Ukubonakalisa kweembono kwimibandela yobomi kukubonakalisa uluntu lwentando yesininzi, kodwa kubalulekile ukutshintsha zonke iindlela ezizimeleyo kwimibandela engapheliyo kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni kwiminyaka eyi-100 ukuba sibonisa isimo sengqondo "esingavumelaniyo" kwizinto ezisiseko zexabiso leentsapho-ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana. Yintoni le nto engabonwanga ngumntwana - ukhetho lokuziphatha okanye umgibe?
Childfree - ngubani lo?
I-Childfree ngabantu abaneminyaka elikhulileyo abagqibeleleyo banquma ukuba bangaba nabantwana kwaye bakhe ubomi ngokusekelwe kwinkululeko. Ukuba ubhala ngokucacileyo ukuba ngubani ongenakho umntwana, kufuneka uqonde ukuba abafakiwe kubantu abangabaniki ithuba lokubeletha umntwana okanye abo bayeka ukuzalwa komntwana iminyaka emininzi ngenxa yezizathu ezithile. I-Childfree yenza ukhetho - ukwenqaba ukuqhubeka igalelo ngonaphakade, ngamanye amaxesha ibonisa isimo sayo, ikhetha iindlela zokuqhekeza ukukhulelwa komzimba - ukwenza intsholongwane.
I-Childfree - isiqhelo sexesha okanye ukuphambuka?
Ukuphuhliswa koluntu kusekelwe ekuqhubekeni kwentsapho. Amava afunyenwe ngaphezu kweminyaka ayedluliselwa kwisizukulwana esincinane kunye neendlela zakutshanje kwizinto ezifundwayo. Ukuzala nokukhulisa abantwana ngenye yezimvo zomntu kunye nophuhliso lwe-backgammon nganye lusekwe kuluntu oluqhelekileyo. Ngokufika kwenkqubo yokukhululwa, intshukumo entsha-ifowuni yokungabikho kwabantwana-yenziwa. Kuba abaninzi abantu bayaphambukiswa, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuqonda izizathu zezi ndawo, ukwahlula ingxaki kwiindawo ezimbini:
- Inkalo yentlalo - ukungabikho kweendleko ezihlobene nokuzalwa kunye nokukhuliswa kwabantwana;
- isiseko sengqondo - ukuxhatshazwa kwengqondo, ukudluliselwa ebuntwaneni, kwinqanaba elincinci elenza umnqweno wokungaba nomntwana.
Psychology chayldfri
Abafundi belo mqulu bafaka phambili iingxabano kunye neengxabano ezingabonakaliyo ngabantwana kwaye ezixabiso ezibalulekileyo zomntu ngamnye kufuneka zibe kwindawo yokuqala. Ukuphulukisa umsebenzi okanye umzobo ngenxa yomntwana uyisiphukuphuku kunye nokungahambi kakuhle, kwaye ukunyamekelwa kozelweyo akufuneki ukuchitha ixesha kunye nemali. Ukuba esemncinci umntu okhulelwe ngengqondo uveza eso sigxina - uyesaba uxanduva, ukungabikho kwamava okuphila, okuqhelekileyo. Ngokungafaniyo izandile umgaqo wobomi "ongenaye umntwana" ovela emlonyeni, obanjwe kuluntu, ekhuselekile ngemali, abantu abaqolileyo.
Ifilosofi ye-Childfree
Ukubonakalisa ebomini bakhe kuqala, i-ideology ye-childfree imele ilandele imigaqo yabantu kwaye iyanelise iimfuno zomntu kuphela, yakha ubudlelwane kwimigaqo yothando lwenkululeko kunye nolonwabo lwezesondo. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, onke amaqela "okucinga ngokulinganayo" umntwanafrey akhiwe ngokusemthethweni, kodwa into enjalo ibhekwa njengento yokuhlaziywa koluntu, ukuchithwa kokomoya.
Childfree and Childhead - yintoni umehluko?
Kukho umahluko phakathi kweyiphi i-teafree kunye ne-childhead. Ukuba owokuqala abaphatha kakubi abantwana, iqela lesibini lizondayo ngabantwana, kungekhona kuphela abo abangazalwanga ngokwenene, kodwa bonke abanye, ngokusemthethweni, bayabika ngokucacileyo. Bachaza imibhikisho ngokumelene nabasetyhini abakhulelweyo, bavumele ukuba bahlaziye oomama nabantwana kwiindawo zoluntu nakwiinkanethi ze-Intanethi. Abantloko babantu abanobugwenxa ngabantu abanobunzima bebuntwaneni, abafuna unyango olufanelekileyo kwiingcali.
I-Childfree - i-pros and cons
Ukubiza iingenelo zokungabantwana, sinokuthi ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana kuthatha iminyaka emininzi yobomi. Ukwakha umsebenzi wamfazi othe wagqiba ekubeni abe ngumama lula. Iindleko zamandla emzimbeni zinciphisa ubuncinci, isibalo asiyi kuhlahloka, kukho ixesha lokuphumla okufanelekileyo, unako ukulahla ixesha lokukhulula kunye nemali ngentando. Indoda kwiimeko ezinjalo ivakalisa isikhundla sakhe ngokungabikho kwemfanelo kunye nomthwalo wengqondo. Emva kokuphulaphula iingxabano ezinjalo, umntu unokuthiwa negama lezinto ezichaseneyo ezibonakalayo - ukungabikho kokungabikho komntwana:
- Ubomi bulahlekelwa yintsimi yayo: iminyaka emininzi yobomi obungakhathaliyo iyakhupha izibonelelo zokuphumelela;
- umntwana ngumqobo wentsapho, ngenxa yeminqweno yakhe, amalungu omdala angaya kuxolelwaniso, athoxise imigaqo. Umntu omncinci unokunika isifundo kumntu omdala, eqonda ihlabathi ngokukhanya okuhlukile kuye, ukuba abe ngumthombo wokwenene uthando nokuzikhukhumeza;
- umzali, ukukhulisa umntwana, nethemba lokufumana ilungelo lokugcina ekuguga okanye ukugula, xa abahlobo kunye nabaziyo baya kuba neengxaki zabo.
Kutheni wonke umntu enzonda umntu ongenaye umntwana?
Ukwamkela nokuqonda isimo "somntu ochasayo" kwabanye abantu kuba yingxaki. I-chayldfri engqondweni ngokubangela ukuba abantu bangaboni kakuhle kwaye akusiyo injongo apha-ukuba baphile ubomi ngaphandle kokuba nabantwana, kodwa kwiingcaphephe ezisebenzayo kunye nokuhlekwa kweziseko zentsapho kunye nokuzala, umama wesifazane. Umntwana u-Childfrey Hunter ulinganisa inkqubo yendalo yokuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana kwisiza esilula esilungileyo, apho abantu abanokuqonda abaphantsi. Iingxelo ezinjalo kwisininzi ziziphatha kakubi kwaye zibangele ukuphendula okufanelekileyo kokuphazamiseka.
Indlela yokuba yintsholongwane?
Intshukumo ekhangelekileyo yokukhangisa i-chayldfri - umkhwa wokufashisa owanika umntu ukhetho lokulahla izixhobo zobomi ngamandla onke, kwavela ekupheleni kweminyaka engama-70 yekhulu lokugqibela. Ukuthi abantu, ngokukhokelela ekukholeni indlela yokuphila engenabantwana ngaphambi kwelo xesha kwakungekho - akunakwenzeka, kodwa intshumayelo yoluntu yobomi be-teafrey ayilunganga. Umsunguli wentshukumo nguMargaret Sanger - umqalisi weengcamango malunga nokulawulwa kokuzalwa.
Childfree - Orthodoxy
Iingcamango eziphambili kunye ne-subculture ye-Childfree iyaphikisana nayo yonke imigaqo yobuKristu. Ukuzalwa kwabantwana kuyisiseko kuzo zonke iicawa, ngaphandle kwabo bantu bazinikezele ngokupheleleyo ubomi babo kuThixo. Intsapho yama-Orthodoxy isekelwe ekuqondeni kunye nomonde, ukunikela ngeminqweno yabo-ukuzala abantwana, umntu ushiya iindlalifa emhlabeni oza kuthi uthandaze.
Childfrey phakathi koogqirha
Umdumo wokuqala we-chillyfd uvele eHollywood. Imifanekiso yabantu abaphumeleleyo abaphumelelayo bengabantwana, abakhelwe kumxhasi womphakathi umbono wokuthi ukufumana ukuqonda ngokuyeka umntwana kulula kakhulu. Ingxelo yesithixo yokuba akayi kuba ngumzali, ikhuthaza ukulandela umzekelo onjalo. Ukukholelwa komntu obonwabileyo kuvusa umona, ulolonga umnqweno wokwenza impumelelo ngaphandle komthwalo wabantwana.
- UJennifer Aniston - I-Childfree. Inkwenkwezi "Uhlobo" oneminyaka engama-47 alunabantwana kwaye akafuni ukuba nabo, uthi umfazi ophelileyo akadingeki ukuba acinge ngomntwana, ubuncinane ubuneminyaka eyi-18 ubudala. Ngqalelo kwintatheli malunga nomfuziselo wakhe, othe wangaphezu kweyodwa wayethi ukukhulelwa kumdlali we-actress, uphendula ngokukhawuleza.
- URenee Zellweger - Umntwana. Idla ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwi-intanethi kunye neendaba ezithi utyhalelo lomama alukho kuye, kwaye ukubeletha ngokwayo kubukhoboka. Ukuhlala kunye nabazalwana kumdlali wokudlala akuyona ingxaki, kodwa akanalo ixesha lokukhulula abantwana bakhe.
- Bozena Rynska - Childfree. Kwiingxelo ezingekho phantsi kweengonyama zezilwanyana malunga nezingane, intatheli zidla ngokugxininisa. Wayecinga ukuba abantwana abanokuphumelela kwaye babe yintlekele.
- UZemfira uyinabantwana. Umculi uye wachaza ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba injongo ephambili yobomi ibona ubuchule, uyaqonda ukuba isondo kunye nemali ibalulekile kuye, kwaye ixabiso lentsapho alilona lona. Kukho ulwazi olunceda abantwana kwiinkedama zeenkedama.
Jennifer Aniston
URené Zellweger
Bozena Rynska
Zemfira
Umzekeliso othi "umzekelo ombi usasazekayo" ufanelekile nanamhla. Enyanisweni yokuba umntu uthatha isigqibo sokuhlala ngaphandle komntwana, eminye iminyaka embalwa iya kubangela isiphepho sokuthukuthela, kodwa ngoku le ndlela yokuphila ngumzekelo kwabanye. Utshintsho lweemeko luyakwazi ukufikelela kwiminyaka ethile, ngoko kuya kubakho ukuzisola malunga neminyaka yokuphila engapheliyo, kwaye ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi kwiminyaka engama-60-70 abantu bayazi ukuba benza iphutha - bachitha ixesha abo bathandekayo, kunye nabo bafuna ukungena kwiinkathalo ngaye - hayi.