"Ndidiniwe yinto yonke, andifuni nantoni na!" - indlela engabonakaliyo ngayo la mazwi, eyokuqala, engabonakaliyo. Enyanisweni, isikhundla esinjalo sibonisa ukuxinezeleka okude kunokuba kunokusixhalabisa thina, bafazi, ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo: mhlawumbi ngenxa yedwa, okwenza ukuba uzive ungento nto kwixesha elizayo lobomi bakho, okanye iingxaki emsebenzini ofuna ukuba ube namandla, Nangona ubunzima besibhakabhaka besifazane, kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi. Nangona kunjalo, kuyimfuneko ukulahla igama elithi "ukhathele": jonga ngapha kwaye ubone ukuba ubomi buhle, kwaye ngumzekelo walo, ukuzibonakalisa ukuba yonke into ingatshintshwa.
Kuthekani ukuba ndigula ngayo yonke into?
Okokuqala, akukho nto into yokuba into ephazamisayo: into entle ebomini yinto into ongeke ufune ukuyenza: abazali, izifuyo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, kunye nawa maqabunga ekwindla ewaphumele ngaphandle kwefestile kunye neentaka, ukukhwaza ekuseni, xa wenza ikhofi-yenza ubomi buhle.
Ngoko ke, into yokuqala yokwenza ukuba ubomi bubuhlungu kukuba kubandakanye ingqwalasela nokugcina indawo. Kufuneka ukuba utshintshe kwi-ego yakho eyalimalayo, echaza loo ndawo: "Kwimi kubi, ngoko ubomi bubuhlungu kwaye bundibamba."
Ukukhathala kokuphila -yintoni oyenzayo?
Ukuba ukhathazekile ngobomi, ngoko kufuneka wenze umsebenzi wengqondo ngokwakho, kunye nalo, uqinise umzimba wakho, kwaye utshintshe indlela yokuphila encinane.
- Isaziso ngokukhawuleza, ukufunda amabali amnandi, ukubukela ama-comedies. Ungazivumeli udimazeke, ungakhuthazi umbuso we-dreary: shintshela kwezi zihlandlo emsebenzini ofuna ukunakwa.
- Ukuba ukhathala ngokuqhelekileyo, kufuneka uvelise ubomi kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo: indlela elula yokwenza oku kuhamba ngeentlanganiso kunye nabahlobo bamandulo, ungabhalisela iikhosi ezithandayo. Ukuba ukudandatheka okugqithiseleyo ebusika, kunye nekhephu kuphelelwe ngaphandle kwewindow, wuleza umnxeba wakho omhle uze uhambe ngekhefu kunye kunye, utywala. Unokwenza umehluko ebomini ngoncedo lohambo oluya kwesinye isixeko: ukutyelela indawo ezinomdla kwaye uphume kwiimeko zakho.
- Ukuba yonke into ikhawuleza, ithetha ukuba kufuneka ufumane. Olu phando aluphelelanga nonke impumelelo, kodwa umphumo ufanelekile ukuzama. Cinga, yintoni umsebenzi onokukwenza ube nemvakalelo enamandla kunye novuyo? Mhlawumbi kulungele ukuzama ukwenza i-yoga, okanye ukuthunga, ukufunda ubugcisa bokubhala kunye nemifanekiso yokubhala, okanye mhlawumbi uthanda ukubhala kwaye unokubhala ibali elincomekayo okanye uqhube iblogi ezonwabisa kwi-intanethi? Zinike ixesha lakho lokufumana isifundo esiyintandokazi enokuba ngumsebenzi wakho.
- Kwakhona, ixesha elide lokuphelelwa lithemba alinakho izizathu ezingokwengqondo ezifana nezobomi: ukungabikho kokuqala kwamavithamini (ngakumbi i-B-complex) engabangela imeko ye-asthenic. Ukuba uziva unengxaki yokuphazamiseka, kufuneka uqhagamshelane ne-neurologist echaza ukuba ngaba-anti-depressants, kodwa, akufanele ubeke ezinye iithemba ezikhethekileyo kuzo: iipilisi zinefuthe lesigxina, kwaye ukuba awufundile indlela yokujongana nokudandatheka, kuya kufuneka uxhomekeke kumachiza, kwaye le Kwakhona, kunokubangela ukudandatheka.
- Ukuba ukhathele yedwa, okwenza uhlale ukhala, ngoko, ngokuqhelekileyo, kuyinqweneleka ukufumana ulingane. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba, ekubeni ebudlelwaneni nomntu, umfazi usenesiva. Oku kwenzekayo xa umntu engenalo ulwalamano olusondeleyo nalo naluphi na umntu ophilayo, ngoko ke into yokuqala yokuyenza kukuba ube nomhlobo. Ingaba isilwanyana okanye umntu, lowo umthandayo kwaye obaluleke kakhulu ngubani onokukunika lo thando.
- Ukuba ukhathele ukuba uqine, kufuneka ufumane umntu ongenakho ukubonisa iimpawu ezinamandla. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqina ngamandla kuthetha ukuba ukhululeke, kuba umntu obuthathaka uyaxhomekeka. Ukunyaniseka kubonisa ukuba udinga uthando ngomntu, njalo
kuphela i-panacea luhlobo oluthile lokuthembela. - Ukuba ukhathele ngabantu, ngoko kufanelekile ukuthatha iholide elifutshane kwaye ube yedwa. Ukuba unentsapho enkulu - hamba iveki ukuya kwesinye isixeko: hlala ehotele, uye kwindawo yokuthenga, uhambe ukhangele, ufunde iincwadi. Unelungelo lakho, ngoko ke akukho nto ukuba uyanyamalala kwithuba elithile kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo.
Zonke ezi ngongoma zinzima kakhulu ukuphumeza, ukuba uthando aluhlali entliziyweni yakho, ngoko ke ukonyango obaluleke kakhulu ekudakaleni kukuthanda nokunika abanye uthando.