Ukuthobela imiyalelo yabanye abantu kuyimfuneko kubanye abantu, kodwa ulawulo olusisigxina lunakho ukuqhubela abantu abantu. Ngokukodwa oku kungathandeki kulwalamano, ngoko ke iimpawu zesalathisi zendoda, onokuba ngumtyholi, kuyinqweneleka ukufumana kwangaphambili. Ekubeni kunxibelelwano lwangexesha elide lusebumbano olungavumelekanga nje ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane obuhlungu.
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Kufuneka ukuba uqonde ukuba ukunyanzeliswa kuyisiphumo sengqondo esifihliweyo, ngoko ixhoba libonakala lisohlwayelwa kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo. Ingundoqo yeempawu zendoda enobuqili kunye nomlondolozi ngumnqweno wakhe okokuqala ukufumanisa ubuninzi malunga nazo zonke iimeko ezinzima kakhulu. Oku akukwenziwe ngenxa yomnqweno wokwazi intanda ethandekayo, kodwa ukufumana imephu yobuthakathaka bayo, obunokutshintshwa. Ngokomzekelo, izalamane zineengxaki zokusela utywala, ekuqaleni amadoda aya kuba novelwano kuphela. Emva koko kuya kuba nezilumkiso malunga neglasi ye-champagne etywala yintombazana ngo-Eva onguNyaka omtsha, kwaye emva koko nabahlobo banokuba nengxelo malunga nobuthathaka kwiziphuzo ezinokusetyenziswa kotywala, nangona eqinisweni yena uqala ukugqithisa i-shelf ngotywala ngenxa yokoyika ukwesaba ukuphindaphinda kwixesha lezihlobo. Olu loyiko kwaye luya kuxhaswa yi-manipulator kuzo zonke iindlela ezinokwenzeka, luya kugqiba nenyaniso yokuba uya kubiza indoda yakhe umsindisi, kwaye ukholelwa ngokwenene ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe uza kuba ngumxila.
Kuba kubaluleke ukuba zonke izinto zakhe zizalisekile, ukufezekisa le ndlela, iindlela ezigqithisileyo zingasetyenziswa. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umfazi emva kokuzalwa komntwana uhlala ekhaya ngaphezu kwekhefu eliyimfuneko, kuba umyeni umtshela ngesidingo sokunyamekela umntwana, kwaye kufuneka aphumle. Le ntokazi ibona oko kukunyamekela komthandayo. Kodwa ke ukhathala ukuchitha lonke ixesha ekhaya, uzama ukufumana umsebenzi, umculi ongeyithandi, kwaye uzama ukumvumela ukuba aphume. Kule nto, amabali angasetyenziselwa ubuthathaka bomntwana, impilo engafanelekanga yowesifazane ngokwakhe okanye iingxabano malunga nokungabikho kokungabikho kwakhe emsebenzini. Yonke into eyenziwa ukunciphisa ukuzithemba komlingani kwaye igxininise ukuba ayibalulekanga. Ngaloo ndlela ilandela enye yeempawu ezibalulekileyo zomyeni-manipulator: umnqweno wokuthobela ukuthanda komntu, ukuzondla (ngokwezemali okanye ngokwemvakalelo).
Kukho uluvo lokuba i-manipulator yindoda engabonakaliyo, yokubala. Enyanisweni, unobuthakathaka kwaye akayikho imigaqo, ufuna into eyodwa kuphela - amandla. Yaye ngenxa yokufumana kwayo, zombini umsebenzi kunye nosapho zisetyenziswa. Oku kuhamba rhoqo, kuba kukho apho abantu abasengozini kakhulu. Ukuze ungangeni phantsi kwefuthe lomntu onjalo, jolisa kakhulu, jonga indlela ebonisa ngayo ulwazi: ufuna ukwabelana okanye uzama ukuzuza kwiimbali ezibuhlungu. Yithobela imibuzo yakhe: uvelwano okanye usebenzise amabinzana emisebenzi, uzama ukwenza ezinye iinkcukacha. Khawucinge ngakumbi ubuhlobo bakhe nabahlobo kunye nabaqhelana naye, umphathi wezinto zonke uya kuzama ukugoba phantsi kwakhe, kodwa ukuba kukho abakhuphiswano abanamandla, kuya kufuneka athathe isikhundla senceba kuba akakwazi ukuthetha ngokulinganayo. Xa udibana nabazali bakhethiweyo, jonga ngokubhekiselele ekunxibelelaneni kwabo, njengoko abantwana bavame ukukopisha indlela yokuziphatha yabadala.