Ubunzima bufana nesilonda esibi. Okokuqala buhlungu kancinci, ngoko ke intlungu iyancipha, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi siyilibala ngoku. ... Kodwa imvula yokuqala isenza sikhumbule ngenye inhlekelele. Isilonda sethu sibuhlungu, kwaye ukuxhalaba kweemigqa yokuqala kukuthi-akukho, kwaye kudibanisa kumphezulu ... Yaye ngubani owathi ixesha liphilisa. Kutheni? Kwaye kwenzeka ngokwenene nabanye. Iintsuku, iiveki kunye neenyanga zenziwa kwiminyaka, kwaye uqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba ixesha lakho aliphilisi nantoni na: akukho usizi kwizikhalazo, akukho uthando olungathandekiyo. Makhe sicinge, kutheni na kuni ... kwaye kunjalo.
Ngaba uphatha ixesha?
Cinga ngako: emva kwexesha, sinokulibala ezininzi iingxaki ezenzeke kuthi. Ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha iiyure ezimbalwa. Ngoko kutheni ezinye iingxaki ngezinye iinkqubo zihamba kunye nathi. Ngaba ngaba thina sibaphatha ubomi? Sifaka kwiimemori, sithoba uthuli lweentsuku ezidlulileyo, njengemifanekiso eyintandokazi. Sinoyika ukulahlekelwa. Umkhwa wokulahlekelwa yintlungu kunye nokuzisola ngokwawo uthatha ingcambu, kwaye ngoku asikwazi ukuzicingela ngaphandle kwentlungu. Kutheni kunjalo?
Kungenxa yokuba ngexesha lobuhlungu obuqala kukuthintela, wanikezela ukufakela kunye nawe. Mhlawumbi nenyameko. Xa intsingiselo yobomi ihluleka, siyayeka ukunqwenela ulonwabo. Lo mnqweno uya endaweni, ukufuna impendulo. Yaye uya kubuya kunye. Ukuvumela ukuhamba kukuxolela, kwaye awufuni ukuxolela kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, ngoko kuvela ukuba ebomini akukho nto ibalulekileyo, ekubeni ngexesha ungakhohlwa nayiphi na ilahleko, ekubeni ixesha liphilisa amanxeba. Ngaba uyazi ezi zakho iingcamango?
Yintoni eyenzekayo ngokwenene? Kodwa eneneni ...
... ixesha aliphilanga, ixesha litshintsha
Intsingiselo yexesha akusiyo ukuba iyasiphatha, kodwa yintoni iinguqulelo. Ku kunjalo, nokuba uyayithanda okanye awuyi. Kwaye sibheka nayiphi na inkumbulo ngokusebenzisa umntu omtsha, namhlanje, ngokutshintsha "I" rhoqo. Ngoko, umzekelo, inqwaba yeemviwo iya kubonakala iyincinci kuwe ezinyangeni ezimbalwa. Okanye umonakalo obangelwa yimvula uya kutshintshwa ngokumomotheka, kuba utshintshe ngokukhawuleza isimo sakho sengqondo kule mvula. Ngelishwa, ixesha liyakushintsha iinkumbulo zethu. Ngokukodwa abo siqhubeka sithwala nathi size sibeke kwindawo evelele ezingqondweni zethu. Ixesha, njengamanzi, lifezekisa iinkumbulo zethu kwiifom ezigqibeleleyo. Kwaye maxa wambi awunabo ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu, emva kweminyaka, kubonakala ngathi yona nto ibhetele yenzeke kuthi. Ngoko, ekhangele umfanekiso wesithandwa ezimbini, kubonakala ngathi umfaki-zithombe ubambe umhla olungcono kakhulu ebomini. Nangona asikwazi ukuqiniseka ukuba abathandi abazange baxabane okwesibini ngaphambi kokuba i-shutter iqhosha.
... ixesha aliphili, ixesha lifundisa
Ngoko kunjalo. Ingaba sifuna okanye akunjalo, imihla ngemihla kukho iziganeko ezisifundisayo. Ukuzisa iinkumbulo kunye nawe, ufumana isifundo esifanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ixesha kufuneka likufundise ukuxolela. Taya entliziyweni yecala, oku akukuchaphazeli loo mntu. Uhlala ubomi bakhe, ukhula, ufunde into entsha. Ukugcina intlungu okanye inzondo ethembeni lokuba uya kuhlwaya omnye ufana nokuthatha ubuthi, ulindele ukuba kuya kuthinta omnye umntu. Mhlawumbi lixesha lokufunda isifundo? Ngenxa yoko, khumbula ukuba ...
... ekupheleni, ixesha lihamba
Cinga ngako. Ubomi bakho buhamba. Intlungu yakho ilitye elikhulu,
Uyazi ukuba uBenjamin Franklin uthe ntoni ngawo: "Ukuba ixesha liyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ukuchitha ixesha kukungathembekanga."
Akufanele uhlupheke ukuze ulondoloze uthando. Ukulibala kwimeko yakho akuyikungcatsha.