Kwimimandla yanamhlanje, ukuzalwa ngokubambisana kunye nokuqeqeshwa kwabazali bobabini ngokuzalwa komntwana kuqhutyelwa ngakumbi. Oku akukona nje umthambo, kodwa yinkqubo yemvelo kwaye iyimfuneko. Zingaphi iimeko apho umntwana eba yintloko endlwini kwaye umama omncane unqabile ukuphawula umyeni wakhe, kwaye ubaba omncinci ngokwakhe ukhuselwe ngokupheleleyo kwintsapho yakhe.
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Okokuqala, kuyafaneleka ukuba uqonde ukuba akukho mfana onokuze abe ngumzali onoxanduva, ukuba akavumelekanga kuye. Xa ibhinqa linikezela ukusila kwaye lenqaba ukufumana uncedo kwiintsapho zakhe ekunyamekeleni umntwana, oku kukhokelela ekubeni ihlabathi elihlangeneyo lidibene ngokuzimela.
Ngoko umfazi akufanele nje afune ukuba umyeni wakhe abe nguyise ofanelekileyo, kodwa uncede uncede. Ngaloo ndlela, umsebenzi wokuqala kunye nomsebenzi oyintloko wendoda wayehlala emthanda umfazi kwaye amnyamekele. Umlingane othandekayo kunye nomoya onokulinganisela unokuba ngumama opheleleyo.
Abanye abantwana abancinci banqabile ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kulondolozo lwentsana ngezizathu ezininzi eziqondakalayo:
- umfazi uthatha yonke into kwaye uzama ukufumana ubungqina obunzima (ukwenqaba uncedo lunokubonwa njengokugxothwa kubomi bentsapho jikelele, ngenxa yentshukumo nokungafuni ukuncedisa kwimicimbi engathandekiyo);
- ungathembeki kwaye uloyiko lokuba iqabane aliyi kukwazi ukujamelana nale nto okanye loo msebenzi (oku kudla ngokuhlazisa isidima sakhe kwaye kubangele ukuba izandla zakhe ziyeke);
- ukugxekwa rhoqo (ungalokothi ufumane isohlwayo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye umnike ithuba lokufunda ukunyamekela umntwana, mhlawumbi uya kulahlekelwa ixesha lakhe emva kwexeshana).
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Ukuba okokuqala umfazi wenza konke okulungileyo, iqabane aliyi kuva nzima kwaye liya kufunda ukuncedisa umntwana ngaphandle kweengxaki. Yincedo lobazali bomntwana obangela kakhulu ekudibanisaneni kwintsapho, kungekhona nje imizuzu embalwa kumama, kodwa kunye nethuba lokumazi umntwana. Imisebenzi yomntwana omncinci akuzona izinto ezininzi, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukuba afunde indlela yokuhlangabezana nayo.
- Yiba nembono yeengongoma eziphambili ekunyamekeleni komntwana. Kwenzeka ukuba unina kufuneka ukuba angabikho kwithuba elithile okanye ukunyuka okukhulu kwemiba yasekhaya ayikwazi ukuhlehliswa. Umyeni akufanele akwazi ukunika isiselo okanye ukutya. Utshintsho oluthile lwe-diaper okanye utshintsha iingubo, ukululalisa i-tummy massage , i-gymnastics elula akufanele kube nzima kuye.
- Qwayelana nerekhodi yonyango lomntwana wakho. Njengomthetho, ujikelezo lokuqala kunye nosana eklinikhi lwenziwa ngumama nogogo. Ngenxa yoko, abanye abapapa abayazi kakuhle iqela legazi lomntwana wabo okanye bafumane ubunzima ezintandathu ezintandathu. Ebomini, iimeko ezininzi ezingalindelekanga zenzeke kwaye bobabini abazali bafanele baqaphele zonke iingongoma ezibalulekileyo zetshathi yonyango yomntwana wabo (ukunganyamezeli okanye ukungahambi kakuhle kweziyobisi ezithile, iziganeko ezinokuthi zikhona zomzimba okanye izifo).
- Ukuxhasa umfazi kwiinyanga ezintandathu zokuqala emva kokubeletha kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyimfuneko yokwenza. Abasetyhini bahlala besifo ngenxa yokudandatheka kwaye baqala ukudiliza abo bathandekayo. Ukunciphisa ubunzima kwaye ezinye iinguqu zokubonakala kwazo zivivinywa kubazali bobabini. Ukuphazamiseka kwemiqobo kunye nenkxaso kubaluleke kakhulu.
Nangona ubomi ngaphambi kokuba kuzalwe imvumba kwaba yinkampani yowesifazane kuphela, ngoku iqabane liza kufuneka lithathe ezinye zezoshishino. Akukho mntu ucela ukutshintshwa okupheleleyo komfazi wakhe ekhitshini okanye ukucoca ngokuqhelekileyo imihla ngemihla. Kodwa ukutya nokugula kobusuku kusekhona into, kwaye ibhinqa idinga uncedo. - Abantwana bangathatha inxaxheba yokuhamba kunye nosana, xa esondliwa kwaye ezolile, ixesha lokubambisana emoyeni liya kuncedisa bobabini.
Vumelana ukuba iimfuno azizinzile. Kwanele ukuxoxa ngale ndoda ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana kwaye uyilungiselele. Emva koko iqabane liza kuthatha ngokungenanto kwaye ngaphandle kokukholisa liya kuqala ukuthatha inxaxheba echaphazelayo ekutshintsheni i-diapers nokuhlamba i-slide.