Oo, bangaphi abantu abazibuzayo malunga nawaphi na abafazi? Abaninzi babo nakusihlwa kunye nabahlobo babedelela kuphela ukuba bazi ukuba kwenzekani entloko yintanda.
Abafazi bacinga njani?
Ukuze uphendule umbuzo malunga nento abafazi abacinga ngayo, kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyahlula uhlobo lwesibini lokucinga kwindoda. Kwimeko efanayo, iingcamango zabasetyhini ziyahluka kwiingcamango zabantu. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba umntu unengqiqo, kodwa umntu uyisicuku, amadoda namabhinqa ahlukeneyo ahlukeneyo.
Amadoda angenangqiqo abandakanyeka kwiindawo zokuhlala ezingasekhohlo zengqondo, ezibanceda ukwakha udidi lwezenzo endleleni eya kwinjongo. Ukuba umntu ubhekene nenjongo, ngoko yonke iinjongo zakhe ziya kugxila kwiindlela zokufezekisa le njongo. Kwakhona, amadoda afana ukucinga ngenxa yenkqubo ngokwayo, kwizihloko ezichazwe kwinto yangempela, ngoko baninzi abamele isahlulo sobuntu phakathi kwezifilosofi.
Kwaye abafazi bacinga ntoni? Ekunene, ucingisise. Ngako oko, iingcamango zowesifazane aziyi kuhamba nombuzo omnye-uya kuba nexesha lokucinga malunga nengxelo yonyaka, kwaye zeziphi izicathulo ezithenga ngoMatshi 8, nokuba yintoni umyeni wakhe oza kudliwa namhlanje. Ladies abayithandi ukuphuhlisa imiyalelo ngeyathelo ngenjongo yokufezekisa injongo, babona umfanekiso oqhelekileyo kwaye bazi ukuba bangenelela nini. Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo izenzo zowesifazane zibonakala zingavumelani, zihambelana ngokupheleleyo. Kukho nelo lizwi elithi "abafazi abacingi, baceba." Ngenxa yokucamngca ngomxholo woxolo lwehlabathi okanye malunga nefilosofi yeklasi ye-Kant ininzi labesifazane abanomdla - oku akunakunceda nangayiphi indlela kwizinto eziphathekayo. Kodwa ukuceba inhlanganisela enkulu ukuze uthole inzuzo ebonakalayo kuwe, ifana nomfazi.
Ngaba kuyamangalisa ukuba ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokucinga, amadoda namabhinqa abakwazi ukuqonda? Ukunceda abafazi ngale ndlela, uSteve Harvey (owaziwayo kwi-TV ye-US ye-program kwinkqubo yesimo sengqondo ngesini) wabhala incwadi ethi "Yenza njengowesifazane, cinga njengomntu". Kulo umbhali ufundisa abafazi ukuba baqonde abameli bexeshana eliqinileyo lobuntu, kodwa ngelo xesha bacebisa ukuba bangamkeli indlela yokuziphatha yendoda. Ngaloo ndlela, ibhinqa liya kuhlala lihlala ngumfazi, kodwa liya kusindiswa kwiinkalo zokudumala ezinxulumene nezimvo ezingalunganga malunga nomntu wesilisa.
Abafazi bacinga ntoni ngesondo?
Ngaphambi koko, sathetha ngoqhagamshelwano lwabasetyhini ngokwemiqathango jikelele, kodwa ininzi yethu konke esinomdla kwizondo zesini. Kwaye ke, sinomdla ukwazi ukuba ngabafazi bacinga ntoni ngesondo.
- Okokuqala, kukufanelekile ukugxotha inkolelo yokuba abafazi abacingi ngesondo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye ukucinga okunjalo kuyinto ekhethekileyo kuphela kubantu abathandanayo. Ngokweziphumo zengqungquthela yeembono, abafazi bacinga ngesondo malunga namaxesha angama-34 kwimihla yokusebenza, malunga nayo yonke imizuzu eyi-15. Ukongezelela, i-70% yabasetyhini abadliwano-ndlebe bathetha ukuba bachitha kwiingcamango zesondo malunga neyure ngosuku.
- Ukuba abantu bafumanisa ukuba ngaba batyhini bacinga ntoni, ngexesha lesondo, baxhomeke. Ukuba umntu ucinga ngexesha lesini malunga nenkqubo, ke le ntokazi inokumnaka umthandi kwaye ibonakalise ngezinto ezixhomekeke kuyo-malunga nokuba kusekufuneka kwenziwe ntoni namhlanje, indlela umbhede obonakala ngayo kunye nezinto abavakalisi bacinga ngazo. Ingxenye yesithathu yabasetyhini abonisa ngezihlandlo kwisayithi lomlingani wabo omnye umntu, abanye bayalibala baze babize igama lomenzi wabo.
- Abafazi abasoloko bebona umtshato njengento yokuqhubeka ngokwesondo, abantwana kunye nabazukulwana.
Amantombazana ayazi nokuba nesondo ngenxa yenkqubo, kwaye ngexesha lethu, amantombazana aneminyaka engama-16 kuphela ahlazileyo ngendaba yothando kaEdward noBella abachaphazelekayo ngenxa yokuthandana. Phantse i-33% yabaphenduli bathi banohlobo "lwe-911", ngokubhekiselele kulowo afuna ukubiza ngesondo, xa "umzimba ufuna". - Phantse okwesithathu kwabasetyhini abanelisekanga ngobomi babo obusondeleyo, kwaye utshintsho luthintela umkhwa, umthwalo wemfanelo kunye nezinye izinto ezingenangqiqo zamorochki.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni: iingcamango zowesifazane omhle azikwazi ukuqondwa nantoni na, kwaye ukuba uyakwazi, uya kuqwengulwa - abancinci abayidingayo.