Ukuqinisekisa

Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iimeko xa umntu ehlazisa, ecaphukisa abanye abantu ngomzamo wokuzibhokoxa, ukunyelisa abanye, uvakalelwa ngakumbi. Kubukeka buhlazo, kodwa ngokwenene imfuneko yokuzimela ngokusoloko ibubi, mhlawumbi lo mnqweno ungokoqobo?

Iinjongo zokuzimela

Enyanisweni, imfuno yokuzimela-yinto enye yezona zidingo ezibalulekileyo ezikhuthaza ukuziphatha kwabantu. Ibonakalisa kwiinjongo zomntu ukufumana ukuqwalaselwa kumanqanaba athile-ootitshala, ezentlalo kunye noluntu. Ngaloo ndlela, iinjongo zokuqinisekisa ngokwabo ziba ngumnqweno wokuphucula isikhundla somntu, ukufumana igunya, nokwenza umsebenzi ophumelelayo.

Ukuziqinisekisa ngokwabo kuyindlela ebalulekileyo yolwazi. Ukususela ekuziqinisekeleni, sisebenzisana nabantu abazungezile, kwaye oku kusenza sikwazi ukubona indawo yethu ebantwini, ukuqonda ukuxabiseka kwethu, kunye nokucinga ngokuzibona kwethu ngaphakathi - sifunda ngakumbi malunga neminqweno kunye namathuba ethu.

Kwaye, ke, asimele sikhohlwe malunga neengxaki zokuqinisekiswa komntu ngamnye kwiqela, le nkqubo iyimfuneko ekusebenzeni kwendawo yakhe, kuba ngamnye umntu emsebenzini (ngexesha loqeqesho) unesimo esithile. Iindlela zokuziqinisekisa ngokwabo zikhethwa ngumntu wonke - ngenxa yokuthotywa kwabanye, ngenxa yobuchule babo bobugcisa okanye i-charm yomuntu. Okokuthi, umnqweno wokudibanisa kunye nokubeka isikhundla somntu kwintlalo kwaye ayinakugwetywa, kodwa nali iindlela zokufezekisa le njongo kangangoko banako - abakhohlisi abanelisekanga abanqweneli nabani na, ngakumbi ukuba lowo ngumphathi.

Ukuziqinisekisa ngokuzibiza ngabanye

Yintoni elula: ukuzihlakulela kwaye ufumane imvume kunye nokuqatshelwa koogxa kunye nabahlobo okanye ngokukodwa ukuba ungakhathazeki ngabo kwaye uhlazise abanye abantu, besithi abaqondi nto into ebomini, kodwa uyazi njani wena kuphela? Ngokucacileyo, indlela yesibini kulula, akufuneki ukuba usebenzise nayiphi na imizamo ekhethekileyo, into eyona nto kukukholelwa kwilungelo lakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda asebenzisa le ndlela yokuzimela, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokufuna kwabo ukulwa nokuphumelela.

Kodwa ungacingi ukuba abantu abanjalo babunobungakanani bemvelo yabo, ngenxa yokuba isininzi sisisizathu sokuphuhliswa kwesi sigqibo ukungabikho kwenkxaso kunye nothando ebuntwaneni, ukuxhalaba kwexesha elide, ukwesaba abantu, ubundlobongela ngengqondo olunikezwa ngabantu abasondeleyo, ootitshala nabafundisi. Abantu abanjalo bahlala bexhatshaza, jonga Ndithembele kakhulu, kodwa yinto engummangalo, phantsi komntu obesabayo ongenakho ukufudumala nokunyamekela. Abantu abazama ukuzomeleza ngale ndlela bayaziwayo, bazive bephantsi kwabo kwaye besaba ukungena kwi-confrontation evulekile nabanye abantu, bonke banenkalipho yokunyuka ngaphezu komntu ngokumthobela. Ingxaki kukuba kwintsimi yombono wabantu abanjalo yilabo abangakwazi ukuzikhusela ukuxhatshazwa, ngobuntu obuqinileyo abaqhelekanga ukuhlaselwa.

Ukuzimela ngokusoloko kubonakala njengendlela yokukhusela okumele ikhusele umntu kwiimeko ezibuhlungu. Ukuba umntu akanalo nxalenye yento yokuzithemba, ngoko kukho ukuziphakamisa. Indoda izama ukuzibhokoxa ukuze ilandelelanise iimpazamo zakhe. Ngoko ke, abantu abanjalo badinga uncedo kunye nesimo sengqondo somhlobo, kuba ukukwazi kwabo ukuzibamba ngaphandle kokubandezela abanye abantu, kubangela ukuba bangonwabi, abavumeli ukuba baveze ngokupheleleyo amandla abo.