Iziko loMama

Umzulwana wesisu ngumcimbi ophazamisayo okwangoku, owawucinga ukuba ngaphambi kokuba uqondwe njengomntu ongenamdla wokuba unakekele umntwana wakhe aze amkhusele. Ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ubunzima bomama ka-mama babecinga ukuba bangeke babuze imibuzo, ngoku ingcinga yezinzulu zolu ngxaki iyahlukana. Umbuzo ophakanyisiwe kwimiboniso ethandwayo yeTV "Baye bathethe" kwimiba ethi "Ukukhubazeka koMama weNkqubela".

Kuvela nini isisu somama?

Isizakala samantombazana sisisombululo esenza ukuba ibhinqa linyamekele inzala yakhe. Enyanisweni, umsebenzi onzima ngaphandle kweentsuku kunye neeholide iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokubonakala kwintsimi yesisu, ezi zilandelayo zifunekayo:

1. Ubukho beesampulu ezikhangayo kwingqondo. Xa intombazana ibonile ukususela ebuntwaneni, umama unamntwana njani, yena ngokwakhe, mhlawumbi, uya kuphinda ephindwe ebomini bakhe.
2. Into ebalulekileyo yinkcazelo yomntwana ngumama. Oku kwenzekayo xa umntwana ekhawuleza ebeka isifuba somama emva kokunikezelwa, kodwa kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko le nto ihleli.
3. Abanye baphila amava anxulumene nokuzalwa, kwaye akunandaba nokuba ilungile okanye ayibi. Yingakho icandelo le-caesarean kunye neentlungu zokuxoxwa kweentlungu zibhekwa zingathandeki.
4. Ukuqonda imeko yomama, kwaye ngenxa yoko - ukufakwa kuyo. Xa umama eqala ukunyamekela umntwana, uqala ukukuthanda, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uba ngumlutha kuwo.

Kule meko, isistim sokubeleka sisoloko sithintela ukwesaba, kuba isimo esitsha senhlalakahle sinika lona wesifazane kakhulu-umqondo wesimo sakhe somntu ophilayo, ukuzithemba, inhlonipho kwizizalwane kunye nabanye. Ukongezelela, nayiphi na ukungavumelani nomlingane ngoku uzimisele ukuba uyamthanda umama omncinci lula.

Ukungabikho komntwana wesisu

Kucaciswa ukuba utyalo lomama luphuhliswa kwaye luya kugcinwa lungagcinwa ngabo bonke abafazi. Ukuba ubungqina beli qiniso kunokwenzeka ukujongana naluphina ikhaya lokubeletha kwiwadi ye-refuseniks - iintsana ezisuka oomama abashiya abantwana.

Kwimiba ekhangayo ye-TV show "Baye bathethe", ityala laqwalaselwa xa umama osemntwaneni womntwana onesifo esinamandla sokukhubazeka kwesiberebhu washiya umntwana kunye nomyeni wakhe, wafaka umtshato kwaye wabamba enye indawo leyo, nangona uyise eqhubeka enyamekela umntwana kwaye ezama ukumbamba.

Ewe, umama wengane wabangela ukugwetywa okubukhali. Ukumemeza ukuba awuyithandi umntwana, okanye umshiye, ukuba ungumfazi, yindlela efanelekileyo yokumangalelwa koluntu, xa, kumadoda, ukuziphatha okunjalo namhlanje kudibanisa nemibhikisho yimilolo. Oku kubonisa ipesenteji enkulu yabomama abangatshatanga abayeni babo babalekela, bashiya loo mfazi usana. Ngokumalunga namadoda anjalo azenzi iinkqubo zethelevishini - oku kusemgangathweni. Kodwa lona wesifazane uthi "makamthande umntwana.

Enyanisweni, kuluntu lwethu lwabantu abathengi, xa kukho rhoqo umntwana ongaphezu kweyodwa kwiintsapho, kwaye oko kudla ngokuba "ngengozi," kukho umgaqo ocacileyo kwizinto ezintsha zokuphila. Ngoku abafazi bazama ukuzimela, ukuziqonda. Ukubeleka komama kuqhuba umfazi kumda othile, kumenza axhomekeke kumntu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo uhamba neengxaki eziphathekayo. Akuyena wonke umntu olungele ukuya kuyo.

Ngokumalunga nalokhu, ukunyuka kwabantwana abangenabantwana - banalo ukuthandwa kakhulu kwihlabathi-banokuba nabantwana, kodwa a bafuni. Iingqungquthela zabasetyhini kwinethiwekhi zandisa ngokuphakamisa umbuzo othi "Ngaba kuyinto engokwemvelo yokuba andinalo isisu somntwana?". Abaninzi banesihawu, abanye bathetha indlela abaye bathatha ngayo abantwana ngabomnye umzobo kwaye bazisola, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kukho abo bafuna ukucacisa ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo yokuba isistim somama kufuneka sibe kunye nesifo esingaba sisifo.

Enyanisweni, yonke into icaciswa ngokulula: izazinzulu zikholelwa ukuba malunga ne-7-8% yabasetyhini besisu abakhulelwe nje, oko kuthetha ukuba ukungafuni ukuba nabantwana kunokwenzululwazi kwaye ngokwenene kusemthethweni kubafazi abathile.