Abanye oomama bakhathele kakhulu, xa abantwana babo bengakhange baphume ngaphandle kwitalato, kodwa bakhetha ukuhlala ekhaya kunye nabo badlala ngokuzenzekelayo ngeemidlalo zabo okanye babukele iTV. Kodwa xa befika kwindawo yokudlala eneenani labantwana abaninzi, bazama ukuphepha ukudibanisa nabo kunye nokunyuka kumama wabo, befuna ukukhuselwa kwesi sihlwele sabantwana. Ukwahlukana okunjalo kunye nokungafuni ukuthetha nabanye abantu kuthiwa yi-non-contact and is a sign of problems in the child's development or psychological development.
Ukuxazulula ingxaki, kufuneka uqale ukufumanisa isizathu, ekubeni kunokuba kuninzi:
- uphawu lomgca;
- imeko engozini yengqondo kwintsapho (utywala lwabazali, ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho, ukungqubuzana kwimfundo phakathi kwamalungu entsapho);
- uvakalelo lokungaphantsi kobukho bezinto ezingokwenyama okanye zokuthetha;
- ukungahambi kakuhle kwempilo - ukwethuka kwabantwana bokuzalwa komntwana;
- ukungabi nthando kunye nokunyamekela, ukunyuka kweemfuno kubazali;
- ukungabikho kwamava oqhagamshelwano;
- izifo ze-neuropsychic ezifana nesifo sokuphuza, isifo se-schizophrenia, i- autism ebuntwaneni ;
- ukwakheka koxhomekeke kumntwana kubazali, ukwesatshiswa ngabasemzini.
Ngoko ke, ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho ugweba abanye abantu, kufuneka uhambe kwiphononongo kwiingcali: inkulumo yonyango, isazi sengqondo okanye i-psychoneurologist. Kwimeko apho yonke into ihambelana nokuphuhliswa kwengqondo yomntwana, abazali, xa befumene isizathu sokungabandakanyani, banokumnceda afunde ukuseka uqhagamshelwano kwaye abe ngumhlobo.
Unokukunceda njani umntwana ongathintana naye?
- ukwandisa lakho kunye neengqungquthela zentlalo yoluntu;
- tyelela iindawo ezintsha (kungcono ukuqalisa ngabantu abambalwa);
- Ngokuqhelekileyo badumisa umntwana ukuba uphumelele, ngakumbi kumntu;
- ukudala iimeko eziyimpumelelo: kuqala unike umsebenzi olula kwaye emva kokupheleliswa kwayo ngempumelelo, kunika, kodwa kunzima kunene, qiniseka ukuyixhasa ekuqaleni;
- ukunyanzela umntwana ukuba azi kakuhle, okokuqala ukumxelela umntu, kungcono ukuya kwendalo kunye nosapho apho kukho abantwana abaneminyaka efanayo kunye neyakho;
- ukwandisa inani labahlobo bomntwana ngokuthe ngcembe: ekuqaleni kuya kubakho kwaye 2-3;
- fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba adlale: mchazele kuye imithetho yemidlalo yokuqala yeqela, udlale naye, ukuze umntwana abe nethemba ngokwabo ngokwabo;
- ukuhlela umdlalo kwindlu yenkundla (rhoqo ngemithetho eyaziwa kakuhle kumntwana wakho) nabo bonke abantwana, okokuqala ukubandakanyeka kwakho kumdlalo kuyimpoqo, ngosuku olulandelayo sele ube ngumlindi kwaye ulawulo lomdlalo ukusuka kwicala;
- ukuphuhlisa loo misebenzi apho umntwana wakho uphumelele (ukudweba, ukugibela ibhasikidi, ukugijima, ukudlala ibhola);
- fumana abalandeli bakhe bokuzilibazisa, umzekelo: bhalisela isangqa;
- kwisigaba sokuqala ungashiyi umntwana wedwa kunye noontanga: khusela kwaye uncede ngononophelo, unobtrusively;
- mema abantwana ukuba batyelele, bahlele ukuzonwabisa, imidlalo kunye nokuphatha, xa umntwana uya kuziva nabo bengenakuvinjelwa, ungaqala ukuhamba ngokutyelela;
- lawula ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho, oku kungenziwa ngokudibanisa nengqondo yengqondo;
- ukuququzelela ukunxibelelana nabantwana bamaxesha ahlukeneyo.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, yenza konke ngokuthe ngcembe, ukhangele ngokucophelela isimo sengqondo somntwana wakho, kwaye ekubonakaleni kokuqala kobuhlungu, yima.
Ekuqaleni uqala ukusombulula ingxaki yokungaboniswanga, kulula ukuba wena nomntwana wakho. Kodwa imeko ebaluleke kakhulu kwisisombululo esiyimpumelelo yendalo ekuhlaleni kwintando yothando, inhlonipho, ukuqonda kunye nokwamkelwa kwabantwana njengoko kunjalo.