Ukususela ngamaxesha, umntu ngamnye uya kubuya kwixesha elidlulileyo, uyabuhlungu kwaye ukhumbula amaxesha adlulileyo. Oku kunjalo ngokukodwa kubantu asebekhulile abaqonda ukuba ubomi sele kudlulile, ukuba kuphelile ukuqala nantoni na, kwaye ihlala isele ukucinga kwakhona oko kwenziwa. Yintoni into eyenziwa ngayo - kule nqaku.
Nostalgia - yintoni na?
Eli gama livela kwisiLatini kwaye liguqulelwe ngokuthi "i-melancholy for the Motherland". Abo banomdla kwizinto eziphilileyo, kufuneka kuphendulwe ukuba le ngxaki sele ibonwa njengesi sifo, kuba iimeko zokufa ekukhangekeni ukusuka ekhaya akuqhelekanga. Ngesinye isikhathi wafundiswa udokotela waseSwitzerland I. Hofer. Wajonge amasoldati abagulayo kunye nabafundi abaphoqelekile ukuba bahlale ngaphandle kwelizwe, kwaye baqaphela ukuba xa bebuyela ekhaya bavele bafumana kwakhona. Kuze kube yiminyaka, eli gama lisetyenziselwa ukuvakalelwa nawaphi na amava ebomini.
Ngaba i-nostalgia ilungile okanye imbi?
Eli gama alinakunikwa umbala othe tye okanye ongathandekiyo. Ukukhanga kunokudibaniswa kunye nevakalelo zokungathembeki kunye nokunyamezela okukrakra, kwaye kungenza kube mnandi kunye nokuthabatha. I-Nostalgia ilungileyo, kwaye abaninzi abanokholo kwengqondo abafunda ngesimo sengqondo malunga neenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo kunye neenkolo, iifostile zefilosofi ziyavuma. Ukulangazelela, umntu uqinisekisa ubungqina bakhe "I", ukuxhamla neendlela zokuqala zokuphila kubomeleza, ukuqhubeka kwezizukulwana kunye nemilinganiselo yokuziphatha ephakamileyo kunye nexabiso liza kuqala.
I-nostalgia ithintela njani impilo?
Ngexesha apho wayebhekwa njengengxaki yengqondo, impawu kuphela zabantu abafudukayo, impembelelo yakhe kwimeko yomntu yahlolwa njengento engalunganga. Ingxaki yenkwenkwezi yinto yokuba ibonakaliswe ukuxinezeleka, ukuxhalaba nokulala. Phakathi kwamajoni omkhosi waseNapoleonic, le mvakalelo yayiyeyona ntsholongwane. Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, impembelelo yalo kwi-psyche yomntu ihlolwa njengento efanelekileyo.
Kukholelwa ukuba ukuxhaswa kwamaxesha adlulileyo kuqinisa impilo, kuphakamisa ukuzithemba. Ukukhumbula ngabantu abasondeleyo, iziganeko ezibalulekileyo okanye iindawo umntu azizwa esithandayo kwaye ekhuselekile, ethembekileyo kwikamva. Akasengozini kwaye uyathemba ngekamva. Ukulangazelela ixesha elidlulileyo kukunceda uhlale unesizungu kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu abadala, ekupheleni kobomi, bahlala bexhalabisa , bahlale bodwa.
Nostalgia kunye nokudandatheka
Nangona kunjalo, ukulangazelela amaxesha adlulileyo, kulula kakhulu ukuwela ekuphelelweni nasekudakaleni, ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba yiyiphi i-nostalgia, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba le mvakalelo iyinto engathandekiyo. Ukukhumbula, umntu uphinde aphinde avuselele amava akhe angaphambilini, avelise ikhosi yeziganeko ezidluleyo, kodwa ukuhlola kwakhe ngokuzenzekelayo kwinto eyenzekayo. Le yinto ephambili yokuphazamiseka: abantu bayakhathazeka kwaye baxakeke nakwiimeko ezintle kakhulu ezidlulileyo.
Uvakalelwa kukuba umtshato ungaqhawula umtshato okanye uhlukanise nomntu othandekayo, imeko epholileyo, ukungabi namali. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kulungile kangakanani okwangoku, ukulangazelela kuya kubonakala ngathi kungcono kunaphambili, akusayi kuba yinto kwaye iwela ekudakaleni okunjalo, apho kungelula ukuphuma ngaphandle koncediswa yingcali yengqondo.
Nostalgia - kwenzeka ntoni?
- Izifo. Ukuba ufa ngenxa yokubandezeleka, ke le mvakalelo yile nxalenye yezifo ezibulalayo. Ngexesha elidlulileyo amasosha aseSwitzerland kwimikhankaso yamanye amazwe ayenqatshelwe ukuba adlale iingoma zawo zokuzalwa, ukuze angabhubhisi ukuhlaselwa.
- Ukuvakalelwa kwenkanuko njengokuba ulangazelela ukungagcwaliseki. Olu hlobo lusetyenziswa kakhulu kumadoda angathanda ukulungisa iimpazamo zexesha elidlulileyo, ngelixa abafazi bekhumbula nje amaxesha apho bevuya.
- Inkalo yobumbano. Isazi sengqondo se-American E. Erikson ukholelwa ukuba umntu ngamnye uyadlula ubomi bakhe 8 amanqanaba kunye no-nostalgia ngowokugqibela. Kule nqanaba, ixesha lokucamngca kunye nokucinga kwexesha elidlulileyo liqala.
I-Nostalgia yexesha elidlulileyo
Ukuba kukho ukulangazelela indawo yokuhlala, ngoko ke kwindlu entsha kulungele ukuxhoma isithombe seentsapho zakho kunye nabahlobo, bathandekayo entliziyweni yomhlaba. Unako ukuhlala unxibelelana nabo kwaye ubize, ubhale iileta, uthethe nge-skype. Ukucela indlela yokujamelana nekhono lokudlulela kwixesha elidlulileyo, unokucebisa ukuba ungadli, ungenzi ixesha lokulangazelela, kunye nekhanda lakho ukuya emsebenzini. Ngethuba lokuzonwabisa, nwabisa, hlangana nabahlobo, nwabisa. Emva koko, yiyiphi indlela yokwazisa kuthetha ukuphelelwa yithemba nokunyamezela, ngoko kufuneka wenze konke okubakhuphayo.
Nostalgia yobuntwana
Le ntliziyo iyaziwayo wonke umntu kwaye inxulumene nendlu ebiza, ukufudumala kwezandla zikamama, imiyalelo kabawo kunye novumba lwezobugcisa. Kucacile ukuba ngokudala kuhamba ngokungaguqukiyo, abazali bahlala bekhulile, kwaye lowo ude usanda kuba ngumntwana, unyanzelekile ukuba athathe uxanduva kwaye azilungiselele ngokuzimeleyo iingxaki zabo. Ukuwela kwi-nostalgia akubi. Kunobungozi kakhulu ukuthumela konke okufundwa ngabazali kumntwana wabo, ngenxa yezinto abahlala kuzo, kuba umntu uphila, ngelixa bemkhumbula. Imithi yokuzalwa kwemida iye yaziwa kakhulu kwaye ilungile.
Iyintoni into yokwenza umntu?
Kwenzeka ukuba unamathele kakhulu kumntu odlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini. Umyeni oyintandokazi okanye umfazi, umama okanye umcebisi uncedisa kwaye unceda, unikeza iingcebiso, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile esi siqhelo siphukile. Kucacile ukuba ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngaphandle kokuxhasa okunjalo kunzima kwaye kukho ukukhanya kobudlelwane. Umntu ngamnye ufumana eli xesha ngendlela yakhe, kodwa kukho umntu okanye into evuselela, inika amandla kunye nomnqweno wokuqhubela phambili, nokuba egameni lememori yaleyo eyayisondele.
Indlela yokujongana noxolo?
Ukuba le nzwakalayo kwaye ifudumala, musa ukuchasana nale nkumbulo. Kubalulekile ukuxelela isithuba sokubonga ngale mava kwaye uya phambili. Ukuba ingqiqo enamandla yokwenza i-nostalgia ivelisa kuphela intlungu, intlungu kunye nentlungu, ngoko kufuneka ufumane inkuthazo-into ekufanele uqhubeke uhlala kuyo. Indlela eyona ndlela kukunceda abo babi kakhulu, ngubani omelele kunzima. Unokubuyela kuThixo uncedo uze ufumane ingcebiso yomfundisi. Naliphi na umkhonzi webandla uya kuthi ukutshatyalaliswa kuyisono kwaye ukukhokelela kukho kuthetha ukukholisa uSathana.
Ubomi banikwa kanye kuphela kwaye ukuba uhlala uphila kwixesha elidlulileyo, awukwazi ngisho nokubona okwangoku. Ngenxa yokuba i-nostalgia - iyabuhlungu malunga namaxesha adlulileyo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ixesha elikhoyo liza kuba lidlulileyo kwaye umntu uya kuqala ukuzisola naye. Kwaye, phi, phi? Kwaye umele ahlale apha kwaye ngoku, vuyela yonke imihla emitsha kwaye umbulele umgwebo kunye noThixo ngezinto anika zona.