Uyamangaliswa: wakho umntwana othobelayo, othulileyo kunye nozolile ngokukhawuleza waba mnandi. Kungekudala okanye ngamnye umzali ubhekane nale ngxaki. Kodwa zonke izizathu nezizathu zayo.
Abantwana babo abaneliseko kunye nabanqabileyo baqala ukubonakalisa beselula. Inyaniso kukuba xa uneminyaka eli-1 ukuya kweyesi-5 abantwana bafumana into ebizwa ngokuthi "ukuhlengahlengiswa", kwikhosi apho bafunda khona izinto ezininzi, baqonde abantu abadala kwaye banamava omoya ngakumbi. Kanye nje ngeli xesha umntwana uqala ukubonakalisa i-whims, ngelixa kungekho nto yokukholisa kunye nezohlwayo akunakunceda ukunceda umntwana. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba imizwa yabantwana yindlela ekhethekileyo yokutsala ingqalelo kubo, ukuze bafezekise. Ingane inokukhala, imemeza, ifake isitampu, iphose izinto, kwaye ukuba iyakwenza into ayifunayo, iya kubhenela kule ndlela ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuphendula kwi-vagaries yomntwana, okokuqala kuyimfuneko ukufumana isizathu sokubonakalisa kwabo.
Kutheni umntwana ebuhlungu?
Imvelaphi yale mpawu iqhelekile kakhulu, kodwa abazali abanakukwazi ukubeka isigqibo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngoko ke, izizathu zokuba umntwana uhlale engahlambulukanga, unoku:
- izifo ezahlukahlukeneyo;
- ukukhathala okanye ukungabikho kokulala;
- ukoma ukufikelela into enqwenelekayo;
- imfuno yokuqwalasela abanye.
Umntwana osisigxina - wenzeni?
- Ukuba umntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza waba mnandi - bukela impilo yakhe. Mhlawumbi into ephazamisayo: iqondo lokushisa liphakama, isisu sakho sibuhlungu okanye ukukhwehlela, impumlo ehambayo.
- Zama ukuqonda oko umntwana ofuna ukufezekisa. Emva kokuqonda, mchazele ukuba kuya kuchaneka ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngamazwi kungekhona ngeemvakalelo.
- Kubalulekile ukuba wonke umntu kwintsapho alondoloze isikhundla esifanayo. Yaye ukuba ngaba uyise okanye umama sele esenqatshile into ethile kumntwana, ke makungenakwenzeka "ekupheleni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba neemeko kunye neemeko. Ewe, kwimeko xa uvumele into ethile, unyamezele yonke imiphumo ekupheleni.
- Xa isiqhwithi semizwa iyancipha, khuluma nomntwana ngokuzithelayo nangothando. Ndixelele indlela ocaphukisayo ngayo ukuziphatha kwakhe kwaye uthembele ukuba uya kuziphatha ngendlela ezayo.
Indlela yokujongana ne-vagaries yomntwana?
Iintsana zebantwana zinokumiswa. Kwimeko apho umntwana eqala ukuba engenangqiqo, hlala uxolo. Mhlawumbi, isizathu sokubonakaliswa kwabo kubangelwa ukungabikho kwemifanekiso, ngoko-ke emini bazama ukuyitshintsha kwisifundo esinye ukuya kwesinye. Nika umntwana wakho ixesha elaneleyo, wamanga uze umgxeke, uhambe naye esitrato uze udlale ekhaya. Ungashiyi umntwana wedwa ixesha elide xa iTV ihamba, njengoko oku kungabangela ukwanda komntwana. Kwaye, ke ke, ungayesabi umntwana ngokujeziswa. Tune kwizinto ezintle kwaye ukholelwe ukuba umntwana ulungile!