Uninzi lwabazali baqhelana nengxaki enjengobantwana besaba, kwaye abaninzi bafuna impendulo yombuzo wokuba bajongane njani nabo? Indlela yokuziphatha nomntwana ukuba uncede ngokwenene, ungabi nandisa imeko?
Yintoni eyenza ukwesaba kwabantwana?
Isisombululo kunoma iyiphi ingxaki ayinakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuqonda izizathu zayo. Ngokokuqala siza kufumanisa ukuba zeziphi izinto ezibangela ukwesaba abantwana. Ngoko, ukwesaba kunokuba yintlungu, isimo esifanelekileyo okanye siphefumlelwe. Ukwesaba kwamaqabane, njengokuba igama libonisa, likhoyo kumntwana ekuzalweni kwaye linokuhamba nomntu ubomi bakhe bonke. Apha siphawula ukuba ukwesaba ngokwayo akusiyo isifo, kungekhona isifo se-pathological, kodwa isistim sokusikhusela esisinikwe ngendalo. Umntwana omncinane unesaba ukuhlala yedwa, engenamama, kuba unina unika ukutya nokuthuthuzela xa uthumele iimfuno zendalo, inika yonke into ebalulekileyo ebomini. Umoyiko obangelwa ngumoya luloyiko olubonakaliswe ngenxa yezinto ezimbi ezijamelene nazo. Umzekelo olula: umntwana oye wanyiswa yinja uya kuyika izinja aze azigqithise. Ekugqibeleni, ukwesaba okuphefumlelweyo - sibanika abantwana bethu ngokwabo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana uhamba kakhulu kwiimeko zokucoceka kunye nococeko lwabazali bakhe, umntwana ubona ukwesaba ukungcola nokungahlambuluki, uhlala ehlamba izandla, aguqula iimpahla, njl njl. Kwakhona, "abadala" iingxoxo kunye nomntwana ngokufa, izifo zonakalisa ingqondo yengqondo yomntwana.
Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lwabantwana?
Njengoko sele siyiqonde, ukwesaba ngokwayo yindlela yokuzimela eyimfuneko yokusinda. Ucela: mhlawumbi, kwaye ungalwi nalo? Akuyimfuneko ukulwa, kodwa kuphela xa ukwesaba umntwana wakho kubonakalisa ngokwaneleyo imeko, iyimpendulo kwisongelo esichengeni kwaye ayiyi kuba yinto engathandekiyo. Ukuba ungomnye walabo bazali abonwabileyo abangabandezeleka ngumbuzo othi "njani ukunqoba uloyiko lwabantwana", ngoko unokululeka kuphela ngexesha elifanelekileyo ukukhusela ukwesaba kwabantwana. Ngokufanelekileyo: ukuphepha iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo kumntwana, ukuphuhlisa izakhono zakhe zokunxibelelana, ukumnika uthando, uthando nokuqonda.
Ukuba ukwesaba abantwana kuba ngumhlobo wakho wengcinezelo, bangela ukuba iinyembezi ziqhekeza, ukhathazeke, ngoko kufuneka wenze into. Kwaye ke abazali banako ukwenza okuninzi. Okokuqala, ingqalelo yakho kumntwana, kumava akhe, ukuthetha ngokufudumeleyo kunye naye kuya kunceda apha. Izindlela ezintathu eziphambili zokulwa nokutya kwabantwana kukuthetha, ukudala kunye nokudlala.
Ngenxa yoko, ezintathu iindlela eziphambili zokuphelisa ukwesaba okomeleleyo kwengane zilandela. Into yokuqala kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo ongayenza ukuthetha nomntwana ngoloyiko lwakhe. Hlala nomntwana kwindawo ezolile kwaye umbuze malunga noko kukukhathazayo, yintoni eyoyikayo, kutheni. Ngaliphi na iminyaka, umntwana uya kuqonda ngokuqinisekileyo umnqweno wokwabelana naye ngxaki, kwaye, ukwabelana ngamava akhe, uya kuziva eqinisekile. Musa nje ukugculela ukwesaba abantwana - umntwana unokukhubekiswa, uya kuphelelwa yithemba kuwe kwaye ngekamva akayi kubelana nawe ngeengxaki ezintsha ezikhulayo.
Ubunako bungaba ngumncedisi omhle kumzabalazo wakho ngokukwesaba abantwana. Emva kokuthetha nomntwana ngoloyiko lwakhe, mcele ukuba adwebe. Kwinkqubo yokudweba, umntwana uqala ukuva amandla akhe phezu koyiko, ngoko ke, ngokwesaba ngokwalo. Umbhali wale nqaku ukhumbula kakuhle isiqhelo ukususela ebuntwaneni bakhe: ukwesaba ngokungenangqondo ngumntu weqhwa, ngokucetyiswa ngunina wayifake kwiphepha - kwakusisidalwa esihle kakhulu, kungekhona yonke into eyoyikisayo (kubalulekile ukutsho ukuba uloyiko emva kwalolu hlobo lwendalo luye lwaphela).
Ukongeza, unokuphelisa ukwesaba okungafunekiyo komntwana ngoncedo lomdlalo. Ngokomzekelo, umdlalo webala owaziwayo unceda abantwana ukuba basuse uloyiko lokuthintana nabantu abangabazi ("ibala" - ukuchukumisa ngokukhawuleza, ukukhanya okukhawulezayo, ukubetha umbala ongenawo umbala okhuselayo).
Ukuba awukwazi ukunqoba uloyiko lomntwana ngokwakho, ezi ndlela zingentla, udinga, ngaphandle kokulibaziseka, ukubuyela kwingcali. Umsebenzi ofike ngexesha elifanelekileyo weengqondo zeengqondo ezinokwesaba kwabantwana kuza kunceda ukuphelisa ingxaki ekuqaleni kwenkqubo yophuhliso, ukukhusela ukuguqulwa koyiko lomntwana kumntu omdala.
Ukwesaba ebusuku kwabantwana
Siza kuhlala kule nkcazo, njengobantwana besaba bobusuku - mhlawumbi enye yezona zinto zixhaphake kakhulu. Baqhekeza ukulala nokuvuka kwentsapho yonke, kubangele ukwethuka kwabazali, oko kwakhona kuhanjiswa kwakhona kumntwana. Ingqungquthela enesibindi yenziwe, apho kunzima ukuphuma khona. Ngexesha lobusuku obusayo, umntwana (ngokuqhelekileyo uneminyaka engama-2-5 ubudala) kwiiyure zokuqala ezintathu zobusuku ulala ngokukhawuleza avuke ngokukhala okukhulu nokumemeza. Xa ezama ukuthabatha izandla zakhe aze azinciphe, uyazikhupha, azigubungele ngesigqabi.
Into ephambili - khumbula ukuba uthando lwabazali lunako ukuphilisa naluphi na ukwesaba kwabantwana. Yiba ngumhlobo wakho kumntwana kwaye ube naye, kuba kunye nomhlobo-akukho nto iyantyikisayo!