Abantu bayasabela ngokungafaniyo kwiimeko ezizungeze kuzo, kwaye ngokwemimiselo bangahlukana ngamaqela amabini: iindwendwe kunye nethemba. Iingcamango ziqhelekileyo, kodwa bambalwa abantu ngokuchanekileyo nangokuchanekileyo banokuchaza oko kuthethwa yinto engathembekiyo kunye nethemba. Kukho imigaqo ethile apho aba bantu bangabonakala khona, kodwa kwindlela yokuphila umntu unokunyuka ukusuka kwelinye iqela ukuya kwelinye.
Ngubani na ongenangxaki?
Okokuqala, makhe sijonge kwisichazi magama, apho kubhaliwe ukuba umntu onobunzima obona izinto ezimbi kuphela naziphi na iziganeko. Kuye, ihlabathi limelelwe ngezinga eliphezulu kumbala omnyama. Abaninzi babiza iinguqu zintlanzi, kuba bahlala bekhalaza ngobomi babo kunye nokungaphumeleli kwabo bajamelana nayo rhoqo. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba abantu abanengxaki yokugxekwa abanakubizwa ngokuba balahlekile, kuba banokuphumelela ebomini, bahlala beqaphela ubunzima bexesha. Kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele ukuba abantu abaneminyaka engama-100 ubudala abaye bahlangabezana nokudumala kunye neengxaki ezininzi, nto leyo eyenza bahlawule ingqalelo emacaleni amabi.
Ukuqhubeka ukuqonda oko kuthetha ukungathembeki, kubalulekile ukuthetha ukuba le "ilebula" ayikho isigwebo kwaye ngexesha lobomi umntu unokujonga izinto ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Yonke into incike kwiimeko kwaye ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle, isimo sengqondo sokungafihlisi siyaphela.
Uthini umahluko phakathi kwesigxina kunye nethemba?
- Iindwendwe zihlola ngokunyanisekileyo imeko kwaye zingabonakali ngokwabo, ngoko kulula ukuba zikwazi ukuxela kwangaphambili. Amaxesha amaninzi asebenzisa ukucinga okungengqiqo kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukuphazamisa ibha, ejongene nokudumala.
- Abathengi banethemba kwaye bakholelwa kwimiphumo emihle yeziganeko, ezinceda ukuba bangayeki kwaye bazame zabo.
- Iingcali zenzululwazi zikholelwa ukuba abantu abanesifo sengqondo banokuqonda ngakumbi, ngoko nangona bebuhlungu, kodwa ngelo xesha.
- Abanomdla bahlala bevuya ngakumbi, bebona izinto ezintle ezikuvumela ukuba ulwe nemeko emibi kwaye kulula ukunyamezela imeko.
Ukuze ungadluli, kukulungele ukufumana "intsingiselo yegolide" ukuvavanya ngokufanelekileyo izinto ezizungezekileyo kwaye ungakheli izilwanyana.
Ungaba njani ithemba kwi-pessimist?
Iingcali zengqondo zithi wonke umntu unelungelo lokutshintsha ukucinga kwakhe kwaye afunde ukujonga ihlabathi ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Indlela yokuyeka ukuba yintlupheko:
- Akufuneki ukuba ukhangele ityala lokuphulwa kwabo. Cinga ngabo njengamava, apho kubalulekile ukufikelela kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo, ukuze ungabhekana neengxaki ezinjalo.
- Kholelwa ngamandla akho. Musa ukuzibandakanya kwi-self-flagellation, nokuba ufuna ukujongana nokuhluleka. Ukukholelwa emandleni akho kuya kuba yinto ebalulekileyo yokukhuthaza ukuba ungayimali kwaye uzama ukuphumelela kwakhona.
- Zixhamle nabantu abanezinto ezintle, kuba zombini umzekelo omhle nombi "uphathekayo."
- Ukuphelisa ebomini bakho izinto ezibuhlungu kwaye zibuhlungu. Ukuba kufuneka wenze umsebenzi ongathandekiyo, zama ukujongana nabo ekuseni.
- Funda iincwadi ezintle, jonga ama-movie uze uzijikeleze ngamava ahlukeneyo. Kunconywa ukuba uhambe nayiphi na ithuba, ufumane ukubonakala okutsha.
- Isalathiso esona sikhulu somxhasi ngumncinci. Zama ukumomotheka ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye nakwiibuko. Ukumomotheka ngeenxa zonke unako ukufumana umvuzo obalaseleyo wemvakalelo emihle. Oku kuphela kusebenza ngokumomotheka.
- Fumana umsebenzi oza kuphazamisa iingxaki kwaye uvelise iimvakalelo ezintle.