Masibeke umbuzo ongalindelekanga kubaninzi: ukunikezelwa komgangatho omhle. Kwaye kuthi, ngokubanzi, ichaza le ngcamango.
Ekuqalekeni, ukuzinikezela kukubaluleke kakhulu ukuba akukho ukubonakaliswa okuphezulu kweempawu zabantu, kukuzimisela ukuzincama inxaxheba kwabanye. Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zegama elithi "ukungabi nantoni" lingaba "umbingelelo" kunye "nokunyaniseka."
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, intsingiselo yegama elingenasiphelo "ukuphika." Ukuba ucinga ukuba ubomi sisipho esikhulu kunazo zonke, ngaba kukuhle ukusilahleka ngaphandle? Ukuba awuyikuzixabisa, ngaba unako ukunika uthando olupheleleyo kwabanye abantu? Kwaye akukho ukuzithiba kohlobo oluthile lwe-egoism ye-masochistic, inzame yokuphakama ngaphezu kwabanye. Siza kuthetha ngale nto namhlanje.
Imizekelo yokuzinikezela
Ukubonakaliswa okuphezulu kokuzincama kukuthanda umama kumntwana wakhe. Phantse nawuphi na umama, ngaphandle kokungabaza, uya kubingelela impilo yakhe, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ubomi bakhe ukuba kuyadingeka. Akunjalo kuba akayikuxabisa ubomi bakhe. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba uthando lwakhe lunamandla kangangokuba ulonwabo lomthandayo luzalisa umfazi onamandla akhethekileyo. Akacingi ukuba uphezu kwento ethile, kuba ukungazinzi kwakhe kusemvelo. Ngomlinganiselo othile, kuzisa uvuyo.
Omnye ulungele ukunikela ubomi bakhe ngomntu othandekayo, kwaye le mvakalelo ibonisa kuphela amandla othando.
Abacimi bomlilo babeka ubomi babo emngciphekweni kulondolozo abanye abantu, kodwa kubo ingcamango yokuzidela ayifakwe phambili - ngumsebenzi wansuku zonke apho umntu enza, xa kunokwenzeka, ngokukhubaza iimvakalelo. Ngeemvakalelo ezinqanyuliweyo, ugqirha ugqitha iiyure zokuphelisa ukusebenza kwakhe, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngamanye amaxesha ukugxininisa kwakhe kukunyusa.
Nangona kunjalo, nangona ukuzinikezela, njengokomzekelo, ukunyaniseka nokuziphatha okuphezulu, sikhuphukele kwisikhundla sobukhosi, le mgangatho inengqiqo ecacileyo ngokucacileyo. Ngokwemvelo, sinokuzibona i-analogue yokuziphatha kwizinyosi, ezibhubhayo, zikhangela intshaba. Nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo yalesi sifo kukuhlakulela kwixhoba ukususela kolunye uloyiko lwabantu abathile bezilwanyana kunye nokugcina i-beehive ngokubanzi. Ngokufanayo, xa intombi ibhubha, ibhinqa lisindisa i-gene. Ngophuhliso lobomi, amandla othando aguqukile. Ukuba iinkunzi zeengwenya azivumi ngothando lomama onamahloni, okhusela ngenyameko inzala (oomama abaninzi banakekele ezininzi izilwanyana ezinqabileyo ziphela ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba iimazi zibeka amaqanda), umntwana ungamthandi ngokungathandabuzekiyo aze amkele unina. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziza kwisigqibo sokuba iingcambu zokuzidela nokuzincama ziya kukhathalela inzala kunye namajeni abo. Ezi ziqhumane ezifana, umzekelo, ukuzimisela kwenja yokunikela ubomi bakhe ngenkosi, kuthathwa njengento "yempembelelo yecala".
Ukuzilahla?
Kodwa masibuyele kolunye uhlobo lokungazinzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umntu ngokuzithandela uzibeke kwisibingelelo seminye iminqweno yabantu, nokuba akukho mntu ucela umnikelo onjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha loo mnikelo unokuba ngumthwalo, kodwa umntu othe wagqiba "ukuphila kwabanye" ngokuqhubekayo uyaqhubeka nokuhla
Kule meko, ukungabi nantoni kuphelisa ukuba okungenani kunobulungisa, kokubili kwimbono yezinto eziphilayo kunye nemibono yezimfanelo eziphezulu. Kunoko, isithuba sokuzibhubhisa, ukukhuthazwa kwezinto ezinokubangela ukungaqondi kakuhle kunye neengxaki zengqondo. Uthando olupheleleyo kunye nentlonipho (yokuqala-konke kuthi) singenza ngcono ihlabathi lethu.