UThixo wadala abafazi abahlukeneyo. Apha asikhulumi nje ngedatha yangaphandle, kodwa nakwiimpawu zobuqu. Kukho ukuthembela, umona, ukuqonda, ukuhlambalaza, ukungalingani, ububele, abafazi abanomona, ngoko akumangalisi ukuba nakubambiswano kunye nabanye abameli besondo obuthakathaka, sihlala sixabana. Ewe, ukuba imeko "yomelele" ayizange ibe nemiphumo, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba ukuxabana nentombi yangaphambili kuyinto engamnandi emphefumlweni. Kule meko, amaninzi amabhinqa entloko yesandi sengcamango "Ndifuna ukuphindiselela kumoni," kuba nje ukulibala oko kwenzekayo akunakwenzeka.
Ungabuyisela njani intombazana?
Njengoko uyazi, impindiselo yisidlo esinikwa kubanda, ngoko kulungele ukuba apha. Ngaphambi kokucwangcisela ukubuyisela, kufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni umntu othembele kuye wenze oku kuwe.
Izizathu zokuphelisa ubuhlobo besetyhini:
- Umona. Njengoko uyazi, amanye amantombazana adume ngokuba nomona. Isizathu somona singaba nantoni na, kwizinto eziphathekayo kunye nokuphela komtshato.
- Ukuhlawula. Umhlobo, owathembele kuzo zonke iimfihlelo zakho, unokusebenzisa lonke le nkcazelo ngokuchasene nawe, ngokukubeka "ekuhlaselweni."
- Iqhinga. Abanye abantu abakwazi ukuzicingela ubomi babo ngaphandle kokuchitha iindlebe okanye ukucinga ngamanzi acocekileyo ngabanye. Ukuze ugweme iimeko ezinjalo ezihlazo, kufuneka nje ukhangele ngokucophelela umntu ngaphambi kokuba umvumele ukuba angene kwisangqa sohlobo lwabahlobo.
Ngoko emva kokuba ufumene imbangela yenkxwaleko kwaye ulinganise ukuba unobunzima kangakanani ngenxa yemiphumo yakhe, ungaqala ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuziphindezela ngayo umfazi ongekho sikweni kuwe. Ewe, asiyi kuqwalasela ukutshintsha okungekho mthethweni, kwaye siya kuhlawula ngokukodwa iindlela ezilula kodwa ezifanelekileyo zokufundisa intombi.
Isilinganiselo seendlela ezithandwa kakhulu:
- Nciphisa umoni ophethe i-laxative.
- Kwiintanethi zentlalo, uwonke-wonke ukuba intombi yakho yangaphambili isasaze ingcolileyo kunye namaqhetseba angamanga ngawe, oko kuthetha, "ukupapasha" le nyaniso ukuze wonke umntu azi ukuba ngumntu onjani. Vimba i-akhawunti yakhe ukuba ibalulekile kuye, ngaloo ndlela uyamlahla ixesha lokunxibelelana nehlabathi langaphandle.
- Ukuba umrhwebi uyayithanda imifanekiso yakhe kwaye uhlala ezama ukujonga kakuhle emehlweni abo, ngoko unako ukutshitshisa into engekho ngokubeka amanethiwekhi akhe asekuhlaleni "engaphumeleli" iifoto ezinokuthi unakho.
- Hlanganisa izinto eziphathekayo malunga nomxhaphazi, kwaye uzibonise kwiintsapho okanye ngabaphathi bakho bonke ubuqaqawuli babo.
- Ukubetha intombazana yangaphambili, okanye ukuba wenza okufanayo kuwe okanye xa ehlambalaza esidlangalaleni kwaye ehleka ngayo ukubonakala kwakho.
- Mcebisa umcwangcisi ombi womthengisi owawubamba iinwele zakhe.
Ingxabano inokwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ube nomona nje, ngoko wanquma ukufaka i-spoon yakho ye-tar kwindawo yakho yobusi. Kule meko, cinga malunga nokuba kuyafaneleka ukubuyisela abantu abanjalo ngenxa yokuba
Mhlawumbi abantu abaninzi ekufundeni kweli nqaku bakhumbula ukuba inqaku elithi "ukuphindiselela kuphela ababuthathaka, kodwa ukuxolela." Akukho mntu uthathe inkululeko yokuqinisekisa ukuba ngaba kunjalo kwaye nokuba ukuxolelwa kwentombazana enganelungelo isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Isiphetho apha kukuba wonke umntu kufuneka enze ngokwakhe. Khumbula ukuba into ephambili kukunyaniseka nawe kwaye uza kuthatha isigqibo esilungileyo kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko enzima.