Indoda inxalenye yendalo yonke. Kwaye le nto ayinakuyiphi na into eya kuthethwa ngayo. Kodwa ukuba uyayiqonda, ke kukho indawo ebonakalayo (ubuncinci kwizinto ezifanayo), kwaye kukho indalo esingayiboniyo, kodwa sizibona ngathi. Kuphela kwindalo yendalo yesibini iinjongo zethu, iimvakalelo, amaphupha kunye neminqweno. Yaye indlela esilungiswa ngayo ebomini bethu, ekugqibeleni kuxhomekeke oko kuya kuba yintoni. Ngaba uye wakha wazibuza ukuba kutheni abantu abangathembekiyo ngehlabathi abaqhelekanga ukwenza nantoni na? Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, abo batshabalalisa amandla abalulekileyo bahlala behle kwaye izinto ziya kunyuka. Konke malunga nokubonakala kweminqweno, nokuba kunjalo, indlela efanelekileyo yokuphunyezwa kwayo.
Ukufundwa kweengcamango: ukusetyenziswa
Yonke ingcamango efika engqondweni yethu iyakwazi ukuguqula ngonaphakade ubomi bethu. Umbuzo wodwa wendlela yokubeka iimbono zethu ngokufanelekileyo? Umthetho wendalo iphela kukuba nangona singafuni ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lwezibonelelo kuyo, kodwa sihlala siphinda siphinda sibuyele nayiphi na isitatimenti, ngoko kanye into esiyicinga ngayo ngokukhawuleza iya kuqala ukuba yenzeke ebomini bethu. Ngokuqinisekileyo abaninzi baye bafumana le nto xa kwenzeka ukuphahlazeka kweendiza, kwaye ngosuku olulandelayo kwiindaba bathi idiza liye laphazamiseka kwindawo ethile. Okanye wena ngokwenene ngosuku ngaphambi kokuba ukhumbule umhlobo ode kunye nosuku olulandelayo wadibana naye ngokungalindelekanga. Zonke ezi ngxelo ziphinda zibonakalise ukuba sonke siyingcambu yenkcazelo efanayo, esenza ngokungahambisani nxaxheba kunye neembonakaliso zethu. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ngoko kufuneka ufunde indlela yokulawula ukubonakala kweengcinga kunye neminqweno, ukuze uguqule ubomi bakho ngonaphakade.
Inkqubo yezinto ezibonakalayo
Ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ukulawula iingcinga zakho uze uqale ukuguqula amaphupha, kubalulekile ukulungiselela utshintsho ebomini bakho. Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukuhamba ngezigaba eziliqela.- Uhlalutyo lwangaphambili. Yintoni eyenzekayo kuyo yonke iminyaka yobomi bakho yiphumo yento okholelwa kuyo kunye noko ufunayo. Awunayo imali eyaneleyo? Ingcatshiweyo umhlobo omhle okanye ulethe impilo? Ngoko, kwindawo ethile eminzini yomphefumlo wakho, yilokho ufunayo. Ngaloo nto, bhala kuqala oko akuhambisani nawe ebomini bakho. Emva koko, vula izikhalazo zakho zibe yiinjongo. Ngenxa yoko, uya kufumana ibali malunga neenjongo zobomi bakho. Cinga ngezinto onokuthandayo, ukuba unelungelo lokuzalisekisa yonke iminqweno yakho.
- Umfanekiso wekamva. Ziphendule ngokwakho imibuzo - ulindele ntoni kwixesha elizayo, njengoko ucinga ngako. Yintoni eya kwenzeka kuwe ngonyaka, iminyaka emi-5, uza kuchitha njani ubudala bakho? Ngoku vala amehlo uze ucinge ngekamva lakho, eliya kukuvuyisa ngokwenene. Emva koko uvule amehlo uze ucinge ukuba onke amaphupha akho sele efezekile. Emva koko, qiniseka ukubulela isithuba okanye indawo yonke into eya kuba yinto efana nayo.
- Funda ukucinga kuphela okulungileyo. Kwabaninzi kuya kuba yindawo enzima. Kodwa ukufumanisa ubuchule bokubona ngendlela enokuthi izinto ezimbi ziza kubakhokelela ngokubanzi ubomi bakho. Funda ukungaziboni zonke izinto ezijongene nazo. Ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha imeko, utshintshe isimo sengqondo kuyo. Kungekudala uza kuphawula ukuba ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo nangona ubunzima obukhulu ukukwazi ukusombulula kakhulu.
Emva kokuba uzilungiselele utshintsho ebomini bakho, isinyathelo esilandelayo siya kuba yinkqubo yokujonga izinto ezinqwenelekayo kunye neengcinga. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo. Umsebenzi wakho kukuba ukhethe lowo uthanda kakhulu kwaye ulungele indlela ophila kuyo.
- Imephu yeminqweno. Ukuba ixesha elide liyaziwa kwaye liyamkeleka ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuxhotyiswa ngeesisi, umgca wamaphephancwadi kunye nesithombe sakho, yakha iphephandaba lesodonga apho ujikeleze isithombe sakho unamathele imifanekiso okanye iintloko ezibonisa ukuba kufuneka zifanise ubomi bakho. Kungaba umfanekiso wesithuthi, imoto, indlu yelizwe okanye ukuhamba. Xhoma ikhadi lakho kwindawo evelele kakhulu. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo uya kumbona ekhumbuza amaphupha akho, ukukhuthaza iminqweno yakho kuza kuvela.
- Umgcini wendalo. Fumana i-wand, okanye iqela elincinane lesebe, ekufuneka linikezelwe ngengqondo ngempahla yomlingo. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba unomnqweno, bhala kwincwadi ekhethekileyo, kwaye ngoko, njengokuba sele sele uyenziwa, kufuneka ubhale ngexesha langoku. Umzekelo: "Ndiyithenga imoto." Vzmahnite kunye nomgcini wakho womlingo uze uqedele ukubonakala kwakho kwegama eli cwangciso: "Ndifuna ukuba kube njalo." Yaye qiniseka ukuba ungeze kumazwi okugqibela okubulela ukuzaliseka kwalomnqweno.
- Kancinci malunga nokubulela. Le ndlela yokwenza izinto eziphathekayo kunye neminqweno nayo ilula ukuyisebenzisa. Kucetywayo ukwakha ilitye lokubulela. Mfumana nje apho intliziyo yakho ikuxelela khona. Kufanele kukukholise kumbala,
ubungakanani kunye nesimo. Nsuku zonke, umbethe kwaye uthi umbulele kuye ngenxa yezinto ezenzeke zilungile. Kwaye ngoncedo lwaloo gwecwe, unokwakhela iziganeko ezingakaze zenzeke, ngokungathi zenzekile. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna umntu othanda ukumhlangabeza endleleni, uphaphaza iqhekeza uze uthi: "Ndiyabonga, ukuba ndiya kudibana nalo mntu kwakhona naphandle." Kwaye lo mntu uya kudibana nawe. Into ephambili kukukholelwa kumandla akho amagama.
Ngokwalo, ubuchule bokucinga izinto kunye neminqweno kulula ukuyisebenzisa. Into ephambili apha akukhona kuphela ukufuna into ethile, kodwa nokucinga ukuba kuya kuba njani ukuzibona kwimeko apho iphupha lizalisekile. Funda ukukulindela iminqweno yakho kunye nendlela eya kukunceda ngayo. Kwaye kuphela ukubonakala kwezinto kuza kuba yinxalenye yobomi. Ubomi bakho obutsha.