Ingxaki ihlala ingena kwintsapho ingaboni. Okokuqala, umntu usela kwieholide - "njengabantu bonke". Emva koko kubonakala ukuba unomsebenzi ophazamisayo, kwaye ngeempela-veki kufuneka 'aphumule umphefumlo wakhe' - kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngotywala. Kwaye ke kuvela ukuba umyeni wam waqala ukusela rhoqo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo akaqapheli oku. Ndingayenza ntoni ukuba indoda yam isela?
Umyeni ukusela - indlela yokuziphatha?
Nangona intsapho inobungane obuhle, oku akusiqinisekiso sokuba loo mntu akayi kuba neengxaki zokusela utywala, ngakumbi ukuba ungumntu onentlalontle apho abahlobo bakhe bangaphezu kwazo zonke. Abafazi abaninzi banqwenela ukuba umyeni wakhe ayeke ukusela, kodwa njani oku kufezwa?
Njengomthetho, umntu oba ngumlutha akaqapheli iingxaki zakhe. Nangona umyeni esela ubhiya imihla ngemihla, kuba kuye into enokuba yinto ephumayo. Nangona kunjalo, emva kwalolu hlobo lukho ingxaki enkulu - ubisi bokusela utywala . Olu hlobo lubhekwa njengenye yeyona ndlela inzima kakhulu yobunxila, kuba umntu uthi - "Andiyiphuzi vodka!" Okanye "yinto nje ibhotile yobhiya!". Ukuba uphazamisa ukusela, njengomthetho, umntu uyaba nomsindo kwaye angavumi ukuphulaphula iingcamango ezinokuthula kunye nezingqinisiso, kungabikho ukukrokra kunye neentlanzi.
Njengomthetho, ngaphambi kokuba kuvele "iifowuni" zokuqala umntu akaqapheli ingxaki yakhe. Kwimisebenzi yabo inokuba yingozi kwimeko yokuxhatshazwa, ukulahleka kwezinto ezixabisekileyo, ukulimala kwimoto okanye enye impahla, iingxaki emsebenzini, iingxaki zempilo ezinzulu. Kuze umntu abone imiphumo emibi yokubanjwa kwakhe, iziphakamiso kuye aziyi kusebenza. Nangona konke kulungile, zonke iingcamango zakho "ngendlela yokukholisa umyeni wakho ukuba ayeke ukusela" akunakwenzeka ukuba nefuthe elihle.
Ungamphoqa umyeni wakhe ukuba ayeke ukusela?
Umbuzo wendlela yokusinceda siphuze umyeni unzima kakhulu kwaye awunayo impendulo ecacileyo. Ukuba indoda imthanda kakhulu umfazi wayo, unokusongela ukuhlukana, kodwa kungekhona into yokuba oku kuya kunika umphumo. Ngokuchanekileyo, umphumo wempembelelo enjalo iya kuba yinto echanekileyo: umyeni uthintela isiselo - umfazi wayesongela ngokuqhawula umtshato - umyeni wayeka ukusela - ubuhlobo bubuyiselwe - umyeni waqala ukusela aze aphinde afike kwiinkcukacha ezindala.
Yingakho kungengqiqo ukucinga malunga nendlela yokukholisa, ukukholisa okanye ukuphoqa indoda ukuba ingaphuzi. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda izizathu, kwaye ukulwa nemiphumo.
Indlela yokunceda umyeni wakhe ayeke ukusela?
Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda aqala ukusela ngexesha lobunzima lobomi. Kwaye ukuba ukuphathwa kakubi komyeni wakhe kubangelwa kukuba ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi okanye ufumana ingxaki enkulu, kuyafaneleka ukuzama ukumnceda ngengqondo. Kubalulekile ukuba ungayigxothe intlungu yakhe, kodwa ukudala umoya othembekileyo kwaye uncede akhulume. Musa ukumgxeka, mxelela nje ukuba bakulungele ukumphulaphula, kwaye wabelane naye ngomthwalo weengxaki zakhe. Unokuzama ukulungelelanisa ebomini bakhe uvuyo oluncinane, kumxhasa, wenze konke ngokucophelela kwaye ngokukhawuleza - kwaye, mhlawumbi, uya kufumana amandla okubuyela kwimpilo evamile.
Uqhinga lokungaphuzi umyeni
Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba unyango lotywala lunokuncedwa ngumlingo. Kukho iqela leengceba ezijoliswe kule nto. Ngokomzekelo, umfazi angasukuma ebusuku kunye neenyawo zendoda elele utywala, kwaye ufunde:
Ndive, Nkosi, ubone,
ukuba ndifuna ukwenza ngaphezu komzimba womkhonzi wakho (igama).
Kwaye ndifuna ukumguqula kwi-potion.
Iingcamango ze-fetid, i-potion eziyingozi, akuyimfuneko!
Uyiphilisa, uphilisi wethu!
Uya kukuphulaphula aze ayeke ukusela!
Amen. Amen. Amen ยป
Nangona kunjalo, iqhinga liyingozi kwaye ayinakulinganiswa, kwaye ukuba awuyiyo inkohlakalo ngokuzalwa kwaye awuzange ube ngumlutha kumlingo, kungcono ukuba ungazami. Konke okuvela kummandla ongaziwa, kungcono ukuba ungaphazamisi ebomini bakho - ngenxa yokungabi nolwazi unokwenza okubi ngaphezu kokulungileyo.
Umyeni wakhe wayeka ukusela ...
Kuze kube yimhla, iindlela eziphambili ziyakubhalisa . Fumana ikliniki enhle uze apho. Oogqirha banokukunceda ufumane indlela kumntu uze uvuyise ekhaya lakho.