Abanye abantu besaba amaphupha apho babona othandekayo babo ekufeni okanye abagulayo, ukuba babone ukuba bayothuka, makhe sibone ukuba umzalwana olahlekileyo uphupha ntoni kwaye ulinde emva kweso mbono yengxaki.
Yintoni umzalwana ephuphayo?
Iincwadi ezahlukeneyo zephupha zicebisa umntu ukuba akhumbule oko umntu wakhe ozalwayo ephuphayo, oku kuya kumnceda. Umzekelo, ukuba uthe wathetha nomntakwenu, ngoko unako ukulinda iindaba ezikhawulezayo, kodwa, noko ke, akuyi kuba kubi okanye kuyantyantya. Ewe, ukuba isihlobo sakho sicele ukuba usize embonweni, akufanele uloyike kuye, kodwa uzakufumana kungekudala xa ufuna inkxaso yabantu abasondeleyo.
Kodwa ukufa komzalwana ukuphupha ntoni, uphupha ukutolika ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ezinye iimithombo zithi le nto ibonakalisa ukuba isihlobo siya kuhlala ubomi obunexesha elide nolonwabileyo, abanye bathi le nto ibonakaliso lobomi bakho kunye nolonwabo oluzayo.
Iingqungquthela kunye neengxaki zithembisa umbono wokuxabana nesihlobo, oko kukulwa nomntakwabo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngokugqithiseleyo ufumanisa naye ubuhlobo ephupheni, ziza kubakho iingxaki ezinkulu
Ukuphupha kunye nomntakwabo akusoloko kusisigxina esihle, nangona ibali lingabonakali, kodwa liyavuya. Ekubeni kuya kuba neengxabano ezininzi ukuba ukhona emtshatweni wesihlobo. Ulwahlulo lwentsapho, ukwahlukana kwepropati kunye nokulahlekelwa kwezinto, yintoni umtshato womzalwana okhoyo. Ngendlela, ukuba ungeke ukhululeke kule phupha, ngoko ubunzima buza kusombululwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye iingxaki ziya kutshabalala njengokuba, ngokwabo, ukhumbule ukuba uthande umtshakazi, ukuba akunjalo, ngoko, ukuba ilahleko ziza kuba zingabalulekanga.