Ukwahlukana kwiimeko ezininzi kunzima ukuba bathatha inxaxheba kunye neentsapho zabo, ingakumbi ukuba intsapho ephukile inabantwana. Kuyaqondakala, kuba ukudala intsapho, ukungena emtshatweni, abatshatileyo, njengomgaqo, musa ukulungiselela loo mvumelwano njengesivumelwano esithile kunye nexesha elithile. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abadala kufuneka baqonde ukuba intsapho (nokuba okokuqala ibanjwe, njengokuba bathi, uthando) kukuba, okokuqala, ngokubanzi, kwintetho ebanzi ekudaleni ubomi obukhululekile, ukuqhubekeka kwentsapho, ukuncedana kunye nokuqonda (uludwe lunokunyulwa) .
Ingakumbi embi emva kokuqhawula umtshato kuyavalelwa ngumnye wabatshatileyo ababengeyena iqela eliqhawula umtshato (ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kunye nomntu oqalise, naye, "ongenasiphelo" kodwa ke kulula). Utshata ithemba lobomi emva kokuqhawula umtshato ungabonwa kakubi, ngoko ke iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo zinokunceda ngandlela-thile. Hayi, ubuncinane, zenzele ngokwakho, kwimeko uze uthathe isigqibo sokuba ungaphila.
Njani ukusinda?
Indlela yokusinda umtshato kwaye ulungiselele ubomi bakho emva kokuqhawula umtshato - icebiso lengcali yeengqondo:
- zama ukuhlala uzolile kunye nesidima;
- ubambe "ukuvuthela", mhlawumbi ucaphukisa ngokukhethekileyo ukujonga;
- Hlaziya, zama ukujonga imeko kwimiba eyahlukeneyo;
- ukuhlalutya iimpazamo zakho kunye nabanye abantu, khumbula ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokwenza iphutha;
- zama ukufumana iinkonzo kwiimeko ezintsha, yenza oko ufuna ukukwenza ixesha elide, kodwa uhlehliswe;
- ukuphazamiseka ngakumbi ngumculo, iifilimu, iincwadi, izinto zokuzilibazisa , ukuya kwiimyuziyam kunye neendawo zokudlala;
- Ukucamngca, ukuhamba ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukugcina izilwanyana, izityalo kunye neziganeko zendalo;
- uzame endaweni ethile ukuya kuyo
iintsuku ezimbalwa (ngeholide kwindlela yokushishino, njl.), ukuze utshintshe imeko kunye ne-gestalt ebonakalayo (oko kukuthi, umfanekiso wehlabathi), indlela ngokwayo "iphelisa"; - ungalahlekelwa bubungqina bomoya, ubomi abukapheli, mhlawumbi ulindele izinto ezininzi ezithakazelisayo, ukuba uyilungele oko, "hlala" uncumo - ngokukhawuleza uqhele;
- uzame ukufumana umdla kumdlalo - ukuhleka kweentlanzi kukwahlula izidalwa ezihlakaniphile kwizilwanyana.
- ukuphumla ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuphumla okunempilo kuyafuneka rhoqo;
- bahlala beqhagamshelana nabantu kwizihloko ezithakazelisayo, benze abantu abaqhelana nabo, kuquka, nakwiintanethi zentlalo.