Ukucacisa, okanye ukuqonda, ukukwazi ukuziphatha ngokuzibamba, ngokuhambelana nemimiselo yokuziphatha. Abantu abanengqiqo, banomdla kwaye banomdla ekukhulumisaneni, abazithobeli kuphela ukungazivumeli ngokwabo, kodwa bayazi ukuba baqonde njani umxhasi, kwaye ungavumeli iimeko ezihlazo.
Kuthetha ntoni "umntu onobuqili"?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekwahlula ukuziphatha ngokucokisekileyo, ingakwazi ukucinga nje ngeminqweno yakho, iimfuno kunye nezizathu zokukhuthaza, kodwa nangendlela ekulungeleyo kwaye enomdla ngayo. Ngoko, umzekelo, umntu onengqiqo akayi kutyhola inkampani yakhe xa umntu ekhulile kwaye engalahli ukuthetha. Okanye, umzekelo, akayi kubuza malunga neenkcukacha zesiganeko okanye isiganeko esicacileyo ukuba umntu akafuni ukuxoxa.
Njengomthetho, umntu onengqiqo unempawu ezinjalo:
- thozama;
- ukuqina;
- ukukwazi ukulawula iinqwenela zomntu;
- ukukwazi uvelwano ;
- ukukwazi ukuphulaphula kuphela, kodwa ukuva abanye;
- ukukwazi ukuzibeka kwindawo yomnye umntu.
Kucacile ekunxibelelaniseni okubonisa indlela umntu angakwazi ngayo ukuziphatha ngayo kuluntu. Kwaye isibonakaliso esona sikhulu xa umntu engacacanga nje emsebenzini okanye ngezinye iintlanga, kodwa ngokunxulumene nabathandekayo babo.
Ulwaphulo lwezobuchule kunye noqhagamshelwano: njani ukufunda?
Unako ukwazi ngeentliziyo zonke iincwadi zezifundo kwi-label, kodwa ngokulandela imigaqo nje akuthethi ukuba uya kuba ngumnxibelelwano onobuchule. Ukuze uhlakulele ingqiqo, kuyimfuneko ukuphuhlisa izici kunye nezakhono ezinjalo:
- Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ngaphambi kokuba wenze isicelo okanye unikezele, zama ukubeka kwindawo yomnye. Ngaba kufanelekile kuwe ngoku ukuva amagama akho? Ngaba abazithinti iimvakalelo zakhe? Ngaba baya kumphoqa ukuba ayeke iiplani ezicwangcisiweyo ngokukhawuleza? Ngaba kulungile ukuba akhulume ngoku? Khawucinge ngendlela oya kuthatha ngayo, ndikuxelele ngoku la mazwi. Kwaye kuphela xa ungaboni nto ephosakeleyo kule nto, inokuthi ibhengezwe.
- Ukukhokelwa ngumbono wokulinganisela: ungagxininisi kumntu onemibuzo, i-quibbles okanye iincoma.
- Umthetho kwimeko, kuba kwindawo nganye ibonakala efanelekileyo
imodeli yokuziphatha. - Behave ngokwemvelo, thintela kwiindlela kunye nomdlalo ogqithiseleyo.
- Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ukulawula iimvakalelo : musa ukuhleka, ungadanduluki, ungamemeza ngovuyo.
Namhlanje abantu abanobuqiliba baqhekeza. Umntu onengqiqo akafundanga kuphela kwaye uhloniphekile, kodwa uyazi nokuba angayibeka njani abanye kwisimo esinamahloni, uvakalelwa imida yoqhagamshelwano kwaye ngoko ke ihlala ihle kwaye ikhululekile kwingxoxo.