Umntu uye waqala ukubhekwa njengento ephambili kuyo yonke into. Yiba ngumsebenzi, intsapho okanye indlela yokuphila. Kodwa kwihlabathi lanamhlanje i-domostroy sele ilahlekile ukuthembeka kwayo, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukusuka emlonyeni wowesifazane ungayiva umbuzo: "Indlela yokuzimelela?" Musa ukulinda ngenkathi umyeni ebeka imali yokuthenga, vumela uhambe kunye nabahlobo okanye uzimisele ukuba ungene kwimidlalo okanye uzame enye into yokuzonwabisa. Abantwana, i-diapers kunye nokugcinwa kwezindlu, ngokwenene, ezo zinto zihlala kumagxa athathaka omfazi. Kodwa ubomi akufanele kudlule! Ingcwaba ubuntu bakho kunye neetalente kumntu? Ngubani na onitshoyo ubudenge? Kule nqaku, siya kuphelisa konke ukungathandabuzeki kwakho kwaye uchaze indlela yokuzimela.
Ukuxhomekeka kumadoda - njani ukuwususa?
Konke kuqala njani? Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kukuqala kokuhlala ngokubambisana, okanye isigqibo somtshato, kwakhona, ukuhlalisana. Umsebenzi, ixesha kunye nendawo, eyayizalisa ubomi ngaphambi kokudibana nomntu, ngokukhawuleza iphela kwimvelaphi. Ibhinqa ivula iindima ezintsha kunye noxanduva - ulawulo loqoqosho kunye nobomi, ukuzalwa kwabantwana kunye nokukhuliswa kwabo. Kancinci, umfazi uqala ukuzidela ngenxa yobudlelwane obuhle kwintsapho, kwaye uqala ukutshabalalisa kumntu nobomi bakhe. Apha ke, ukuxhomekeka kwindoda yakhe kuqala. Iphethe uhlobo lomnikelo. Ukukhanyela ekuphuhliseni nasekuphuculeni umsebenzi ekuncedeni abantwana, indoda kunye nentsapho - emva kokuba onke amabhinqa ayaqinisekiswa, ukuba isisulu, ngokuqinisekileyo, siya kuqinganiswa. Kodwa ixesha lidlulayo, kwaye ukuxhomekeka kweemvakalelo kuya kuba yinyama. Emva kwakho konke, umsebenzi waba esihogweni! Kancinci, ama-scandals ayakhula: unxungukile ukuba ahlale ekhaya, akayithandi ukuba uya ekhaya ngokukhawuleza kwaye akayithobeli, akasithandi ukuba uyamnika imali encinci, njl njl. Ngelo xesha, umfazi oxhomekeke kuye uqala ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumntu osele eqala ukukhangela, ukuxinezeleka, iingxaki kwiintsebenziswano, ukunganeliseki ngobomi bakhe, nokunye okuninzi. Kodwa konke kwaqala ngeqonga lomnikelo, kunye neenjongo ezilungileyo. Indlela yodwa ephuma kule meko kukuba zimele!
Indlela yokuzimela phantsi komyeni wakhe?
Izizathu zokuba ibhinqa liqala ukuxhomekeka kumyeni wayo, livela ebuntwaneni. Iimpazamo zabazali kule meko zazingekho kwinkululeko kunye neqhinga. Abaxhomekeke kuba ngabantwana, abazali abavame ukuba bathi: "Ukuba undithanda, uya kwenza njengoko ndithethile." Okanye ngandlela-thile: "Ukuba uyandithanda, awuyi kuyenza." Ngenxa yokuba abafazi bayabheka ngokunyanisekileyo inkxaso kunye nenkxaso kumntu, lo mfazi uya kuqala ukuzidela ngenxa yothando lwakhe. Ungayilungisa njani imeko kwaye ibe yinto eyaziqhenyayo "yowesifazane ozimeleyo"? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ucombulule iingxaki zakho zengqondo ngokukhawuleza. Unokwenza oku ngale ndlela:
1. Qala ngomsebenzi omncinci: vala amehlo kwaye ucinge ukuba uhleli entabeni ende, kwaye ngaphantsi kwakho kukho umendo omde. Ubomi bakho. Jonga ngenyameko, kwaye uzame ukuhlalutya indlela oziphathe ngayo kwezinye iimeko ozikhumbule ngokukodwa. Khumbula iixesha xa uziqhenyce ngokwakho, ngoko imeko xa wenza okuthandayo. Emva koko, zibuze imibuzo embalwa uze uphendule ngokunyanisekileyo:
- Luhlobo luni lolwalamano endibenalo nabazali bam?
- Ndingazenza kangangoko oko ndifuna?
- kutheni ndiloyika ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi wam?
- kuthini ukuba ndihlala ngaphandle komntu?
2. Khumbula imeko ukususela ebuntwaneni, apho uyikayika ukwenza into ekuchaseni ukuthanda kwabazali. Qiniseka ukuba, ekubeni ungumdala, unelungelo lokwenza, njengoko uthanda.
3. Cinga ngento oyifunayo ebomini bakho? Ziziphi iinjongo kunye nezicwangciso onokuzenza kwaye ufuna ukuzibeka phambi kwakho. Zama ukuqalisa ukuzalisekisa, ungakhange ukhangele emva kombono womntu okanye ukungavumi.
4. Khumbula ukuba ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu kuphela kuloo ntsapho apho bobabini bomtshato bayazi ukuba bafanelekile, abaxhomekeke kulowo nalowo, musa ukutshintshana, kodwa bahlala ngokuhlonipha, uthando kunye nokuvisisana.
Kwinoma yiphi na intsapho ikhona akufanele ibe yindawo ecinekileyo nebuthathaka. Yonke imisebenzi yomfazi ifanele ihlukaniswe ngesiqingatha. Makube nzima ukuqala ukuphuma kwendima yexhoba. Yenza ikhaya likwazi ukuba unelungelo lokwenza ixesha lakho kunye neminqweno yakho. Ngokukhawuleza xa uqala ukubandakanya ngaphandle kwekhaya, kunye nemicimbi yabo, uya kuziva ukuba kulula kangakanani, kwaye uya kubona ukuba ubomi bakho bentsapho buya kutshintshwa ngokukhawuleza. Khumbula ukuba uthando kunye nokuhloniphana phakathi kweli hlabathi kungasebenzisa imimangaliso. Kwaye indawo yakho yindawo yakho, apho awukwazi ukuxhomekeka kuyo nawuphi na umntu.