"Uyazi?", "Khawucinge!" - abahlobo beentlegi ngexesha lesidlo nakweyiphi na enye ixesha, abalahlekanga ithuba lokuxoxa ngeendaba zakutshanje. Ngaphambi kwethu kuyintlekele - yintoni na, intetho engathendekanga, okanye ingakanani ixesha elichithwe ngenzuzo?
Nyaniso ezintle
Oososayensi abahamba phambili kwiYunivesithi yase-Indiana (eU.SA) baye bafaka ubungqina bokuthi inkohlakalo, ziyimigwebo engagunyaziswanga ngabantu abangabonakaliyo okwangoku, banokuhlolwa kakubi kakhulu kuluntu. Emva koko, akaluthandwa ngabathengisi bamarhwe, kwaye baninzi nje baphephe abantu abanjalo.
Ndikholelwe, ekuxoxeni ngobomi bomntu bomntu kukho i-pluses, kwaye umnqweno wokuhlamba amathambo omntu uvela ngezizathu ezithile. Ukuhleka kuthetha ukuxelela ulwazi, ukuvavanya, ukuhlala kungengqiqo, ukuthelekisana nomntu, ukukhangela iimpazamo. Mhlawumbi emva kokujonga okutsha kwenkcazo yalo mqondo, ngaba uya kutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo?
Ngoko, izazi zengqondo zithi abantu, ngelixa bexubusha iingxaki zabanye abantu, kubonakala bazizame ukuziphatha kunye neemeko zomntu abazimisele ukuxoxa ngazo. Ngexesha elifanayo, bayavuya kukuba ezi ziganeko ezimnandi azizange zenzeke nabo, ngenxa yoko, ukufezekiswa kwalokhu, ukuthelekiswa kunye neendawo zabo "ezilungileyo," zibenza zihlaziye.
Iinkonzo zale "hobby"
1. Ukuncoma . Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zabonisa ukuba ukudluliswa kolwazi kunceda ukuhlalisa. Xa umntu ebudeni beengxoxo ufunda into ngomnye, ngakumbi ukuba le ngcaciso ingumbala ongathandekiyo, intliziyo yakhe iyanda, uvakalelo lwexhala luyanda. Umbuso ongaqhelekanga ubangelwa kukuba kufuneka uxelele lo mntu into ethile. Kwakhona kunenzuzo ukuba umntu akafuni ukuthetha kakhulu ngaye, yingako uthetha ngomnye umntu. Ngenxa yoko, ingxoxo yomntu ophuma ngaphandle yenza ukuba uqhagamshelwano nomnye umntu ukhuselekile, kuba uxoxa ngezihloko ezithandayo, kodwa ungathinti umntu wakho.
2. Isiphumo senguqulelo . Iingcali zenzululwazi ezichazwe ngaphambili zenze ukuba iingxoxo kunye neengxoxo zazixhomekeke ngqo ekuziphendukeni kwemvelo, njengoko zabanceda abantu baqoke abaholi, ngaphandle kwabakhohlisi namasela. Ugqirha wezeNzululwazi uN. Emler uphakamise ukuba kukuhleka okusihluphayo kwizilwanyana kwaye banegalelo ekubunzeni amaqela ahleliweyo phakathi kwabantu basendulo. Sifumana ulwazi olutsha ngokuchanekileyo ngeendlebe, ngokuqhelekileyo buxoki, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, luncedo, ukuba kuphela ngenxa yokwenza iimpazamo ezifanayo ebomini bethu. I-Social Issues Research Centre yanikezela ngolwazi: 33% yamadoda kunye nama-26% amabhinqa ahlekisayo imihla ngemihla. Inyaniso elula kukuba abantu bayabiza inhlebo-ingxoxo, kunye nabasetyhini abalahleli amagama avela kwingoma bathi njengoko kunjalo, "ukuhleka."
3. Nceda umhlobo . Ezinye iingcali zengqondo zentlalo zikhuthaza le mbono: kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuhleka ngenxa yeso sifiso sokunceda. Kunzima ukukholelwa, kodwa kuyinyaniso. Ngokunika ulwazi olungalungileyo ngomntu othile, sizimisele ukukhusela lo mntu. Ngoku, lo mva uxhobile ngolwazi kwaye, masithi, silungele ukumelana notshaba. Nantsi into ephambili isele ikhona, ukwenzela ukuba lo mntu akaphumi kakuhle.
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba kukho abantu abathile, phantse i-fount of gossip. Bayazi yonke into kunye nayo yonke into, kwixesha leziganeko kunye neendaba, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - bayakwazi ukubonisa ulwazi ngombala ochanekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, bayathandwa. Kodwa, kholwani mna, abo bantu banobomi obugcwele iziganeko ezithandekayo, izenzo ezinemibala, ukuqonda, abaqhelana nabo, abayi kuze baxoxe ngobomi bomntu wabodwa. Ngenxa yokuba umnqweno wokuhleba
4. Iinjongo ezinamandla kunye nokusekwa kobudlelwano bobuhlobo . Ukuhleba kusishukumisela ukuba sibe ngcono. Sinoyika ukuba siza kutshutshiswa ngokukhawuleza, ngenxa yokugubungela ngenkohlakalo, into leyo isishukumisela ukuba singabi njalo.
Kukho uluvo lokuba ukuhleba kutshabalalisa ubuhlobo. Kodwa kuvela, akukho. Ngenxa yokuhleba, ubungane bunokuba bukhulu. Ekubeni, xa bexoxa ngomntu, abantu bacinga ukuba abafani nabo kunye nengcamango yabo iyabahlanganisa.
Kwaye khawucinge, uhlala uhleba ngantoni na? Yaye kungakanani? Ngoku uyazi ukuba le nto ibalulekile!