Unxibelelwano nabantu lunokuba lunomdla kakhulu, kodwa kaninzi luba ngumthombo wokucaphukisa, ngakumbi xa umnxibelelwano eqala ngokukrakra kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo unyuka ebomini. Yintoni ongayenza, indlela yokuzikhusela kwabanye abantu kwaye ungabi yiqhawe lokuhleba?
Kutheni abantu befuna ukwazi?
Fumana umntu ongenakhathalela ngobomi babanye kunzima, kuphela umntu othanda ukuba nomdla kwimicimbi yezihlobo kunye nabahlobo, kwaye umntu uthanda "ukuphosa iingcambu zabo" kwimpilo yabasebenzi okanye osebenza nabo. Ngangoko kuyimfuneko ukuhlukanisa iingcamango ezimbini - inzululwazi kunye nekhono. Kwimeko yokuqala, loo mntu unomdla wokubonisa ubumnene. Kodwa ukwazi ukuzama ukungena emphefumlweni ngenjongo ethile. Masizame ukuqonda ukuba ngaba bantu bakuphi.
Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba abantu banomdla wokufumana ulwazi oluthile lokunciphisa ulwazi olunokuthi lusetyenziswe ukuphakama kwabo. Enyanisweni, baninzi abantu abanjalo, kwaye kwezinye iindawo zabo zokuhlala ziindawo zeenkampani kunye noluntu jikelele, apho abaninzi banokulungele nantoni na, ukuba bathathe indawo efudumeleyo. Enye into kukuba ngokuphindaphindiweyo abaqeqeshi bezenzo bathanda ukwenza ngobulumko - bayayiphulaphula, endaweni yokubuza. Zonke iinkcukacha eziyimfuneko zibonelelwa ngeqela lesibini elona likhulu labantu abanomdla.
Abanye abantu banomdla kubomi babantu abadumileyo, abamelwane, abasebenzisana nabo, izihlobo ngaphandle kwanoma yimuphi umcango wempendulo. Umzekelo obalaseleyo woo-curious-grandgothers kwibhentshi, baxela u rhu lumente okanye intombazana evela kwibhantshi elingumakhelwane kungekhona ukuba banqwenela ukutshintsha imeko kwilizwe okanye banqwenela kakuhle kummelwane wabo, abakwaziyo ukuthatha iintsuku zabo ezide kunye nobusuku. Abanye abantu baqala ukuguga ngaphambi kweshedyuli, bacinga nokuba ngaphambi kokuthatha umhlalaphantsi ukuba ubomi babo buyinto engathandekiyo kwaye engabonakaliyo, ngoko ke bayayitshintsha ngeentshukumo zobomi bomntu bemihla ngemihla.
Ungazikhusela njani kwinqwenela kwabanye abantu?
Ukuqhubela phambili ekubeni ininzi yabantu abanomdla badidekile ebomini babo, umntu unokucinga ukuba kufuneka abe nesihe. Mhlawumbi uvelwano luya kuboniswa, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akufuneki ukuba uthathe nawaphi na amanyathelo okuyeka ukufuna ukwazi okunjalo. Aba bantu bayazi, mhlawumbi, abafuni ukukukhohlakele, kodwa bayayichaphazela. Uchitha ixesha lakho kunye neentsholongwane xa uthetha nabo, uchitha amandla akho kumava, kunokuba uqondise ukuba usebenze okanye uxoxe nalabo abafudumala intliziyo yakho. Ngoko ke unganqikazi ukuxhathisa ulwazi olungenanto, kuba kukho iindlela ezininzi.
- Indlela yokuqala kunye neyona ndlela ecacileyo kukuba ukuxelela umntu ongathandekiyo ukuba ubomi bakho bobuqu abukhathazi nhlobo. Kodwa oku akunakuze kwenziwe njalo, kuba baninzi kula bantu kubalulekile ukuba baqhubeke bekhona kwaye bachithe ubuhlobo ngokupheleleyo, andifuni.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu kulula kakhulu ukucaphuka xa sele ediniwe, ngoko kuya kuba mnandi ukuthetha nabantu abakuchukumisayo ngexesha lokukhathala okukhulu. Ewe, ukuphepha kwabo bonke ixesha abayi kusebenza, ngoko fundani ukuhlala kude nento eyenzekayo, lawula iimvakalelo zakho, uzinqande kwi-bud. Ukuncedisa kule nto ngoku kungakho into eyaziwayo njengokucamngca. Ngaphandle kokungcwina okujulile kwimvelaphi yalo mkhuba, ukuphefumula kakuhle kunokukwenza izinto ezimangalisayo.
- Ukuba uhamba ngokukhawuleza, unokwenza ubuchule bokubonakalisa - ucinga ukuba ujikelezwe ngumbombo onzulu (udonga lwamatye, imvula yamanzi, ilangabi), elikuvala ukujonga amehlo, ekuthintela ukuba usondele kuwe. Kwakhona kunokwenzeka, ekujonganeni nomntu ongathandekiyo, ukucinga ukuba ungobugwili, unomdla ongathandekiyo.
- Abantu abangazi ngokusondeleyo, ngokuqhelekileyo basibamba kwiibhile, ezichazwe kwabanye. Yeka ukuzichazela ngokwalo ilebula, uhluke ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye xa umntu ekhupha emphefumlweni wakho, aze aphele ukuhleka, ungayithobeli ingqalelo - uye wazakhela into ethile kwaye uyaziqhayisa ngeemfesane zakhe ezibuhlungu phambi kwabanye, akunjalo, akunjalo?
Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, khumbula - akukho nenye yeendlela eziqhelanisiweyo eziza kusebenza, ukuba uqala ukuvumela umntu ukuba abe etempileni yentliziyo yakho. Ewe, ukuzihlukanisa kunye nokuzonda wonke umntu, ngaphandle kobambalwa abantu abasondeleyo, akufanelekanga, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uvule ngokupheleleyo phambi kokuba wonke umntu.