Phantse njalo, zonke izinto "ezingakhathazeki" zomntwana zibonisa umzali. Sivame ukudala umhlaba obalaseleyo ekuphuculeni ukuzingca komntwana. Kuzo zonke iimeko, sigxininisa ngokukhethekileyo, ubuchule okanye italente yomntwana wethu, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyasifaka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ungumntwana okhethekileyo kwihlabathi. Ngethuba le-crumb liqala ukuziphatha ngokufana nalokhu: kufuna udlelwane olukhethekileyo kwaye kaninzi aluqapheli abanye abazungezile.
I-Egoism iyavuthwa ngokugqibeleleyo kunye nomhlaba wokuzihlaziya ngokukhawuleza kwi-whims ne-whims. Abazali bafuna ukunika inyana yonke into ayenaye ebantwaneni. Bacela amathoyizi axabisekileyo kwaye nganye "bayayifuna" bayakhawuleza kwisitoreji, kwi-sobs yokuqala bayiphonsa yonke imicimbi yabo baze banikele konke umntwana ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kungokwemvelo ukuba usebenziseke kwesi simo sengqondo ngokukhawuleza kwaye akuyi kuqonda ukuba kutheni isimo sengqondo sitshintshile.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho imeko xa abazali befuna ukuba abantwana babo bafunde, badlale imidlalo kwaye baphuhlise. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba bafuna abantwana babo. Ngenxa yoko, abazali bazisombulula iingxaki zabo esikolweni, bahlambulule kwigumbi okanye batyhuse umntwana kunye nayiphi na intsikelelo, ukuze enze yena ngokwakhe. Zombini iindlela zikhokelela ekubeni imeko iqhubekile.
Olunye uhlobo oluthile lokuphuhliswa kweziganeko ngumlimi oqapheleyo womntwana omncinci. Abantwana abanjalo banokunyamekela kwaye akukho nto iyenzeka kubo ukuba babonise iimpawu ezifanayo malunga nezihlobo zabo. Kubantwana abanjalo, kwimeko apho kuyimfuneko ukulungisa isigqibo, ayivuki. Isiphumo sinobungozi kakhulu: umntwana akangasetyenziselwa ukunakekelwa rhoqo kumntu wakhe, kodwa akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwengqalelo.
Ukuqulunqa
Ngoko, iimeko zinokuba zihluke kakhulu, kodwa zonke zibuyela kumntwana. Ngoko ukugubungela imivumba yee- whims okanye iimfuno ezigqithisileyo azifanelekanga. Udinga ukugxeka abazali, kodwa nangomntwana kunye nabantwana abadala kakhulu kufuneka basebenze. Kulokho, njengokuba kukho ukubonisa, kuyimfuneko ukuchitha ixesha elingaphezulu kwesigxina, kunokuba sichithwe ukulungiselela i-egoism.
- Kancinci, kodwa ngokuzithemba uzisuse zonke izinto kunye noxanduva olwenziwa ngumntwana wakho. Umzekelo, abantwana abaneminyaka engama-4 bayakwazi ukucoceka kwigumbi labo kwaye banxibe ezininzi iimpahla. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kususa ngokuthe ngcembe konke okuthintela abantwana ekukhuleni.
- Kancinci uqalise imisebenzi emitsha ekhaya . Ukuba uqala ukugxininisa ukuzimela komntwana wakho kwaye umphathe ngokufanelekileyo, uya kuqala ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Thembela amacala ambalwa ambalwa uze ubacele ukuba bawaphelise. Njengomvuzo, mdumise umntwana kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, yenzeni kunye nendlu.
- Nika umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze ngaphesheya kobugovu kwangoko. Oomama abaninzi bakhononda ukuba ngaphandle kokunyamekela kwabo umntwana akakwazi ngisho ukuya esikolweni. Enyanisweni, uyaqonda kakuhle ukuba awukwazi ukulala, ungaqokeleli iincwadi zezifundo. Kodwa emva koko konke kunokukwenza kunye nomama. Zama ukuthatha ubuncinane kanye, kwaye ungayenzeli ngomntwana wakho wonke umsebenzi wakhe. Mvumele ukuba abhekane nobunzima kunye neengxaki.
- Emva komhla wesikolo okanye i-kindergarten, qi niseka ukuba unomdla kungekuphela kwendlela umntwana wakho achitha ngayo imini. Mbuze malunga nemicimbi yabahlobo. Ukuba uyonwabile ngokwenene okanye ixhalaba, ke akuyi kuba neengxaki kwaye umntwana uya kukhula ngokuzingca.