Nangona abanye beya kuqeqesha baze bafunde amanqaku malunga nokuphathwa, abanye bazibuza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini "ukuphatha umntu." Ukuze siqonde kakuhle esi sihloko, siza kuqwalasela imizekelo emininzi yokuphatha, kwaye siya kuhlalutya indlela umntu angasebenzisa ngayo ezo zixhobo ngokuqaphela.
Intsingiselo yegama elithi "sebenzisa"
Okokuqala, makhe sibuke umbuzo othi ukuthini "ukuphatha". Kwimiqathango yengqiqo yengqondo yale ngcamango, ukuxhaphazwa kukulawulwa komnye umntu. Ngoxa uncedo lwamasu okuphatha, unokwenza umntu amkele ingcamango yakho okanye enze into enenzuzo kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, akuyimfuneko ukuba ube yingcali yeengqondo yokuqonda ukuphatha abanye - akuyiyo imfihlo abantu abaninzi abakwenzayo kwinqanaba lekhaya, ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokucinga, intuitively.
Imizekelo yokuxhaphaza ubudlelwane
Ukufunyanwa kwezindlu kudlalwa rhoqo, kwaye abathathi-nxaxheba ababaqondi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Umzekelo:
- Udlalwa ngumama. Njengomthetho, lo ngumntu ongeyedwa, umfazi ozingcaziyo ongafuni ukuhamba nendodana / intombi yakhe, nangona ixesha eliphakamileyo lokuba abantwana bakhe bakhe indlu yabo. Oomama abanjalo banqwenela kakhulu uncedo kunye nenkxaso, bahlale befuna ukunakwa , babeke impumlo zabo kwiintando zabantwana babo, bagxeke ukhetho lwabo, banqande ulwalamano lwabo (kunye nomntu othile okanye nangaphambi kokubhala umviwa omnye umzekelo).
- Umlindi woluntu. Umntu onjalo uyazikhangela ngesabelo esithile ngemikhono yakhe, aphule okuthile okanye amphange ngexesha lomsebenzi wakhe ekhaya, ukuze akwazi ukuchaza ngokucacileyo ukuba unqabile kwaye uya eholide. Kwintsapho enjalo, zonke iingxaki zifakwa kumahlombe omfazi.
Unokuqwalasela imizekelo emininzi, kubandakanywa ukuphathwa kwamabhinqa, kodwa isitshixo sawo sicacile: umntu unakho ngokuzikhusela, kwaye unokunqanda ngenjongo yomnye umntu ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Ungayisebenzisa njani indoda yakhe?
Indlela ebalulekileyo kunye neyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokusebenzisa umntu "ubuthathaka besetyhini." Kwaye kufuneka usebenzise ngayo ingqondo - uyinyamekele umsebenzi, kodwa yonke imbonakalo yakho ibonisa ukuba awukwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo. Xa umntu ethatha isigqibo sokuza kukunceda, qiniseka ukuba umdumise, mxelele ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe awuyi kukwenza. Kuya kulungele kwakhona emva kwexesha ukukhumbula ngeziinkonzo zakhe kwaye kwakhona ukumdumisa. Oku mhlawumbi yindlela ehle kakhulu yokubambisa i-positive, ukuze kuzuze ubudlelwane.