Ukuzibonakalisa kwimihla ngemihla kubakho ebomini bethu. Abaninzi abantu bayaqonda ukuba wonke umntu usebenza kuyo rhoqo. Oku kwenzeka xa ukhetha isitala sengubo, kuxhomekeke kwimeko okanye ukuziphatha - kwimeko. Esi sicwangciso sasibizwa ngokuthi "ukuzimela ngokwemvelo."
Yintoni ukuzimela?
Ukuzibonakalisa yinkqubo apho umntu ebonisa umfanekiso wakhe kwihlabathi lentlalontle kwaye uzimisele ukudala ukucinga okuthile komntu wakhe malunga nabantu abakujikelezile. Ukuzondla kuyindawo ebalulekileyo yobunxibelelwano izakhono ezisetyenziswe ngabantu ukudala umfanekiso kwingqondo yabantu. Injongo ephambili yokuzimela kukufumana iindleko zentlalo kunye nezinto eziphathekayo. Ingasetyenziselwa kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, ekunxibelelaneni nabantu abangabaziyo kwisitrato kunye nokuphela kwamaqabane aphakamileyo kwiiofisi nakarhulumente karhulumente.
Umfanekiso kunye nokuzimela
Imfuno yoluntu inokufezekiswa ngokudala i-halo yokuheha. Ukwandisa ukuzithemba kungenxa yokungaqhelekanga komntu kunye nokukhanga, okuxhaswa yikhono lokuxhasa incoko nangayiphi na isihloko, ukuba ngumntu oncokolayo. Ukukwazi ukudala nokukhetha umfanekiso ochanekileyo kunceda ukutsala ingqalelo kumntu wakho kwaye uqale ulwalamano.
Ukuzibonakalisa ngobuntu kubalulekile kubo bonke abantu. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto, eziphambili zi:
- Ukufumana izibonelelo ezithile kwabanye . Ziyakwazi ukuba zizinto eziphathekayo, ezifundisayo, ezingqondweni. Ukukwazi ukuzithobayo kunceda ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula ukuthabatha indawo engekho emsebenzini, ukutsala ingqalelo ngesini esahlukileyo, ufumane ulwimi olufanayo nakweliphi na uluntu.
- Ukuyila "I" yakho . Ngokuxhomekeke kwendlela yokuzibonisa ngayo, siya kubonwa ngabanye. Ukuhleka okunomsoco kunye nokumncoma ekuphenduleni amahlaya akho ukuba ube ngumntu onobuqili novuyo, kwaye xa uxelelwa ukuba uyakwazi kwaye unolwazi, uya kuziva ngokukhawuleza.
- Ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza koqhagamshelwano loluntu . Ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo malunga neempembelelo zabanye kuya kunciphisa inani lamagqabaza kwidilesi yakho. Olu hlobo luya kunciphisa kakhulu izinga lokulwa kunye nokunyanzeliswa kunye nokugxekwa ngokukhawuleza kwintetho.
Iintlobo zokuzimela
Ukuzibonakalisa ngomlomo kunye nokungabonakaliyo zizinto ezimbini ezibalulekileyo zokuzondla. Bakubonisa ngokucacileyo ubuntu kwihlabathi elijikelezayo kunye noluntu oluhle (ngaba oogxa bakho kwintsimi yezobugcisa okanye abadlulayo-ngokuhamba ngepaki okanye ezitalatweni zesixeko, ukukwazi kwakho ukuthetha kunye nosapho okanye abahlobo).
Ukuzithethelela ngezwi kukuvumela ukusetyenziswa kwezixhobo ezihlaziyiweyo kunye nezixhobo zolwimi ukudala umfanekiso othile womntu othile. Ukongezelela, le fomu yokuguqulela iilwimi ebhaliweyo. Iindlela zokuthetha zonxibelelwano ziquka ukutshintshisiswa kolwazi kunye noqhagamshelwano ngaphandle kokusetyenziswa kwamagama. Ezi ziquka ukubonakalisa ubuso, imiqondiso, isayina kunye neendlela zokubonisa. Ezi ndlela zonxibelelwano zazibizwa ngokuba ziziiprayimari nezisesekondari okanye izilwanyana zendalo kunye nezixhobo.
Indlela yokwenza ukuzimela?
Xa wenza ukuzithethelela, ungasebenzisa enye yeendlela ezimbini: ukulungelelanisa kwiqela elithile labantu okanye ube yinkokeli yabo. Kwinguqulo yokuqala kufuneka ube nesigulane kwaye ubukele eli qela ngenyameko. Kufuneka uqaphele indlela yabo yokunxibelelana, uxoxe ngezihloko, ukuziphatha kunye nemikhwa. Oku kuya kufumana ngokukhawuleza ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye nolwazi olutsha kunye nokungaziveleli. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzondla okunjalo akusoloko kulungile.
Indlela yesibini ibandakanya amanqaku amaninzi ebalulekileyo:
- Kufuneka ube nekhenketho elihle;
- Lungiselela intetho ecacileyo neqondakalayo;
- Gxi ninisa amandla akho;
- Gxi ninisa iimpawu zakho .
Ukuzimela-apho uqala khona?
Ukuzithengisa intetho kudibaniselwano kubandakanya izigaba ezihlanu eziphambili, nganye ekufuneka zenziwe ngokucophelela. Iqukethe:
- ukuzimela;
- udibana;
- utshintsho kwingxoxo;
- incoko ngokwayo;
- indlela yokuphuma kwintetho.
Ngexesha lokuqala, umgqatswa kwisihlalo esingenamntu kufuneka azibonele, emva kokunika igama lakhe elipheleleyo kunye nelizwi ngenjongo yokutyelela. Kule nqanaba, abaxhamli be-interlocutors kufuneka bathabathe ukujonga ngakumbi kwaye basebenzisane omnye nomnye, kuba elowo kubo unomxholo othile wezwi, ukubonakala kunye nethempo yentetho. Ukuzimela ngokwakho kufuneka kuqhutywe ngokuzola, kwintetho, ungathuthuki. Ukuba unako ukufumana ulwazi malunga nenkampani, kuyafaneleka ukuba utsho, kodwa kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba unokwethenjelwa.
Indlela yokuqhuba i-self-presentation?
Ukuzimela ngokubalulekileyo kuqhutyelwa kungekhona komntu oyedwa, kodwa kwiqela elithile labantu. Ukuzondla kuya kuphumelela ukuba unomdla kubaphulaphuli ngenkulumo yentetho. Iingcali ezinokuzibonela zikholelwa ukuba emva kokuzibonakalisa kuyilungele ukucela umgqweno weemfundiso kunye nokudibanisa abaphulaphuli. Le ndlela iyakususa ukuxhatshazwa okunokwenzeka kwaye yenza ukuba kuthembeke. Emva - misela iingongoma eziphambili zentetho kwaye wenze isakhiwo sayo. Unamathele ngokupheleleyo kwisicwangciso, ukuze ungaphutheli umzuzu obalulekileyo.
Ungagqiba njani ukuzityhila?
Ubugcisa bokuzimela buqulethe ukufakwa ngokufanelekileyo kwinqanaba ngalinye. Ukuphela komsebenzi akubalulekanga ngaphaya kokuqala kunye nokunikezwa kweyona nto ebalulekileyo yentetho. Ukufumana ukuzimela ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka uwugqibe ngendlela yokuqala. Ukwenza oku:
- ukuqokelela intetho yakho;
- sondela kwisigqibo esinengqiqo, ngokugxininisa kwinqanaba eliphambili;
- khuthaza abaphulaphuli ukuba benze isenzo.
Ukuzimela-iincwadi
Umntu ngamnye uzama ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi, kwaye oku kuyimfuneko ukuphuhlisa iindlela ezininzi kwaye unenkxaso enemali. Ngokwenzululwazi, "inokuphosa" kungekhona nje ngenxa yokungabi nolwazi olukhethekileyo, kodwa nokuzikhuthaza. Kulo shishini elingaxhamli liza kunceda ukuzithethelela kwangaphambili. Kuyakwazi ukukwazi ukufumana imizekelo eyahlukahlukeneyo yokuphumeza kunye nokukhuthaza izenzo kwiincwadi ezinjalo:
- "Ukuqeqesha ukuzimela" E. Mikhailova. Igama lithetha ngokwalo. Umbhali uchaza iingongoma eziphambili zokusebenzisana kunye nokuziphatha kwezoshishino.
- "Ukutshatyalaliswa komntu" F. Kotler, I. Rein, M. Stoller. Incwadi inceda ukufunda indlela yokufumana udumo. Ababhali bacacisa amabali abaphumelelayo njengabadumileyo njengoDavid Beckham, uDonald Trump, u-Christina Aguilera.
- "Abantombazana abalungileyo abenzi umsebenzi" uL. Frankel. Le ncwadi ifundisa indlela yokuphepha ukuzenza iimpazamo xa uzama ukunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi.