Uloyiko lokufa kungekudala okanye kutyelele wonke umntu. Sicinga ukuba yonke into kweli hlabathi kunye nobomi bethu iya kuphela. Omnye unalo loloyiko lubonakaliswe ngendlela yokuxhalabisa ngokubanzi okanye ukuguqulwa njengenye ingxaki yengqondo. Kwaye kukho abo babonakalisa ngokuqhelekileyo kangangokuthi ikhula ibe yinto ebalulekileyo (umzekelo ocacileyo ukulungiselela abanye abantu kwi-Apocalypse ngoDisemba kunyaka ophelileyo) okanye ekugqithiseni into enjengokugqithisa, ekugqithiseni kakhulu kunobunzima (ukwesaba ukufa).
Ukwesaba ukufa, ngokuthe gqolo kuguquke kwi-phobia, yinkinga ekufuneka iqwalaselwe ngayo. Inempawu ezifana nalezi:
- Ubukho bokuziphatha okungapheliyo (umzekelo, umntu uloyiko lokufa ngumhlaza, ngoko unako ukufunyanwa phantsi kweofisi yegqirha, ephi iimvavanyo zakhe iimvavanyo, ezinikezelwe kwisithuba seshumi).
- Ubuthongo obunxinxisayo (okanye umntu unesifo sokulala).
- Ukuphelelwa kwesidlo.
- Umsebenzi wesondo ophantsi.
- I-alamu echukumisayo kunye nexhala.
- Zininzi iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo, ezikhokelela ekugqibeleni ukuziphatha okungonelanga.
Uloyiko lokufa lokuqhayisa
Uvakalelo lokwesaba ukufa alubonakali kwaze kwaba yilapho umntu efika ebusheni. Uloyiko lokufa lithetha ngokuthe ngqo xa umntu efezekisa ebuntwaneni: abantwana abaselula bayacinga ngokufa, ezinye ziimeko ezinzima zicinga ngokuzibulala, ngaloo ndlela zitshintsha ukuba ukwesaba ukufa kuphephe. Abanye abaselula banxamnye noloyiko oluya kubomi obunzima. Badlala imidlalo yekhompyutha apho umlingisi obalaseleyo kufuneka abulawe, bazive bewunqobile ngokufa. Abanye bahlambalaza, bekungabaza ngokufa, bahlekisayo, bahlabelela iingoma ezihlaziyileyo, abaxhatshazwayo kunye neengxaki. Kwaye abanye baya emngciphekweni ongenakucinga, besichaza ukufa.
Kule minyaka, ukwesaba ukufa kuqhubeka xa umntu ehlala ekwakheni umsebenzi kunye nokudala intsapho yakhe yentsapho. Kodwa, xa kufika ixesha elide abantwana abashiya endlwini, bathuthele kwidlabo yabo yintsapho okanye abatsha ukuba baqedele umsebenzi wabo, ngoko utshaba olutsha lokufa, inzima yexesha eliphakathi, liza. Xa sele sele ifikelele ekuphakameni kobomi, abantu bahlalutya okudlulileyo kwaye bayaqonda ukuba ngoku umendo wobomi ukhokelela ekuhlaleni kwelanga. Kwaye kwimizuzu ezayo, loo mntu akayekanga ukukhathazeka ngokufa.
Uloyiko lokufa luvame ukuhlanganiswa nokungazi oko kuza kwenzeka kuthi emva kokufa. Kodwa kukho abantu abaqondayo ukuba ngamanye amaxesha bathatyathwa ngoloyiko lokufa kwabantu abasondelene nabo, ukungabikho kokuqonda ukuba bangaqhubeka njani baphila xa kungekho zihlobo zabo. Uloyiko lokufa komntu othandekayo luyimfuneko kwaye lunokutshatyalaliswa.
Ungalususa njani ukwesaba ukufa?
Ukunciphisa ukwedlula ukongamela okanye ukwesaba ukufa akuyona inkqubo elula, kodwa ukanti ubomi ngaphandle kokwesaba ukufa kuvulela amathuba amaninzi obomi obonwabileyo kunalo. Ewe, ukulahlekelwa nguloyiko akukona okokuthi akunakwenzeka, kodwa kungengqiqo. Ngaphandle kokwesaba ukufa, oko kukuthi, enokungahloneli, umntu unokuzibamba iindlela zokuqala zokuqapha, ezinemiphumo ebuhlungu ebomini bakhe.
Indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba ukufa ichazwe eBhayibhileni. Kodwa izazi zengqondo zingakunceda ekuxazululeni le ngxaki.
Kuqala ukucetyiswa ukuba ukhangele ubomi bakho ukusuka kwinqanaba elithile, zama ukuhlala olunye usuku. Umntu akwazi ikusasa lakhe, ngoko musa ukwenza izicwangciso ezikude ngekamva.
Iingcali zengqondo zikwacetyiswa ukuba ziqale ziqwalasele izimvo zabo kwi-akhawunti emva kokufa. Ukuba, ngombono wakho, emva kokufa, uqonda ukuba kuphela umzimba ofa, kwaye umphefumlo awufi. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba ukufa ngenxa yakho akuyi kuba yinto ebalulekileyo. Xa unqume ngeembono ezinjalo, uya kunceda ukulahla ukwesaba okungaziwa, okuvela kwiingcamango zokufa.
Ungasebenzisa kwakhona indlela yonkqantosi yokuphelisa ukwesaba. Okokuqala, yenza uloyiko lwakho. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kunyamezela zonke izinto ezimbi eziye zaqokelela ngaphakathi kwakho. Emva koko uthethe ngoyiko. Mxelele yonke into oyifunayo, yamkele, uyamkele ukuba ukhona kwaye uyithethi kuye ngonaphakade, uvakalelwa kukuba nguwe kuphela inkosikazi yobomi bakho, oko kuthetha ukuba unamandla ngaphezu koyiko lwakho. Emva koko, utshabalalise umzobo (khetha indlela ofuna ukuyisebenzisa ngexesha langoku).
Ngoko awuyikukhipha kuphela ukwesaba ukufa kuwe, kodwa ulahleke kwaye uphinde uzive oko kuthetha ukuthini ubomi ubomi obonwabileyo novuyo.