Kungekhona kwishishini kuphela, kodwa nakubomi bemihla ngemihla, kubalulekile ukuba umntu ngamnye asebenzise ngobuchule ukudibanisa nabanye. Impumelelo ihamba phambili, okokuqala, abo banakho ukuxhobisa abantu kunye nezakhono zobungcali. Kukho amanani amaninzi abathintana nabo, kwaye ngoko ke ukufumana isitshixo ehambelana ngasinye sisipho esixabisekileyo. Ungamqinisekisa njani umntu? Okokuqala, funda iziphakamiso ezilandelayo.
Indlela yokufunda ukukholisa abantu-ubunkokheli
Kukho uhlobo olulandelayo lwee-interlocutors:
- Ukungabikho, i-phlegmatic.
- U buhlungu.
- Ukuzimela.
- Ukuzithemba.
Enyanisweni, iintlobo ezinjalo azibalalwanga, kodwa zizo zonke iincinci zezine. Ukuchaneka ngokufanelekileyo, ukwakha iziphakamiso ukwenzela ukuba uqonde indlela yokuqinisekisa abantu ngokuchanekileyo, unako emva kokukhangela umxhumanisi wakho, umlingiswa wakhe, njl. Masicabangisise ngokubanzi iinkcukacha ezi zilapha ngentla.
- Uhlobo olungabonakaliyo lwabantu alukwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezicacileyo kwisihloko esicatshungulwayo. Kule nto kuvela ukuba akudingeki ukuba uxinzelele ngamandla ngenjongo yokukholisa umntu onjalo. Into ephambili kule nto ukuqonda ukuba kutheni engabandakanyekanga. Ngoko, okanye into engenakho ukukhathazeka ngayo. Kule meko, umele ufune ukumthabatha ukuze amkele isipho sakho. Yakha umoya onjalo ukuba umnxibelelwano wacinga ukuba isihloko esixoxwa ngayo siyazikhathalela yena kunye nokuba oko unikelayo kunenzuzo enkulu kuye. Kwimeko yesibini, kufuneka kuqinisekiswe ukuba, ngenxa yesamkelo sesiphakamiso, kuya kuhlala kuphela kwindawo yokuphumelela. Kucelwa ukuba wakhe isakhiwo esibonisa ubungqina obuhle, ukunciphisa ukungonakali nokuphandaphindisa. Yiba nengqiqo kwaye ihambelane kwiingxoxo zakho.
- Abagxeki baqonda kuphela ulwimi lweemfazwe. Khawubale ngobuthathaka bakho. Isixhobo esiyinhloko kwingxoxo ngumxinzelelo ovimba amandla awo. Yiba yinqaba engenakunakunqandwa, engathinteli ukuvakalelwa komntu onjalo. Ukukholisa kulula kuphela xa ungabonakali ukungaqiniseki kwakho.
- Umntu oqalayo uyavuma yonke into enikezela yona, kodwa emva kwexesha elithile uyayenqaba le nto, echaza ukuba "akuyena mna", "Andikwazi ukuyilawula." Ungazami ukubonisa ukuba lo mntu unako konke okuninzi. Akukho nto. Ukungahambi kakuhle
ibonakala xa uphelile zonke iingxabano kunye neengxabano. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqaphela ukuba umnxibelelwano uza kuwe ngeengalo ezivulekile, buza umbuzo othi "Ingaba unalo hlobo?". Uya kuziyeka xa umenza athethe. Ukuze umkholise, qiniseka ixesha elide. Cela kuye icebiso. Ngenxa yeengxoxo, uya kuziqinisekisa. - Uhlobo lokuzithemba . I-Psychology inikeza isikhokelo esilandelayo, sinceda ukuqonda indlela yokumkholisa umntu onjalo. Bonisa umlingane ongamthandabuzekiyo, ngamandla akhe. Ukuxhatshazwa ngumntu onjalo-ukumxelela ukuba kuye umntu ongathandabuzekiyo. Ngenxa yoko, ulahlekelwa ngumlawuli kule meko.