Umona ubenza uzive ubi. Okokuqala ufumana ukuphuza kwegazi kwingqondo, ngokuqinisekileyo "izibilini" zomsindo, ukuba umntu unalo into ongenayo, unenzondo, ulaka, unqwenela omnye umntu ukuba enze okubi, kwaye uziva nje ukutshabalalisa, ukuncipha kwamandla, ukudumala. Konke oku kunokugwenywa, ukwazi indlela yokujongana nomona.
Ukusebenza ngathi
Okokuqala, xa uvakalelwa ukuqala kwemvelaphi yaloo mvakalelo eyingozi, umntu kufuneka afunde ukuguqula ibe yinyameko. Ukulwa nomona kuyindlela yokukhupha into evelisayo kule nto.Ngoko, umhlobo wakho uthenge imoto kwaye, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, cinga ngako, perepihivayas kwindlela engaphantsi kwehora elikhawulezayo. Uqala ukuba "umoya": bathi, uhlala unenhlanhla ebomini ngaphantsi kwabanye, kwaye le "twirl" isesandleni sonke. Apha ufanele uthi kuwe "yima": nje into oyibiza ngokuthi "umthamo" womntu onomhlobo wakho, onokuzikhumbula ezininzi. Zibuze, ngaba ufuna imoto? Mhlawumbi ulungile kwaye akunjalo, kwaye awukwazi ukuqhuba? Yaye ukuba ufuna imoto, kutheni ungahambelani kwindlela eya kwimpumelelo yayo?
Le yodwa indlela yokulwa nomona xa sele iqalile. Yenza into yokuba umona ungabalulekanga ("andiyidingi imoto"), okanye ndiqondise imizamo yam yokuphumeza into enomona ("ixesha elide lokufumana omnye umsebenzi oza kukuvumela ukuba ugcine imoto").
Ukuzivocavoca ukuphucula ukuzithemba
Kukho iindlela zokuphelisa umona, njengento ebalulekileyo, kodwa oku kufuna umsebenzi omningi kuwe. Ngexesha elifanayo, khumbula, akunakwenzeka ukuba ulahlekelwe ngu-100% waloo mvakalelo, kuba umona uyinxalenye yobuntu bethu.
Phinda ulo hlobo lokuqinisekisa :
- "Ndiyinto endiyiyo!";
- "Ndiyodwa, kwaye ndiyakuthanda njengaye!";
- Ubomi bam, andifuni ukulifanisa nabani na! ".
Cinga rhoqo malunga noko unakho. Ngeke ucasulwe ngokuphakamisa intombi xa uvuyiswa kwishedyuli yakho yamahhala.
Cinga ngalabo abangenayo into enayo. Ukuba ukhumbule ngomhlobo oqeshisa indlu, awuyi kuthukuthela umntu owathengile igumbi elithathu, ngokuba unomntu ono-20 umzi wakho, umhlobo wakho wokuqala angenawo.
Xa unomona
Ekuqalekeni, siyakuvuyela into yokuba siyinto enomona. Ukuba unomona, ngoko uphumelele oko kungaphezu kwamandla abanye. Kodwa sicinga malunga nendlela yokujongana nomona wabanye kuphela xa le ngxaki engqongeyo iqalisa ukwenza ngokwenene ubomi bethu.
Ukuze unqwenela ubungendawo, kuya kubakho ukuziqhayisa ngaphaya kweempumelelo zakho kunye nokwabelana ngolonwabo kuphela ngabantu abathembekileyo, ababenomona ongaluthandana. Musa ukwabelana ngeempumelelo kunye nalabo, ekuphenduleni koku, banqwenela ukungonwabi, ngaphandle koko baya kubakhokelela emnyango wakho, kuba iingcinga zizinto eziphathekayo.