ngokuthandana nokunyanzela kwiincwadi zonyango. Ngokwakhe uluvo, i-sexogolism ikhula ngokulandelelana okulandelayo:

• ukunyanelana nokulala ngesondo, kufuna ukukhutshwa rhoqo;
• ukusekwa kwemimiselo ethile eyenziwa phambi kocansi ukukhulisa umnqweno - umzekelo, ukudlala ngothando okanye ukuthetha ngokuphambana;
• ukuxhomekeke kwengqondo kwiimfesane kunye nokulahleka kolawulo phezu kweeminqweno;
• ukudandatheka nokuphelelwa lithemba.

Indlela yokuba ngumcebisi wesini?

Akunakwenzeka ukufumana umntu onempilo ophilileyo onengqondo yakhe elungileyo unqwenela ukufumana eso sifo. I-Psychology eyaziwa ngamacala apho abesilisa abesilisa nabasetyhini baziqhenyce ngokufumana ukunyaniseka kwaye bababonge ngenxa yezenzo zabo:

• ukujonga rhoqo i-porn kunye nokuphinga ;
• ukwala ukunxibelelana nabasetyhini bokwenene kunye nenkolelo yokuba bonke bayazimela kwaye baziyatha;
• ukuziphatha okuchasene - isondo ngemihla ngaphandle kobudlelwano obuzinzile;
• umdla wezemidlalo ngokukhawuleza ukuba umhlobo omtsha uza kuvuma ukuthandana.

Ngaba ukuphathwa ngokwesondo?

Unyango lunceda ukuba umntu othembekileyo uyavuma ukuba ingxaki ikhona. Ukufaniswa nokuxilwa kweziyobisi kubalulekile: ukugula ngesifo isifo apho ukuxhatshazwa kweemeko kufana ne-hypersexual control. Impumelelo iba yinto ebonakalayo xa unyango luqala ngokubonakaliswa kokuqala kwempawu ezinzima. Ngaphandle koko, umsebenzi wesondo uya kulahlekelwa yintsapho, ubudlelwane bobuhlobo kunye nokukwazi ukuthetha noluntu.

Indlela yokuphatha ngesondo?

Unyango luqala ngotyelelo lokuqala kwi-psychotherapist okanye kwi-psychologist. Kuphela isifo sengqondo singakwazi ukujamelana nezigaba eziphambili, kodwa kuzo zonke iziganeko izibhedlele azifunanga. Isiphakamiso, esiya kumisela ugqirha ofanelekileyo owaziyo ukuphelisa ubulili, unamaphuzu amaninzi:

• ukuthatha isilathisi sonyango ngefuthe lokukhusela;
• ukuphuhliswa kwento yokuzilibazisa kunye nomgangatho wobugcisa njengengxenye yothando;
• umsebenzi owenzela umzimba;
• ukusetyenziswa kweetasta ezidambisayo ezisekelwe kwi-lemon balm, i-mint, motherwort kunye ne-valerian.

Abasebenzi bezesondo ezidumile

Esi sifo asikhethi ixhoba, ngokusekelwe ekuthandeni kwayo okanye kwizentlalo. Kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, abantu abadumileyo abasasazwayo ngezocalulo zobulili kunzima: kumajelo eendaba, amabala amaninzi, apho ukuhlukunyezwa kweenkwenkwezi zokuncedisa abasebenzi, abaqhelana nabo abangaqhelekanga kunye noogxa babo, kubonakala. Kwiminyaka eminyaka edlulileyo, kwafuneka bafihle iminqweno yabo okanye baxhomekeke kwi-blackmail kunye nosongelo. Phakathi kwalabo abadumileyo ngokuziphatha kakubi ebusweni obusondelene nabo, abadumileyo kukuba:

1. Catherine II. "I-nymphomaniac ephambili yembali" ibizwa ngokuba nguMpress waseRussia, malunga nemikhwa yendlela yokulala eyaye yaziwa ngayo yonke i-brokers. UCatherine oMkhulu wayengumsebenzi wesondo kunye kwaye watshintsha iintandokazi ezincinci, njengeiglavu, ezinika izikhundla ezinzima entendelezweni.
2. UDavid Duchovny . Umdlali, owayedlala ngesondo kwi "Ubuphandle baseCalifornia", ixesha elide wenqwenela ukuwamkela inyaniso. Ngomnyaka we-2008, umfazi wakhe, uTe Leoni, akazange amphoqe ukuba axolise esidlangalaleni kwintetho yodliwano-ntlupheko kuyo yonke into eninzi.
3. Russell Brand . Umhlaziyi waseMelika wayephathwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiiklinikhi zokuvuselela ukuze akwazi ukudala intsapho kwaye ahlale ethembekile.
4. Mata Hari . Abesifazana abadumileyo bezesondo babesoloko benomdla kwiinkonzo ezizodwa: basebenzisa amantombazana ukuba bafumane ama-agent kunye nokukhipha ulwazi oluyimfuneko. U-Mata uHarry, umzekelo, wakhonza ngokukhawuleza iinkonzo ezimbini zeengcali waza wangena emzimbeni kuphela amadoda anzima ngamandla.