Uvakalelo lwengxabano luvela rhoqo ngamaxesha kunoma yimuphi umntu. Oku kubangelwa ukuba umntu, ngokwawo uhlala kwintlalo kunye nokungabikho kokunxibelelana kunye nethuba lokuzibonela kuluntu, lenza ukwesaba ukuhlala yedwa.
Uloyiko lokulunga aluveli kubantu abantu bezohlukeneyo zentlalo, isondo, iminyaka. Akukho mntu onokuzithemba nokunyaniseka angatsho ukuba akazange abe nemiva enjalo.
Ukulinganisa kuyahluke kwezinye iimvakalelo ngamava amaninzi kakhulu. Kwabanye umntu ukuhlushwa okungenakubekezeleka, kodwa kumntu uyithuba lokucinga ngokuphila. Ukuba unenkathalo malunga nendlela onokuyitshintsha ngayo ukwesaba ukodwa, ke le nqaku ikhethekileyo kuwe.
Indlela yokuphelisa ukwethuka kobulolo?
Ukuze unqobe ukwesaba kobuhlwempu, kuyimfuneko ukulandela imiyalelo yesinyathelo-nge-nyathelo.
- Yamkele u lonwabo. Ziqinisekise ukuba ukhululekile ukuhlala wedwa kunye nawe. Musa ukulibala ukuba ngeli xesha unamathuba amaninzi angenakunqandeka, phakathi kwazo kukho ixesha elininzi lokukhululeka kunye nokungabi naluthando kumntu.
- Hlaziya izizathu zoluvo. Mhlawumbi ukuthuthumela kwakho kunxulumene nokulahlekelwa ngumntu omnye kwaye unomlingiswa ngamnye.
- Nciphisa izizathu zokwesaba kwakho. Zama ukufumana abahlobo abatsha okanye ukutshintsha indawo yamarobhothi, ukutshintsha imeko kuya kunceda ukuvelisa ubomi bakho ubomi kunye nokunciphisa amava.
Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lonwabo?
Esinye isilungileyo esilungileyo ekulwa nokungahambelani kukuziphucula. Njengoko sele sele khankanywe ngasentla, ubumnandi, njengomthetho, uhamba kunye nexesha elininzi lokukhululeka, ngoko ungaphuthelwa umzuzu uze usebenze ngokwakho. Funda iincwadi, yenza ezemidlalo, uzikhathalele. Ngenxa yoko, ukukwazi ukuba ngumntu osebenza kakuhle, odibeneyo kunye nombonakalo okhangayo uya kukunceda ufumane abahlobo abatsha kwaye ulahlekise le phobia.