Wonke umntu uyazi ibinzana elithi "yonke into iyaziwa xa kuthelekiswa" kwaye ukuba siqonda ukuba omnye umntu unento esiyikwazi ukuyifumana, okwangoku, ingaba nomona. Umntu ophila phantsi kweempembelelo zengozi yokulahlekelwa yithuba lokuphila ubomi bakhe, njengoko exhamle ngokupheleleyo kwisifiso esingenampilo sokuphila komnye, umntu ophumelele ngakumbi.
Njengomthetho, kuphela abo bantu abaphumelele ebomini into esinokuyifumana ngayo. Ungabi nomona ngomntu onomdla, kodwa usebenze ngokwakho uze uphumelele eziphakamileyo zakho. Inyaniso yokuba akulungile ukuba nomona, wonke umntu uxelelwa ukususela ebuntwaneni, kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu onokubambelela kwezi ngcebiso. Abantu bavame ukukhwele ummandla wabo osondeleyo, kwaye oku kuyacaca, kuba umhlobo omtsha wengubo ye-mink wenza umfazi unomona omkhulu kunomntu osemzini kwimoto ye-chic.
EBhayibhileni, umona ubonwa njengomsebenzi wesono kwaye, ngokuphambene nombono obalaseleyo, umona awukwazi ukwahlukana waba mnyama nomhlophe. Akukho nto into efana nomhlophe, kulungele ngakumbi ukuyibiza ngokuthi uvuyo okanye uvuyo lomntu osondeleyo kuwe.
Umona wabafazi kunye nendlela yokulwa nayo
Umona wesifazana udla ngokusekelwe kwintlobo yangaphandle yowesifazane kunye nentlalo yakhe yolonwabo. "Unokuyeka njani umona ngomhlobo othakazelisayo nophumeleleyo?" - enye yimibuzo eqhelekileyo, ekucingwa ngayo ngesondo esifanelekileyo.
- Ngokubhekiselele ekuthandeni, umntu kufuneka akhumbule inyaniso elula, umfazi ngamnye uyintle ngendlela yakhe kunye neziphene zihlala zihlawulwa ziintlobo.
- Ngokuphathelele ulonwabo lwentsapho, akufanele ube nomona xa ubona usapho olonwabileyo. ukufezekisa uluntu kwimibutho inokwenzeka kuwo wonke umfazi, kodwa oku kufuneka ugcinwe ngobulumko nomonde. Ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle bentsapho ngumsebenzi omkhulu ovelisa iziqhamo.
Ungafunda njani ukuba ungabi nomona ngabanye?
Ukuba uqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba akufanele ube nomona, kodwa awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na, zikho iingcebiso ezilula eziza kukunceda, ukulahla impembelelo yoluvo olungathandekiyo:
- Yeka ukuziqhathanisa nabanye. Phila ubomi bakho kwaye ujonge ixesha elihle kwimpilo yakho yemihla ngemihla.
- Cinga ngako, kodwa ngaba ufuna ngokwenene into eyinto yakho? Ukuba unomona ngabahlobo abatshatileyo, ngenxa yokuba ungeke ukwazi ukulungiselela ubomi bomntu, phulaphula ngokukhawuleza amabali malunga nobomi bentsapho, kwaye uya kubona ukuba nayiphi na eyona nto ilungileyo, ekuqalekeni, intsapho kukho iingxaki ezininzi. Okanye ukuba unomona ngommelwane wakho owathengayo imoto entsha, cinga ukuba iindleko ezithe xaxa ezi zinto ziza kubandakanya, kunye neendleko zombane-kwaye kukho i-cosmic amount in general. Ubhetele ukumba imali kwaye uthenge oko ufuna enye.
- Ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Uyazi ukuba unelungelo elifanelekileyo kwaye unako ukufezekisa yonke into ebomini bakho,
kwaye ukukhwelela isityebi ngumthwalo wabantu abanobuqili nabuthathaka. Ngomzuzu xa uqala ukuhlonela wena, ungathetha ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba "andiyikukhwelela umntu".
Icandelo elihle lomona
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba umona unokuba luncedo. Ukuba unomona ngomnye umntu, zama ukuhlalutya indlela yalomntu ukuba uphumelele, inokushukumisela ukuba ube nengcamango efanelekileyo kwaye iya kuba yinto ekhuthaza ukuba usebenze ngokwakho kwaye ufikelele kwiindawo eziphakamileyo. Mhlawumbi ufuna enye imfundo ephakamileyo okanye ufunde ulwimi lwangaphandle, kwaye uya kufezekisa oko ufuna.