Njengomthetho, abaninzi abafazi abachasene nokuzalwa komntwana wesibini kwintsapho. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uzama ukuhluka kancinci phakathi kwabantwana, kanti abanye bacinga ukuba xa umntwana wesibili ephulile, kuya kunceda ukuphepha ukukhuphiswano phakathi kwabantwana. Ukongezelela, umdala uya kuba neenjongo zabo, kwaye umama uya kuba nako ukunyamekela ngakumbi umntwana osana.
Ukuba ufuna loo mntu kwintsapho ukubonakala komntwana wesibini kwakungekho mthwalo, misela ixesha elihle kakhulu kulo. Nanku umbuzo wocwangciso luba luphuthumayo, kuba umntwana wesibili angakhokelela ekuveleni kweemeko zengxabano kwintsapho. Kuninzi kuxhomekeka kubazali ngokwabo. Baya kufuna ukuba baqaphele ngobuchule zonke iintlobo "zamakhonkco ezibukhali" kwaye bafundise kubantwana ubuhlobo, inhlonipho kwaye, ngokwenene, uthando.
Mhlawumbi, abaninzi oomama bayazibuza ukuba bangathini isigqibo malunga nomntwana wesibini. Ukuba ulandela iziphakamiso zoogqirha, ikhefu elifanelekileyo, elona lifanelekileyo ukugcinwa phakathi kokuzalwa, malunga neminyaka emihlanu.
Ukuba ufuna umntwana wesibini ixesha elide, kodwa uloyiko lokuba akusiyo ixesha, unokudibana neentsapho ezikufuphi (abafana, oomama). Inokwenzeka ukuba, abayi kukhanyela uncedo, kokubili ekukhulisweni kwabantwana, kunye nokubhekiselele kwimali. Ukulinganisa zonke iingxaki kunye nobutyebi, uceba ukuzalwa komntwana wesibini. Ukuze kube lula, ungabhala phantsi, uze uhlaziye kunye neqabane lakho.
Ngoko kulunge nini ukuba nomntwana wesibini? Ungagxininisa kwiminyaka phakathi kwabantwana. Ukuba umntwana wesibini ubonakala kwintsapho, xa umdala uneminyaka yobudala okanye emibini ubudala, banokuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, phakathi kwabo kuya kuba ngamanye amaxesha ukuxabana kunye nokulwa, kodwa akukho nto ininzi yokubambisana kwabazali iya kuphuhliswa. Musa ukulibala ukuba kulo mzekelo umntwana wesibini kwintsapho uya kufuna kuwe ukuba ube nomlinganiselo omkhulu wamandla ngokomzimba nangokomzimba. Ukungabi nesikhathi sokwenza indawo yokuphefumula emva kokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala, kuya kufuneka ulungelelanise ukuhamba kuzo zonke ubunzima okwesibini.
Umehluko kwiminyaka yobudala phakathi kwabantwana ukusuka kwiminyaka emithathu ukuya kwiminyaka emihlanu ayiyi kudala ubunzima obukhethekileyo kubazali nakumntwana. Kuya kuba nzima kuphela kumntwana omdala. Uyakwazi ukuqalisa ingqwalasela kuye yonke indlela, esebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokubhikisha kwakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, ubonisa umzabalazo wothando lwabazali, kunye nomona, ngokubonakala komntwana wesibini kwintsapho. Ukuba umahluko phakathi kwabantwana uvela kwiminyaka emihlanu ukuya kweyishumi, ukuzalwa komntwana wesibini kuya kunika abazali ithuba lokunandipha umntwana ngokuzeleyo kwaye ubukele indlela ekhula ngayo. Ubunzima bukho kwiimeko zokuthi ulwahlulo olunjalo kwiminyaka yobudala, ukuqala ukuthetha
Kwakhona, kunzima ukuba nomntwana wesibini kwintsapho, xa umntwana omdala engaphezu kweminyaka elishumi ubudala. Ukuba lo mdahluko kwiminyaka udibanisa kuphela umntwana, umntwana omdala angaphatha umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa njengesithintelo okanye umthwalo ophazamisa indlela yakhe yokuphila. Abazali bafanele bathethe ngokunyanisekileyo nomntwana. Uyakwazi ukuxelela indlela enhle ngayo ukuba intsapho inomntwana wesibini, onokuhlala ehlala ekhulile. Zama ukugwema imibuzo ngqo, kunye neyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye umnike kuqala ixesha lokulinganisa yonke into.
Ukuba ucinga malunga nokuthatha isigqibo malunga nomntwana wesibini, ungakulibali ngento enye elula: abantwana bahlala bebonakala ngexesha.