Wonke umntu unamava amnandi kunye namava. Lobu bubomi, kwaye abuquki nje ngexesha elivuyisayo, kodwa kunye nokudumala, izikhalazo kunye neempazamo. Akuyena wonke umntu ofumana amandla okwamkela ubomi bakhe obudlulileyo kwaye ahlupheke, evezwe ngumsindo, athukuthele aze afike kwi-neurosis. Indlela yokuxolela iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo, siza kuxela kule nqaku.
Ungazixolela njani iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo-iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba into eyenziwe ayikwazi ukulungiswa, kwaye ke akunakukwazi ukutshintsha nayiphi na i-flagellation. Nangona kunjalo, unokunciphisa isimo sakho sengqondo xa ucela ukuxolelwa kumntu ophethe iingcamango zakho. Ewe, akulula, ngakumbi ukuba kukho ukuqinisekiswa ukuba kuya kuthathwa ngokungathandekiyo, kodwa nokuba yintoni isabela ngayo, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba lula kuba wena ngokwakho uza kwenza le nyathelo lokuqala. Abo banomdla wokuzixolela ngokwenza iimpazamo, ukuba umntu okhutshwe nguwe usuye waya kwelinye ihlabathi kwaye awukwazi ukucela ukuxolelwa, unokukucebisa ukuba uza kuzivuma kumbingeleli uze uphenduke kwizono zakho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana amazwi enduduzo kwaye kuya kuba lula. Abantu abaninzi abacingi malunga nokuxolela iimpazamo, kodwa esi sisipho umntu azenzayo kuye. I-samoydstvo engapheli iholele kuphela kwi-neuroses kunye nezifo kwaye into eyona nto eyenziwa ngumntu ukufefa intloko ngomlotha. Ukuphila kwixesha elidlulileyo, kubonakala ngathi sinamathele kuyo, ukuba ngokwethu kunye nekamva. Ixesha lokutshintsha yonke into, ukujonga umhlaba ngokuqinisekileyo kunye nokuzimisela okufanayo ukuxolela abanye ngenxa yeempazamo zabo, kuba asithandi omnye umntu wazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuhlala nomthwalo entliziyweni yakho.
Ngokuyeka ukukhawulelwa kunye nokwesaba kwabantu, umntu ukhululeka kwaye uphakame ngaphezu kwengxaki. Uyeka ukumkhathaza, kwaye uyabulela isiphephelo kwisifundo kunye namava afundiswayo kwaye ukholelwa ukuba oku kukho konke ebomini bakhe akuyi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona.