Abahlobo ngabantu ababethembayo kwaye balungele ukwenza izinto ezingathandekiyo. Baya kunceda kwiimeko ezinzima kwaye bayaxhaswa. Phakathi kwabo, ngokuqhelekileyo, uvelwano, ukunyaniseka nokuhlonipha. Njengomthetho, entliziyweni yobunqwenela iimfuno kunye nezinto ezinomdla. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buvela ngexesha lokunciphisa ubunzima.
Kulungile xa kukho abahlobo abasondelene nathi abangathembekileyo baze bathethe ngeento zonke. Sonke sidinga ukunxibelelana, kodwa ngelishwa, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje izimo ezinjalo zenziwa ukuba kube nzima ukufumana abahlobo, kwaye ubuhlobo obudala buyeke ukuqina kwaye bulahlekelwe ixesha. Omnye akanalo ubudlelwane nabantu abakujikelezile, kwaye umntu nje akakwazi ukufumana abahlobo ngenxa yobungcali babo.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokufumana abahlobo.
Unokufumana njani abahlobo abatsha?
Abahlobo abatsha banemizwa emitsha, iimpawu ezintsha kunye neentlobo ezintsha. Zininzi izinto ezintle, kodwa ukukhangela abazalwana abaqhelanga ngokukhawuleza kubangele kwisiphumo esifanelekileyo, kuba ubungani abawuthobeli imithetho enengqiqo. Kodwa ukuba, ufuna ukufumana abahlobo, ngoko kufuneka ube sebudeni ukuyenza. Kwaye injongo yakho yokuqala kukunxibelelana. Ukufuna abahlobo kukuhle kwiindawo apho abantu bahlala khona kwizinto ezidibanisa zona, umzekelo: iqela lomsebenzi, iqela lezempilo okanye i-disco. Hlangana nabantu abanomdla kuwe kwaye uchithe ixesha kunye. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kokuthetha nomntu, uyaqonda ukuba unomdla naye. Ngokukhawuleza unquma ukuba ufuna ukuyenza njengomhlobo.
Yenza konke okusemandleni ukufumana abahlobo kwaye ube ngabahlobo ngokwakho, ngoko iinzame zakho ziya kuthathwa ngumoya uphumelele!
Unokufumana njani abahlobo bokwenene?
Ngamaxesha onke, ubungqina bokwenene abuyi kuvela, kufuneka luphuhliswe kwaye lutyalomali. Ngoko ke, wena ngokwakho kufuneka ube ngumhlobo wenene kwaye ke, ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abafanayo baya kutsalwa kuwe.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuseka ubuhlobo obunqinileyo obusetyhini okanye ubuhlobo nomntu, akufuneki ukuba ufune abahlobo phakathi kwamanye amazwe. Ukuba unabo bahlobo, kungcono ukuqinisa nokuphuhlisa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, kuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo komnye nomnye. Abahlobo abadala abazinikeleyo bayisipho esinqabileyo, kwaye ufanelwe ukuxabiswa nokuxabiswa ngabo.
Ngendlela, ukuze ube nabahlobo bokwenene, akwanele nje ukufuna, kufuneka wenze umgudu nomzamo ngokwakho.
Okokuqala, kufuneka ufunde ukuqonda umntu, nangona unokuba nembono eyahlukileyo kwinto ethile. Kwakhona unokukwazi ukuvuyela ngokunyanisekileyo, oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukongezelela, kufuneka uyanelisekile, nangona loo mntu engenzi kakuhle kuwe ngokuchanekileyo. Kodwa khumbula, ukunyaniseka akufanele kube yindlela yokusebenzisa.
Umhlobo onyanisekileyo akayena owenza iimpazamo, kodwa owaziyo ukuxolela.