"Intombazana enomnqweno," "Unomdla kangakanani kwizenzo zakhe," "Yaye iphi na iinjongo?" - Iingongoma ezinjalo zivakala ukuvalelana phakathi koogxa emsebenzini, abaqhelana nabo kunye nabangamazi nonke. Kodwa yintoni iinjongo? Yaye uyayiqonda njani le nto?
Kwakukho eli gama egameni lobuthixo baseRoma, ohloniphekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngesiRashiya kwavela ngePoland, apho yayisethetha ukuzingca ngokweqhinga - ukuzingca. Kwiincwadi zaseRashiya zangekhulu leshumi elinesithoba, isifiso sasisichaza isithunzi kunye nodumo, kodwa ngokucacileyo. Emva kwexesha, i-gonor yaqala ukuchaza ngokuthe ngqo intsingiselo echaseneyo, umgangatho ombi womntu, obonakalisa ukuzingca, ukungahloneli, ukuzithemba nokuzithemba. Singaxela ukuba namhlanje ukuzimisela kukuzikhukhumeza, ukuziqhenya, ukuzingca, ukuzithemba. Nangona kunjalo, le nkcazo ayichazi ngokupheleleyo ngokupheleleyo intsingiselo yeso sifundo, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela iimpawu ezisemgangathweni zomntu onokulinda kwiindawo.
Iimpawu zobungqina
Namhlanje unokwazi ukukhukhumeza ngokweqile kumntu ngale miqondiso:
- umntu uzibeka ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, uyazikhukhumeza, azikhukhumeze, azimelele, azigwenxa;
- akahloneli abantu, uyabahlekisa;
- ibonisa ukungakhathaleli kwimbono yabanye;
- Ukunxibelelana nabantu "abangafanelekanga" bayibona njengento yokuthuka isithunzi sakhe;
- unalo lonke uluvo lwakhe, kodwa ngelixa elifanayo uyalichaza ngaphandle kokunyamekela iimvakalelo zabantu abazungezile;
- nangona kungenakulungile - ayifanekiyo okanye ayikho, ukholelwa ukuba ayikho phantsi kwesidima sakhe;
- ibinzana ebusweni bakhe bubonisa ukungcikiva, ukudelelwa, ukungakhathaleli.
Kuphi ukuphakama okuvela?
Ngokomzekelo, kwiGrisi yamandulo yayikholelwa ukuba abantu abazikhukhumelayo bazeka ngengozi, ukususela ekuzalweni. Isizathu sokuzikhukhumeza nokunyamekela ukungaphumeleli (umzekelo, intlupheko). Kuye kwenzeka ukuba uzama ukufihla ubuso bakhe, agqoke imaski yokudeka. Kwaye abaninzi abantu bakholelwa ngokuthe tye ukuba kubalulekile kubantu abanesidima (ubuhle, ubutyebi, amandla, ingqiqo, njl.) Kunokuba kukho ukungaphumeleli.
Nangona kunjalo, iinjongo zingabonakaliswa xa abantu befumana ulwazi kwaye bazicingela bona bangabulumko. Esi sihlandlo sisoloko sisona sakhono, isakhono. isifo seenkwenkwezi, ngokuqhelekileyo Ngokomzekelo, abadlali abanama talente nabasaziwa kakuhle, abadlali ababalaseleyo okanye abaculi abanesifo se-stellar. Bakholelwa ukuba izakhono ezigqityiweyo abaye banikezelwa ngendalo bazikhethela njengentando kwaye banike ilungelo lokuphatha abantu abaqhelekileyo ngomsindo.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo apho abantu abahlala bezungezile baqulunqa ukuziqhenya kulabo abaye banikezelwa yintlekele. Baye bafuna, bekholisa, bumncede abantu abanjalo, ngoko baqala ukucinga ukuba ba bhetele kunabanye ngandlela-thile. Kwakhona, ukunyanzelwa kwexesha kubakho ngokuzalwa ngemfundo engalunganga. Abazali bafundisa imimiselo yabo, ukuziphatha, ukunxibelelana nabantu, kunye nabantwana, abazali bahlala benemizekelo yokulingisa. Ngaloo ndlela, kulawo matyala xa umama nobaba beziphatha ngokuzidla kwabanye, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana wabo uya kuba njalo.
Yintoni eyingozi kunye neengozi yokuzidla?
Umntu onomnqweno awunamdla kubantu abakujikelezile, unalo lwabahlobo abangqinekiyo okanye abangabikho nhlobo, oogxa emsebenzini bayawuthintela, ubomi bobuqu kaninzi abuhambi kakuhle ... kwaye oku kuqondakalayo, nabantu abanokuzikhukhumeza kungekhona nje kuphela - abavumelani nabo!
Ukuzikhangela ngokweqile kukudala izithintelo kumnxibelelwano onobubele, kaninzi luwela yonke impawu ezintle. Yingakho ungabi nekratshi kwaye ungabizi abantu abazungezile ukuba isipho.