Ukuzimisela ubuntu

Umgaqo wokuzimela komntu, okokuqala, kubandakanya amandla omntu wokukhusela umbono wakhe okanye isikhundla kwiimeko ezifuna ukuphambuka kwimithetho ebekwe ngaphambili, ngakumbi ukuba izenzo ezilindelwe kuye zichasene nemigaqo yakhe yokuziphatha nokuziphatha. Enyanisweni, ngokuphathelele ukubeka izinto eziphambili kwizinto ezixabisekileyo kwaye ukuba umntu akakwazi ukuchasana nembono yoluntu okanye amaqhinga athile, nangona aphikisana neengcamango zakhe malunga "nomnyama nomhlophe", ngoko kukho ukungahlali okupheleleyo okanye okukhethileyo kokuzimela komntu ngamnye .

Ukufeza akunakuxolelwa

Ukuze kube lula ukuqonda yonke into, makhe siqwalasele umzekelo wegama eliyaziwayo "Awukwazi ukuxolela ukwenza." Khawucinge ukuba unikwe uxanduva lokugqiba isigqibo senkohlakalo esichengeni, esichaza kakhulu uluntu kwaye kuphela kuwe kuxhomekeke ukuba uya kuhlala okanye cha. Ubeka phi i-comma? Ngaba uya kuqhubeka ukuba ubomi bomntu oyingcwele okanye ucingisise inani lexhoba lombulali kwaye unqume ukubeka abanye abantu engozini ngokulandela abalandeli besigwebo sokufa kunye nabachasene nokuvalelwa entolongweni, nangona wena uyayithiya le ngcamango? Ngaba unokukwazi ukunqoba zakho iingcamango zokuziphatha? Ukuba ewe, ngoko unengxaki ngokuzikhethela komntu ngamnye, okwenene yinto yeendlela zokusebenzisana phakathi komntu kunye noluntu.

Amandla okanye ubuthathaka?

I-psychology yokuzikhethela komntu yinkqubo eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ebandakanya zonke iinkqubo zophuhliso lomntu kunye nezinto ezichaphazelayo. Nantsi yonke into idlala indima: kokubili amava obomi obukhoyo, kunye nommandla apho umntu akhuliswe khona, kunye neempawu zengqondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo amandla omntu ukukhusela isikhundla sakhe iboniswa kuzo zonke iintlobo ezintathu zokuzimela komntu ngamnye, oku:

1. Ngokumalunga nemisebenzi yabo yobugcisa.
2. Ngokubhekiselele kwiimimandla ezivunyelwe kuluntu.
3. Ekuqaliseni intsingiselo kunye neenjongo eziphambili zobomi bomntu.

Izibalo zibonisa ukuba umntu uthe wavuma iimpawu zobunkokeli kwaye akahluphekanga ngenxa yokungathandabuzeki, ngokuqhelekileyo akafumani naluphi na iingxaki ngokuzimisela nokuzimelela komntu ngamnye. Kodwa kwimeko yomntu ongaqinisekanga, ngubani oye wahlaselwa ngokusingqongileyo kwimvelo yobuntwaneni kunye nentsha, ukukwazi ukwenza ukhetho ngaphandle kokujonga izinto ezinokuthi zikhona kuluntu okanye kwixinzelelo lwezinye iinjongo zobomi sele zibizwa.

Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ukuzimisela ubuntu akuyena kuphela udidi lomntu omnye. Iphela ngqo kwilizwe elingaphandle, elijoliswe ekusebenzisaneni noluntu kwaye ngenxa yoko, lidlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuqaliseni i-vector yentuthuko yayo.