Kukholelwa ukuba umfazi unzima ukuyiqonda. Kwaye bacinga ngoko, ngokwenene, amadoda. Ngaphezulu kwesinye isizukulwana soososayensi kwintsimi yeengqondo, ufuna ukuchaza oko umfazi oyifunayo. Kodwa kwintliziyo yendoda, abayikumba kakhulu. Ndiyambuza ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka? Emva koko, abafazi banokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nokulindela kwamadoda, kwaye oko akufunayo-awaziwa.
Sincoma ukuba sibone ngesihloko esithi "Yintoni umntu ayifunayo, okanye intombazana enhle emehlweni abantu." Ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke abantu bafuna ukubona umfazi onobuqili, omhle, wezoqoqosho osondelene nabo. Kodwa iimpawu ezichazwe ziphezulu. Kwaye wonke umntu phantsi kwegama elithi "smart", "inhle", "uqoqosho" ubona into yakhe. Kwaye le miba ayinakulinganiswa ngokulinganisela, oko kukuthi, umphumo wokuthelekisa, umzekelo, oomama ababini abaziqilileyo baya kuxhomekeka ngokunyanisekileyo kwizinto ezizimeleyo, kunye nendima ebalulekileyo kulo mfazi ebomini bomntu. Emva kwakho konke, umama wesifazane, umhlobo wesetyhini, intloko yeentombi kufuneka ibe nempawu ezahlukileyo. Kodwa sisamazama ukuchaza ukuba yintoni intombazana enhle, ngokwembono yamadoda kunye namakhwenkwe .
- Phantse isiqingatha sendawo yesintu yabemi belizwe lethu kuqala kuqala ngengqondo yowesifazane. Kodwa ngelo xesha, amadoda amaninzi awayithandi ukuba intombazana okanye ibhinqa ibonisa ukuba inzuzo yakhe yengqondo ngaphezu kwesini esifanelekileyo. Ngenxa yoko senza isigqibo esilula: ngamehlo amadoda kunye namadoda, intombazana enhle kufuneka ibe buchule, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo lifihla kakuhle.
- Kwesibini kwindawo ebalulekileyo, amadoda abeka idatha yangaphandle. Kodwa, mhlawumbi, akukho naso isalathisi esiphezulu kunokuba ubuhle besifazana. Kwaye asisoze sothusa umntu xa sithetha ukuba ubuhle bobuhle besifazana kumntu ngamnye okanye intombi yakhe eyahlukileyo.
- Kwimithathu yesithathu impawu zabesetyhini zithathwa ngaphandle. Lobu bubele kunye nokunyaniseka. Yaye ukuba ngokuthembeka konke kunokucace ngakumbi, ngokobubele kunokuba neminye imiba. Omnye ucinga ukuba ukwanele ukuba umfazi onobubele abe novelwano, uvelwano kunye nokunyamezela abantu, kwaye abanye abantu bayayiqonda intsingiselo yokutyekela inkonzo engathandekiyo kubantu kunye nokuzidela.
- Kwakhona amehlo eentombazana afanelekileyo amakhwenkwe afanele abe ngabafazi. Ngaphantsi kwesi sikhokelo, abafana kunye namadoda baqonda ukuthobeka, ubuthathaka besifazane, ubabalo, ububele kunye nemininzi impawu ezintle ezahlukeneyo.
- Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, intombazana enhle imele ibe yindoda kwaye ibe yinto enqwenelekayo kumntu. Kodwa kwakhona, ukukhethwa kwintlobo yamadoda kuyahluka kakhulu. Kwaye kwanokuqwalasela into yokuba umntu uyayithanda amehlo akhe, ngokufanayo, bonke abafazi banokuthanda umntu oyedwa kunye nomnye - hayi.
- Kuyathakazelisa ukuba abantu abambalwa baqhubela phambili umlinganiselo wokuba ulawulo lwezoqoqosho. Uvo lwabo luyilo: intombazana ayidingi ukuba ibe kwezoqoqosho, kunokuba yinto enomtsalane olumnandi kuwo wonke umgangatho wezimpawu zesetyhini. Kodwa xa ukhetha elinye iqabane lobomi, uqoqosho luya kufutshane. Ngoko ke, amantombazana kufuneka acinge malunga nokuba umfana wakhe unyanisekile ukuba awukwazi ukupheka, okanye ungathandi ukuhlambulula. Mhlawumbi nje akayi kubona ubomi bakhe besikhathi esizayo.
- Amehlo entombazana enhle afanelekileyo kunye namadoda kufuneka abe nokunyaniseka nomonde.
Kubalulekile kuwe. Kodwa apha kubalulekile ukuba ungayi kwesinye isiqhelo kwaye ungabonakali ukuba kwenzeke ntoni. Ngako oko, zama ukungaxhatshazi umntu onemibuzo, kwaye nangaphezulu, akufuneki ukuba anike ingxelo epheleleyo malunga nazo zonke iimeko ayezibandakanye ngazo emini. Kodwa bonise umdla ukuba yena ngokwakhe ufuna ukukuxelela indlela yakhe yokuhamba ngayo. - Khumbula kwakhona ngomona. Hayi, asikucebisi ukuba ube nomona kumntu wakho kumfazi ogqithisiweyo. Kodwa ungesabi ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho ukuba ubonakala ngathi uxolisa. Ubukhwele obukhulu buya kuxhamla ubuhlobo bakho kuphela.