Xa umntu eqonda ukuba usesimo sokudakumba kwaye ufuna ukuyilahla - kuyamangalisa. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akubona wonke umntu onokuziqhayisa ngokuqonda okunjalo. Ngoko ke, umbuzo wendlela yokunceda umntu ekudandathekeni kudla kakhulu.
Uncedo ngokudakumba - into engenakuyenza?
Awukwazi ukunceda umntu. Usizi luya kumnceda umntu onamandla, amqhube kwiimeko ezimbi nakakhulu, apho kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuphuma. Uthando kuyo yonke imbonakalo yayo yintoni eyanceda kakhulu kwixinzelelo.
Awukwazi ukulinda ukuxinezeleka ukuba kudlule ngokwalo. Ukuba umntu uye waxhalabisa gqitha kwaye wangena kwixinzelelo, ekuphumeni kwayo kungekho mzamo owenzayo, unokuguqula i-schizophrenia.
Awukwazi ukufumana izizathu zokudakumba, ngokubhekiselele ekubeni le yimeko eqhelekileyo yomntu emva kwemeko enzima. Ukususela ekudakagxininiswe noxinzelelo oluqinileyo kunye nesisombululo sokujonga isimo sengqondo kunceda. Emva kwakho konke, ubomi ngamanye amaxesha "kubetha" kakhulu kwaye kufuneka ukwazi ukubamba nayiphi na imivimbo.
Uncedo ngokudakumba - iindlela ezilungileyo
Kufuneka ujike kumgqirha, uchaze umntu ukuba le ngcali inako ukukunceda ngokucacisa ngokuchanekileyo abachasayo kunye nokuphuhlisa indlela eyahlukeneyo yokuncedisa ngengqondo. Ukudandatheka akusibi, kodwa isifo esenza umzekelo, njenge-gastritis okanye i-angina, sidinga unyango oluthile. Yingakho ekutyelele umphathiswa akukho nto ihlazo.
Kunceda ukuqeda imidlalo yokudandatheka kwaye uhamba emoyeni omtsha. Njengomthetho, ukuphazamiseka kwengcinezelo kuphelisa umsebenzi wokwenyama, ngoko ke isigulane ngokwakhe asifuni ukuphuma-ngoko kule meko kuyimfuneko ukubeka amandla amakhulu kunye nokunyamezela.
Ukususa ubunzima bamava amabi, kuyimfuneko ukunika umntu ithuba lokuba avule amava abo amava. Inkxaso, uvelwano kunye nokufudumala komntu unakho ukukhokela ngaphandle kwimeko yokudandatheka, okanye ubuncinane ukulungiselela ukubonakaliswa kwayo.